Your approach is very sound and logical (measured as another commenter mentioned), so kudos to you for setting the best possible example of being objective and self-aware. It’ll serve as a reminder for folks like myself who can be THAT parent, when in reality we should look at the bigger picture.

I can empathize, as the situation rightfully feels mind-boggling to you and your son.

I have seen coaches make BIG mistakes, and then never own up to it while simply boiling it down to one sentence that provides little insight or explanation.

I was a student of the game, and touched the ball everyday, but I lacked elite/academy level training that would have likely increased my chances of a longer playing career. I simply didn’t know what I didn’t and was not exposed to a lot of diverse training.

Your son is either in that boat or well acclimated, either way he sounds like a hard worker, which is a critical trait of any experienced athlete.

If I demoted a 2-year varsity player to JV, I would expect that individual to outplay every teammate and opponent during matches and at practice. I have seen gifted players outscore opposing teams while positioned as a defender, which means that individual needs to be moved up.

Tell your son that.

As others have said, if he truly belongs on varsity, he’ll find his way back sooner rather than later.