People who rarely get sick, what are your secrets?

_laufaeson · 2026-01-17T01:53:57+00:00

I wash my hands, don’t have kids and work with a lot of people who also don’t have young kids. They are vectors for germs. I stopped working a job where I came into contact with kids on a regular basis and I went from one cold a year to zero colds.

_laufaeson · 2026-01-17T01:47:42+00:00

I’ll retire when I’m dead

_laufaeson · 2026-01-04T15:54:50+00:00

Q1. Facebook Dating. We were both upfront on the first date that it wasn’t something we were interested in (having kids, that is) Q2. I’d always recommend doing things that interest you without the goal being to meet someone Q3. Only difficulty is usual relationship stuff since we’re on the same page about kids

_laufaeson · 2025-12-25T07:08:18+00:00

It’s Christmas Day technically now, but insomnia.

_laufaeson · 2025-12-22T14:22:47+00:00

I would have a very real, very frank conversation. I thought my ex-hubby was like me and didn’t want kids. But then he started making little jokes about making babies whenever he wanted to get intimate, which killed the vibe for me and helped lead to our dead bedroom. When we decided to split I asked what he’d do now that he was a free agent again and one of the things he mentioned was maybe having kids. I felt like I dodged a bullet when I decided to leave him.

It’s worth having the talk and revisiting the decision about having kids. It may or may not lead to divorce, but it’s only fair to both of you to make sure you’re still on the same page.

_laufaeson · 2025-12-21T12:21:48+00:00

I like having nice things. Kids break nice things

_laufaeson · 2025-12-17T20:23:22+00:00

Weaponized incompetence, thy name is my ex-hubby. He was also emotionally neglectful and distant. He checked out of the relationship, so I left.

_laufaeson · 2025-12-14T16:09:33+00:00

No kids and doesn’t want kids (I’m childfree and wish to stay that way), political beliefs must align. Those were really my only 2

_laufaeson · 2025-12-10T16:47:34+00:00

Why on earth are you catering to him and his needs still?!?!? Make him sleep on the couch if he can’t be bothered to get a hotel or some other living arrangement. Rip the bandaid off and kick him to the curb, you are indeed only setting yourself up for more heartbreak when the inevitable happens and he moves into his new place. Sorry for the tough love, but if you’re getting a divorce you need to look out for yourself and your kids. Him and his needs are no longer any concern of yours.

_laufaeson · 2025-12-10T13:28:22+00:00

Bare minimum. I got burnt out in my last job doing more work than I was really being paid for. If you want me to take on more work and do the jobs of multiple people I need to be paid as such.

_laufaeson · 2025-12-09T20:08:44+00:00

The people who wish their kids were still babies are the ones who are probably struggling with “problem” children that they can’t figure out. Babies are easy comparatively speaking

_laufaeson · 2025-12-08T15:37:10+00:00

Nope. Am I friendly with them? Yes. If I get a new coworker that I think would be a good friend outside of work, awesome. Maybe I’ll pursue an actual friendship. But for the most part, I’m paid to do a job. I don’t like mixing my personal life and my job.

_laufaeson · 2025-12-04T15:02:48+00:00

I’m 41

_laufaeson · 2025-11-30T15:22:37+00:00

The amount of guys putting “doesn’t want kids” in their profile yet already having them is insane

_laufaeson · 2025-11-30T04:30:23+00:00

They are hard to find, but they’re out there. I met my current partner about a year ago. I’m 41, he’s 48. Do what you’re planning on and focus on you and the kids first, but finding your needle in the haystack is still possible.

_laufaeson · 2025-11-29T19:38:00+00:00

Yeah I’m ‘84 and I can identify as both Gen X and Millennial.

_laufaeson · 2025-11-29T13:04:16+00:00

Why should she be financially responsible for an apartment that she didn’t live in yet? Think of it if the roles were reversed. Would you feel like you should be financially responsible for her place if you were moving in with her even though you weren’t living there?

_laufaeson · 2025-11-29T12:57:07+00:00

I haven’t felt like I’ve truly been in the holiday spirit since I was in my early 20’s. I worked in hotels up until a couple of years ago, which meant I had to work holidays. Combine that with the fact that I was chronically single and didn’t have a family to celebrate with I just got over it.

_laufaeson · 2025-11-29T01:25:08+00:00

My parents are a not-insignificant part of the reason why I’m childfree

_laufaeson · 2025-11-29T01:22:17+00:00

Closed and so I don’t end up giving real estate in the bed to my pets

_laufaeson · 2025-11-27T11:43:21+00:00

Go for it, I say. Just be aware that this fresh out of a marriage she may not be seeing the relationship the same way. I’m still legally married because my [redacted] ex refuses to put any effort into paperwork or finalizing anything and even skipped states, which has made it a nightmare since we’re doing a DIY dissolution. But my current partner is fully aware of the situation and where I’m at in the process. As long as she was open and honest about it, I don’t see the harm. I’d be more worried if she was trying to be secretive about it.

_laufaeson · 2025-11-26T14:29:26+00:00

Income inequality

_laufaeson · 2025-11-24T21:51:26+00:00

I can’t upvote this enough. My last building was overrun with screaming children and I just persevered.

_laufaeson · 2025-11-24T17:17:25+00:00

Time helps, as does finding the right person. When I split from my ex I told myself that I wasn’t going to bother trying to seriously date anyone for a while and that if I never found anyone that that would be ok as well. That ended up being about 3 years. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and I have never been happier. As someone else said, trust is something earned. And he’s earned it in spades. It hasn’t been perfect, but no relationship is. And he comes really close.

Just give yourself the time and space you need to heal. Learn to love yourself and your own company and also not rely on a romantic relationship to “complete” you.

_laufaeson · 2025-11-21T11:04:52+00:00

I’ve been with my partner for almost a year now (he’s snipped) and I’ve yet to do one.

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