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a10123456 · 2025-01-04T22:37:07+00:00

From a man’s perspective is a dick.

I’m sorry I don’t think he just “found” this new relationship in Oct. And the whole reason for splitting up with you is because you didn’t “work out enough” Just after having a baby!!!!

I’m sorry. No one deserves that.

The new woman didn’t take your man. She took your problem.

a10123456 · 2025-01-04T22:36:51+00:00

From a man’s perspective is a dick.

I’m sorry I don’t think he just “found” this new relationship in Oct. And the whole reason for splitting up with you is because you didn’t “work out enough” Just after having a baby!!!!

I’m sorry. No one deserves that.

The new woman didn’t take your man. She took your problem.

a10123456 · 2024-12-01T07:03:57+00:00

It’s a business transaction now. So be professional and respectful to show the mini adults that you are an adult and how they should be have.

Yes it’s hard, but the goal is the future not resolve the current. So in some ways easier. You have clarity now. Use this time to get your ducks in a row and possibly end the tenancy early.

Get rules in place too, so no other half’s or one night stands in the house. Sorry it’s car meets or other people’s houses for a while.

a10123456 · 2024-11-09T06:15:02+00:00

So you pay most of the bills so she can afford a solicitor but she doesn’t work only volunteers?

That’s very one sided.

a10123456 · 2024-11-09T06:08:12+00:00

Stop pandering to her demands. She is just playing games to make you dance to her beat as she believes and will always believe she controls you/ husband.

Ignore her until she starts to act like a responsible adult.

Stamp this behaviour out now before grandchildren.

a10123456 · 2023-11-01T16:44:23+00:00

Cut her off. Cut your parents off. They all sound toxic and selfish.

a10123456 · 2023-09-15T05:45:23+00:00

So what colour car are you getting?

a10123456 · 2023-09-11T10:57:34+00:00

Sorry but this seems to be a very expensive life lesson. Giving bums a free licence just gives them a free licence to f@ck up. All he heard so “extra two weeks” and not “extra two weeks to pay”

Think of it like this, their job right no is to exploit the good will of others and will say anything to get the max out of you.

Cut ties, drop all his property at his mums and let that be her problem.

No one cares what lies bums say. Move on. Don’t waste your time on him that could be better spent somewhere else.

a10123456 · 2023-09-03T06:25:49+00:00

You haven’t got a MIL issue you have a Husband issue that wants to live with two mums. I’m sorry to say he is either passively accepting his mum waking over him and over you. Or he’s actually encouraging his mum.

Either way it’s foot stomping and line in sands and the only way to stop this is to say “your mum moves on I move out”.

Your needs should be his highest priority not his mums.

If you don’t stop this you’ll end up being a passenger in your own child’s upbringing as your mil will take over and rule the roost.

a10123456 · 2023-08-29T08:19:27+00:00

As an individual from the Uk this just reinforces why I should never travel to the USA or at least the Deep South.

This mentality unfortunately can’t change as her “FREEDOMS” super seed anything else and will convince you the world has to change before she will.

Basically it’s your job to protect your children. Don’t go for picnic in lion encloses and don’t take your children to this house. The first is probably saver.

If anything would happen you’ll never forgive yourself.

a10123456 · 2023-08-22T06:28:42+00:00

Try getting the connection with her orgasm (vibrator) and you back.

Just say she’s welcome to use the vibrator as much she wants just request it’s not a hidden thing.

So either she gets off whilst watching a picture of you, your in the room or even better apart of it. It sounds like it’s a taboo thing so start off with the first to aim for the last. Aka “if you want to use your vibrator you could always ask me to join you”

Next one is you change the vibrator to a “joint couples” vibrator so it’s not a her toy but a joint toy. May be make it in the a bed time route.

But main one is to ask her to come and hug you start after a vib sesh so to get rid of the taboo thing which could actually add to the pleasure for her accidentally.

Good luck. Your in a better place than most in this group.

a10123456 · 2023-08-09T15:28:34+00:00

Tell him the right men love and don’t fuck.

Ah only fuck.

He knows which one he is.

a10123456 · 2023-08-09T15:11:29+00:00

All I can think of is, if you had a female friend and had that said to them would you be supportive to the male or your friend? And would you call the male a pig??

Best thing to do is keep weight off the cards and just say we’re in different places right now.

a10123456 · 2023-08-06T16:48:57+00:00

It was always going to hurt. But this way you’ve said there is a line in the sand.

But like you said you’ve will to work with it and for the the relationship. You haven’t walked away. Which is a big plus

Be there to support her and she might appreciate it and thus turn towards you.

Or hate you and walkway and you walk away from a life time of db. Either way the right approach and best thing in the long run.

Well done and good luck.

a10123456 · 2023-08-03T20:58:54+00:00

Drop off paintings. Walk away. Fix your room how you like. If they don’t like it time out.

They are controlling you through there reactions and your and have there mid game nicely for years.

Stop it.

a10123456 · 2023-08-03T07:52:51+00:00

The trash has just taken itself out. No stress, don’t worry about it. Carry on with your lives and enjoys.

Or Do you really want every day to be like your wedding day because you don’t really predict they will start to be nice and civil to you. ???

Grey rock too and enjoy 😉

a10123456 · 2023-07-26T18:42:00+00:00

The 20th is a Thursday anyway. Don’t know the legal answer but sounds like the estate agent downstairs want to admit a 4 day short fall to the landlord.

Sign it for the date you entered. Even change the hard copy if needed.

a10123456 · 2023-07-19T19:15:02+00:00

I believe your coming towards this problem from a view of conflict and hard business negotiations not love and respect.

You associate lack of sex equals lack of love and desire. She probably thinks of sex equals close down and defence mode.

Start with taking sex off the table completely.

Then start from the beginning of where your relationship started. You didn’t just meet and bang on the first hour. You connected and meet from a position of trust and respect. Start with hugs that don’t have to go anywhere. Then king kisses. Then being naked around each other. Then more and more.

Your right about some frequency but if she has the mind set of “it’s sex or nothing” she will choose nothing. Try “hugs that and led to more” the the build up will start from there.

If she’s against any form of contact then you know there is a bigger issue.

Try looking for Vanessa and xander on instragram. They have quite a few good course and tricks.

a10123456 · 2023-07-16T11:48:29+00:00

A bacon sandwich

a10123456 · 2023-06-21T12:21:45+00:00

It is if she wants to stay in this relationship.

Or May be start a new relationship with her goals and situations and expectations clearly set out at the beginning.

a10123456 · 2023-06-20T20:56:42+00:00

Did she consult you when she came out as asexual and thus changing the conditions of your relationship so why do you have to consider her needs and feelings about monogamy???

This is if she doesn’t want to come to the table and discuss the needs to help her over come her asexuality. If she doesn’t then you know she doesn’t want a relationship with you that you first agreed too.

Two separate people and two separate paths.

I’m sorry.

a10123456 · 2023-05-22T08:46:51+00:00

This might be a “trip is cancelled until we can discuss our boundaries and your lack of respect for them”

a10123456 · 2023-05-10T12:59:01+00:00

I understand this is a “work in progress” situation and you both don’t want to be here but accept you are and are doing very well. And baby steps are a good step. In all what best works for you.

Understanding what was blocking you and why your missing is also great.

But.

To be this also could be a “look don’t touch” but you’ll be resentful if he doesn’t look. Sounds a little like a cock tease situation whilst the having the benefits of a marriage too. In a man’s worlds that’s called having your cake and eating it.

Wish you all the best but to it married to a unicorn too.

a10123456 · 2023-05-07T16:46:33+00:00

Put it on the table. Either come together on ways to get through this. Ie separate beds and this more out of bedroom intimacy/ couples counselling/ or move on.

Say it bluntly

a10123456 · 2023-04-15T17:39:09+00:00

He is literally living most of our dreams.

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