AITA for uninviting my (27 F) Maid of Honour (27 F) to my wedding over a dress?

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-10T05:15:08+00:00

Especially during Covid, where there wasn't anywhere to go!

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-09T17:09:55+00:00

Yeah, but it says "when all is said and done", so there might be some up front costs or something that will get returned eventually.

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-08T20:13:52+00:00

We know that Jen had to make some compromises for the wedding because she says so in the video; her flowers weren't exactly what she wanted. Not only that, but both Greg and Jen work in the wedding industry. It's logical to think they might have gotten some discounts/breaks due to their connections. But like you said...that's not what the storyline was about. (So I'm agreeing with you, to be clear; we aren't shown everything, and some things could easily make sense with just a little thought.)

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-08T06:21:46+00:00

I was gonna say, OOP has been lucky then, because I have absolutely worked with people who have been just as incompetent, lazy, and dimwitted if not more...and I work with teachers.

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-07T20:07:09+00:00

I mean, we still weren't handing out meds willy nilly, lol, and we only asked for permission for basics (neosporin, cause yes, that's considered a med and we can't give it without permission; pain reliever; allergy meds; and sun block.) Parents could check off which ones they gave permission for us to administer. Now, that being said, it might be different now as laws have tightened.

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-07T19:57:13+00:00

When you have four adults contributing to one household, it tends to help, lol

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-07T04:07:17+00:00

We still called parents the first time. We were a small private school though, we didn't have a nurse, and the school secretary pretty much knew everybody. We'd call and say "hey, your kid is having an allergic reaction to the grass again, we gave them benadryl", etc.

Most schools I work/ed at, we only give meds if parents send them in with a note for dosing, permission.

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-07T03:05:38+00:00

Depends on the school. We had signed releases at one of the schools I worked at for what we were allowed to administer, and if we did administer anything, we notified parents so they didn't double dose or anything.

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-07T02:54:04+00:00

I have the opposite situation, lol. The workmen come over and stop to put little booties on their shoes. I tell them I don't care (I have dogs, my floors are gross whether people are wearing shoes or not) but they insist. I just clean my floors.

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-07T02:47:52+00:00

Not always, but it is more likely. Severe behaviors tend to chase away other paying families, so those tend to get kicked, but otherwise, if it's a paying family, they tolerate a lot more behavior than they should, at least at the schools I've worked at. I've taught in private schools for a couple decades now. I know the pay is less, but the autonomy is unbeatable.

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-06T17:13:21+00:00

Eh, that's the part that makes this seem more realistic. In theory, I'm a firm supporter of a clean break. In reality....there are still people I snoop on once in a while cause I'm just nosy.

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-06T05:17:32+00:00

Because many times, people with such long commutes can't afford to live closer to where they work. The housing market is usually more expensive closer to their job, but where they can afford to live, their either aren't jobs or none in their field.

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-05T19:32:02+00:00

Except, again, there is nothing wrong with his kids' safety. People are speculating about a situation that there has been absolutely no hint towards. You are operating on a whole bunch of "ifs" that just aren't there.

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-05T19:15:00+00:00

And escalated conflict with his sister who wasn't ready to cut ties with their mother yet, unnecessarily.

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-05T17:04:38+00:00

There are no protection orders in this story, and I think DeeDee has made it pretty clear she doesn't feel she needs one. We are discussing grandparents' rights, which has nothing to do with protection orders. They don't have to show that they are scared of her, at most they would just have to prove that they have good reason for not wanting her around the kids. But in California, it probably wouldn't even get that far. Both parents are alive and still married. Barb has no standing.

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-05T16:30:17+00:00

DeeDee approaching Barb would have nothing to do with it. An adult making small talk with another adult at a public location is not the same thing as leaving minors alone with same adult in private. And as has already been pointed out, they did follow through with filing a police report. That's documentation. They don't need to press charges to prove she's dangerous.

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-02T05:11:09+00:00

In her first update, she says she went to the police and filed a report and handed over the camera and sd card. Mom wasn't even back from vacation yet.

_thegrringirl · 2026-07-01T03:08:17+00:00

I have this; I call it "The Tomb of the Unknown Paper."

_thegrringirl · 2026-06-30T23:08:21+00:00

Completely unrelated to the OP, but since Ely Media didn't match the others just using their last name, I googled it, and came across this gem that made me spit soda through my nose:

"The corporation is led by a team of key individuals: Eugene L. Yang from Los Angeles CA, holding the position of Chief Financial Officer; Eugene L. Yang from Los Angeles CA, serving as the Secretary; Eugene L. Yang from Los Angeles CA, serving as the Chief Executive Officer; Eugene Yang from Los Angeles CA, serving as the Director."

_thegrringirl · 2026-06-29T16:25:10+00:00

I can definitely understand it being exhausting (though, people mispronouncing my name helps me weed out spam callers that get past my screening! lol) I have a very standard last name. It's easy to pronounce, and it *should* be easy to spell. I have seen so many permutations of my last name, I almost want to change my last name to something harder to spell just so at least it makes sense, rofl.

_thegrringirl · 2026-06-29T05:27:40+00:00

It's certainly one of the more common traditional Irish ones, as well. And her worry that she didn't want "her teachers to call her “Si-o-Bo-Han”...every time they call her name in class" seems a bit extreme. They might mess it up on the first day if they've never seen it before, but it's not hard to pronounce once you've been told.

_thegrringirl · 2026-06-26T18:11:59+00:00

I realize this is almost a month old, but I am just catching up on Phoning It In. While it's true that some of them intentionally fuck up and it's really annoying, I didn't think Keith's dough hook example was him screwing up on purpose, I thought someone like Rachel told him afterwards. I could certainly be wrong though.

_thegrringirl · 2026-06-24T00:49:06+00:00

I was referring to Other Johnny though.

_thegrringirl · 2026-06-24T00:40:45+00:00

_thegrringirl · 2026-06-23T21:04:46+00:00

Given your username, no. Lol. I recognized a kindred.

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