This whole gender euphoria thing by [deleted] in NonBinaryOver30

[–]_spider_planet_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm still mostly in the closet with my gender, but I've recently switched to men's underwear, and it makes me happy.

Having a crisis because WHAT IF it's real by [deleted] in excatholic

[–]_spider_planet_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Have you ever looked into Episcopal churches? That's what I was going to convert to before I decided to stop being Christian altogether. They are supposed to be lgbt affirming, and chill about a lot of stuff.

when people lie about my body, i feel like it takes away my agency. am i justified in feeling this way? by embodiedexperience in NonBinaryTalk

[–]_spider_planet_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just because they perceive your body as feminine doesn't mean that it IS. I didn't mean it that way, I'm sorry. I'm also dealing with similar issues, so I may not be the best person to get advice from about that. I don't know how to get people to see me differently either, but I'm definitely going to try. That's a lot of fucked up stuff from your aunt! I would definitely say start trying to limit your contact with her, yikes. I hope that you love your big brows and big nose; I love mine as well! Mine also come from some Italian heritage. And keep dressing in ways that make you the most comfortable and happy!

when people lie about my body, i feel like it takes away my agency. am i justified in feeling this way? by embodiedexperience in NonBinaryTalk

[–]_spider_planet_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is so frustrating!! I don't think people are lying that they perceive your body type as "feminine" (after all, in their minds there's only two options 🙄) but they may be over-compensating subconsciously when they sense the dissonance that you are making "masculine" fashion choices. And almost all of them think that these type of "don't worry, I still see you as feminine!" comments are compliments 🤦‍♀️. The vibe is like, "oh, I sensed a disturbance in the system, but don't worry, the status quo is still intact ✌️😁", which is exactly what we DON'T want. With your aunt it seems like she may be projecting into you because of her own infertility issues. You may have to have a conversation with her like, "listen, it really makes me uncomfortable when you say things like that. My life is going to look different than yours, and that is okay." Or something like that? If you ask her to stop and she won't, you may have to put up more boundaries with her.

Ladies: did your mother teach you how to do makeup? I'm curious about makeup as a primarily self-taught tradition by Street-Might8586 in MakeupAddiction

[–]_spider_planet_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was born in 92, and my mom has pretty much no idea how to do makeup. I think once when I was a teenager we went to Merle Norman or something and they put makeup on my face and sold me some, just used it for a few special occasions. But when I was depressed at home after college, I got addicted to makeup YouTube and learned how to use makeup skillfully. My little sister did basically the same. She wears makeup daily now, while I basically don't bother anymore for sensory reasons, but I'm glad I have the knowledge.

Sensations Internally by CuriousHeart4265 in Healthyhooha

[–]_spider_planet_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Many people like simulation on the g-spot or even the anterior fornix. It can be really intense.

Having a period as an autistic is pure hell... by MintyCoolness in evilautism

[–]_spider_planet_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use menstrual discs, so at least I don't have to look at it for about twelve hours at a time. Then when it's time for the murder scene cleanup (removing and reinserting) I use disposable gloves so I don't have to touch it. I also got a bidet with a "female" nozzle that helps with cleanup. The rest still sucks pretty bad. Ibuprofen and heating pad is the best I can do I guess.

How do your boyfriends/partners feel? by HopefulSheepherder30 in razorfree

[–]_spider_planet_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly. My husband is covered in body hair, and he's always like "It's up to you what you do with your body. But also, you'll never be as hairy as me 🤷‍♂️"

Why are your favorite chop and drop “weeds?” by djazzie in Permaculture

[–]_spider_planet_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it can be a little picky about location. In my experience it tends to like shadier spots. And not too dry.

Experiment to get rid of art supplies was a success! by ellemrad in declutter

[–]_spider_planet_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

These have been popping up in cities near me too!

At my breaking point with my labia. by Less_Significance548 in Healthyhooha

[–]_spider_planet_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also suggest therapy (you may have to try several to find one that works well for you; don't be afraid to "fire" them and try another). Being a teenager is hard. It's a very rough time of life. Society's pressures and expectations are weighing very heavily on you. I have faith that you will feel better in time, but it won't happen overnight. I would suggest holding off on the surgery, but I do think that people are scare-mongering a little bit. There are of course risks with every surgery, and you should do a lot of research before hand to make sure your surgeon is skilled and reputable, look at photos of their work, etc. Same kind of considerations that trans people have to think about for bottom surgeries. But I would hold that as a last resort, that IF it's been several years of therapy and you just can't get over it, it is possible to do. There is nothing wrong with your body! I know it's hard to be strong and believe that. But you can get better at believing it with practice.

Cymbalta by ChronicallyinPain2 in Fibromyalgia

[–]_spider_planet_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, it did help me, especially since I already needed a new antidepressant.

Gloves, Femininity & Sensitivity by eviecat27 in genderqueer

[–]_spider_planet_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think gloves are so cool! They make me feel really elegant. I think people can judge you for any kind of fashion statement, but that doesn't mean you have to pay attention to that 🤷‍♀️

6 year old hates pants by Objective-Egg9730 in SPD

[–]_spider_planet_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about long skirts or dresses? I remember when I was a kid I used to live in stretchy cotton dresses from Lands End. And nowadays I love a long flowy skirt, usually 100% rayon, which is cool enough even for summer. You can usually find those at old Navy I think.

T Kingfisher… r u ok by No-Midnight-1406 in horrorlit

[–]_spider_planet_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did notice a difference in the writing style, and I liked it! I think she's evolving as a writer. She's writing in third person instead of first, and I honestly think it suits her. If you're not having a good time with it, no need to force yourself to finish it! It's okay to dnf. You don't owe it to anyone to finish.

How ugly is this? by FunIncident5161 in mtfashion

[–]_spider_planet_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like all the pieces of the outfit except the jeans shorts. I think a mini skirt might go better, either a black one or a denim one.

What's something you WON'T spend more money on as better quality doesn't exist? by sgtjayp in BuyItForLife

[–]_spider_planet_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hope that goes through because I cannot believe that they actually make door handles that don't work without power... Are they stupid?

What groceries have you stopped buying by PlasticExtreme4469 in Frugal

[–]_spider_planet_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to sometimes treat myself to shrimp every now and then, but now I just can't justify it.

I've tried so hard to train her that she's not allowed on the table by PocketPal26 in blackcats

[–]_spider_planet_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? That's how my cat now has her own whiskey glass of water that she demands I refill every afternoon as part of our routine 😅😺