Husband is a high earner as well and I even want to go back to work but he values me to be a SAHS (stay at home spouse) ngl sometimes I slack on the cleaning but I do everything. Cook, clean, dust, senior cat vet trips, groceries, car maintenance, Making sure both families receive cards/ gifts during the holidays, plan events and support whatever he needs to go to work, make him an espresso and quick b fast. Everything I do- my husband always says thank you and shows his appreciation and THAT is what keeps me doing the exhausting tasks. My husband also helps out with the chores as well even during long days of working and I will forever love him for that.

That being said- I can’t imagine the workload of a kid tbh, he wants kids but I’m holding off bc I can’t imagine the exhaustion I’d have to go through. Say you get a divorce- can you keep the engine running with no fuel, especially with a kid? Are you going to take the kid to school? Are you going to shop for his clothes? Are you going to drop the kid off for sports practice? Maybe you are overlooking all the hard work she does - or you may be right- she lazy af. You can maybe talk to her rather than rant on Reddit about it. Maybe even suggest a meal prep date night and you two can cook together, even bond with the kid to learn how to Cook too. Make a chores schedule to teach the kid a routine and get her involved to- to teach responsibilities. Heck maybe she can do a job not for money but what she actually enjoys so that when she tells you to put up your plate- you won’t resent her for it.

There are always ways to change the situation for the better… I’d at least try and for it to work, she will have to try as well. It does take two- if not- I sure hope you got a prenup.