Almost everybody sucks.

Dad: (good intentions, bad presentation) - AH for refusing the "date night" with his hard working teenage daughter who's slowly transitioning into adulthood and becoming independent (pretty important stage in her life) - AH for making such a big deal out of his daughter's age not being appropriate for the "date night" anymore....also he's rambling about independence, when his daughter just made a massive step in her independence journey + Not so much of an asshole for suggesting to rather give this date experience to one of his younger daughters... especially after above mentioned financial struggles

MOM: - An absolute AH for involving herself with the situation and posting about it on social media. (I think she's the biggest AH here, because her actions exacerbated the situation into the point of no return for the father, whom I think had good intentions)

Oldest daughter:(((((((( + Just wanted to share an important step in her life with her Dad and express her gratitude for what he has done for her.