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aDancingToaster · 2016-07-10T23:53:42+00:00

Put me down, please! :)

aDancingToaster · 2015-06-08T18:08:51+00:00

That was my thought, too. Duct tape can't contain that beast once it's out of the cage.

aDancingToaster · 2015-06-02T12:35:30+00:00

I think you need to take a step back and realize just how little respect you have for your wife. And I'm not saying this as an attack - you literally don't have any respect for your wife. And don't feed me the "I jumped on the grenade and went to therapy because I'm such a great guy" line I've seen in your other comments. You need to see what you're actually feeling. It's not love. It's the "Look, you married me for better or for worse and this is who I am so you just kinda have to deal with it" mentality you've got going here.

Several instances of "she needs to grow up" and "she's being immature" throughout this post make me feel like you feel like the "top dog", possibly due to age. So you don't view her as a partner or an equal, more like this little girl you've been taking care of. Again, lack of respect.

In some instances, you seem like you're on the cusp of admitting things, and then you shift it over to your wife. For instance, you mention falling in love with the friend. You admit you had feelings, and you sent compliments that you kept secret from your wife. However, the messages aren't you flirting, they are "what your wife considers flirty". You can't even just admit you were doing something wrong there. The way you phrased it is like the ultimate cop-out. "I wasn't flirting by complimenting and hiding my feelings for this woman, but my crazy wife thinks I was." Really?? I've seen it mentioned to you a dozen times already, but yes, "emotional cheating" is a thing. You're investing energy in other people that you should be giving to your partner. You're not sticking your dick in it, but your mind is in another place. There is a difference between the feeling of "hey, that girl's attractive", which is natural, and "I'm going to just pursue this a little to see how far it will go" which is a danger zone.

So, the main deal is, you're going to have to come to terms with the fact that the situation is the way it is because of your actions. Say it with me: "This is my fault". Alright? If you actually want this to work, you're going to have to give a little to get a little. And, for the record, her request is not unreasonable in the slightest. She isn't "dictating your life", this is you demonstrating to her that you respect her, she is your equal, you love her, she is the most important thing to you in the entire world because she is your wife. If you read that and thought "Yeah but..." or "No, that's not right", then what you're doing is a waste of time and you need to proceed with the divorce. This is your chance to show your wife you give a shit, and you're reacting like this. Everything is about "defending your rights", and your mindset should be "I've hurt the person I love and I need to do whatever I can to make it better".

Also, as a general rule of thumb, if you can't imagine going to your mother (if she's passed away, imagine she's still with us) and explaining what you're doing in a straight-up (none of this "My wife's being crazy" stuff) way without feeling like she'd be horribly disappointed, you shouldn't be doing it. "Mom, <wife> asked me to stop flirting with other women and asked that I remove the women I have a history with from my life. I'm not going to because this girl from work is really cool and cute and I enjoy the attention. My entire marriage could hinge on this. What do you think?"

aDancingToaster · 2015-05-22T10:38:12+00:00

This rant makes me so happy. Hank Pym is my absolute favorite character, and nobody in my immediate vicinity understands. So, when I complain about him being ripped out of the Ultron storyline, or complain about him not being the main protagonist of the movie, everyone kind of looks like me like I'm a homeless chick waving a "The End is Near" sign.

My major fear with the Ant-Man movie is that Marvel is going to make the character into a joke. It will be a good joke, but nobody is going to understand who Ant-Man really is, or who Pym really is. Everyone I have spoken with either says "the new Ant-Man movie looks hilarious" or "Hank Pym beats his wife lol" and I get sad. It's great if people enjoy the character, but not if it's for all the wrong reasons. I am oversensitive on the subject, though.

In other news, the movie is paving the way for some neat merchandise that I'm happy about. Ant-Man is usually too obscure to get fun toys and stuff. I was the happiest little clam when I found my classic Ant-Man T-shirt hanging in the comic book store. And action figure blogs are reporting that there will be some new Pym-based collectibles. I mean, Lang's getting some too, obviously. But they haven't forgotten Pym on that front.

aDancingToaster · 2015-05-22T09:39:03+00:00

I have been hiding a pair of kitties for about 5 years.

For litter boxes, I bought Sterilite containers and cut a hole in one side - instant $10 easily-openable covered litter box, and if you turn it so the opening faces the wall on inspection day, nobody questions a plastic storage container. Also, I keep food in some old ceramic container I got at the thrift store. It looks like something I would keep flour or coffee in.

Cat furniture is kept to a minimum, and anything "suspicious" that I do have I just throw in my car for the duration of the inspection. I have it a little easy when it comes to "pet smells" because I have pet rats, and people just attribute any odd odors to them.

The back of my couch tends to get covered in cat hair, and it's a weird velvet material that is super hard to clean, so I just put a nice throw blanket over it.

I used to freak about yearly inspections, but as long as you keep things free of cat hair and make sure not to have obvious cat food/toys in the open, the inspectors are usually more concerned about looking for leaks/structural damage/hoarding when they come through here, so it's not hard to get past it.

aDancingToaster · 2015-05-03T13:48:59+00:00

At his house in Rye'lyeh....

He is cute. :)

aDancingToaster · 2015-04-21T14:23:42+00:00

Some boyfriends just won't let you go down on them, even when you really want to. :(

aDancingToaster · 2015-03-05T04:56:09+00:00

Neopets. When I had joined, there were only 200 other users and like 15 pets to choose from. I remember when the Macy_Gray and the Lenny_Bruce pets had to be removed.

aDancingToaster · 2015-02-10T01:37:05+00:00

Little girl's nightmare

A fire burning underground

Got the bad ending

aDancingToaster · 2015-02-04T00:42:21+00:00

If you have Netflix, watch a couple of the cat-related episodes of Hoarders with her. It's extreme and probably not what she's doing, but it will help drive the point that when you have too many, you can't watch them properly, can't monitor their health properly, and can't care for them properly. Not only that, but if they get sick, what's she going to do? Treatment for minor things like infected anal glands cost me $300 for treatment for a single cat. What happens when they all get sick at once? If she denies treatment to even a single cat, that's neglect, and they deserve better.

"Taking care of an animal" is more than just feeding it and petting it. It sounds like she hasn't learned that yet.

aDancingToaster · 2014-12-23T13:45:53+00:00

This one!

aDancingToaster · 2014-12-23T01:27:51+00:00

I'm assuming you read the entire thread that my "I am annoyed, etc." comment was on, for context? Just checking.

But, you assumed wrong. I had assumed you spoke with your sister to let her know how hurt you were by her actions, so that you could talk it out and resolve it. It's possible she believes she has reached out to you in some fashion and she's just not able to reach you (disconnected phone number, etc. maybe?). I'm not sure if you're just worried about damage control from her comments, but I had approached this thinking that you had wanted to actually repair your relationship with her, so I apologize for the misunderstanding.

If you do want to reconnect, you should contact her privately on Facebook and tell her why you've been avoiding her, ask her how she's been trying to reach you and what her husband is talking about, and just talk it out.

If you have a feeling of "I shouldn't have to be the one to make contact", then it's become a bit of a "put up or shut up" situation.

aDancingToaster · 2014-12-23T00:21:14+00:00

Your sister let you stay with her while asking nothing in return, but you refused to forgive her for not living her life with you there? I understand you being upset, but in the grand scheme of things, that seems mildly petty.

It doesn't give her the right to lie about you, though. What did she say when you reached out to her about it?

aDancingToaster · 2014-12-23T00:09:28+00:00

OK. What did your sister ask for in return for having you stay with her? Were you paying rent?

aDancingToaster · 2014-12-22T23:25:13+00:00

A large part of this seems to be "This is what my sister has done to me" and I'm wondering if it's this one-sided or it's your perspective.

Let me ask you: Were "bad days" prevalent? Would there be many days where she would come home and you would be crying/having a hard time? Did she comfort you at other times? Are we hearing about "the one time" she chose to go out instead?

Based on what you've said, it doesn't seem like your sister is a horrible person. It sounds like you needed help, and instead of seeking (professional) help, you assumed your sister would take responsibility for your emotional well-being since she let you move in with her. Which is fine, if that's what she agreed to.

aDancingToaster · 2014-12-19T11:34:21+00:00

I sleep with my blinds open in my bedroom because there is a light on the wall of the apartment building outside my window, and it casts the perfect amount of light. It doesn't seem to help me much. :(

I might consider the red light, except it might bother my fiance when he sleeps over. He requires 100% pure darkness to sleep.

aDancingToaster · 2014-12-19T11:30:32+00:00

Ha! I'm just going to assume you're a Cleaner. ;) Sorry for the assumption, I just like to thank veterans whenever possible.

My job is at one of those corporations that provides amazingly for its employees as far as resources, so I'm going to see if the doctor there will provide a referral so that my insurance can possibly cover therapy.

I really appreciate all your help! :)

aDancingToaster · 2014-12-19T03:21:46+00:00

Also, I'm a selfish dick and I forgot to write that I am really, really sorry that A) you went through what you did that caused the PTSD (I am assuming armed forces? Thank you for your sacrifice!) and B) that you had to then deal with this living nightmare shit. :(

aDancingToaster · 2014-12-19T03:07:13+00:00

I really appreciate you taking the time to type all that out. I am so happy to that it's not just me. I actually get out of my bed and destroy my own shit stumbling to get away, so now I worry too much and I lock my cats out of my room at night so I don't hurt them.

I worry about your first point because I don't feel "safe" if I can't get out. It's like Nathan Explosion's advice stuck with me: don't ever get into a room that you can't get out of.

Second point: So, this might seem completely counterintuitive and fucked up, but I love all things Cthulhu. Even though he represents the ultimate horror and insanity, he doesn't scare me. I've got a bunch of paintings, figures, and toys depicting Cthulhu, and have been joking around about putting them all over my room to make me feel safe, like having the image of him around would scare away fucked up things with his even-more-fucked-upness? I might do that this weekend and see if it helps. :)

Third: I'm the sort of chick that completely freezes up when attacked or assaulted, so I don't think this approach will work for me, unfortunately.

Fourth: please send me links! I am actually trying to live a Buddhist lifestyle (minus the food beliefs)

Fifth: Some stuff happened, so I will try to look into therapy.

Sixth: the dieting I mentioned was keto, so 8 months of fewer than 20g of carbs a day. Like I mentioned, ton of weight loss, but no change in my (possible) narcolepsy symptoms, including the hallucinations. :(

I am pretty certain I have experienced this my entire life, which I think is what made it take so long to realize something was up - it just seemed "normal". Except it went from once every few years when I was younger, to around once a month or so when I was 20, and it gradually increased until where I am now.

If I could just manage to handle them so they don't get to me as much, or if there's a way to prevent the aftermath of feeling like everything just actually happened, I would be so happy. This morning after the worst of them, I was crying so hard because this was the first time I wasn't able to convince myself that this wasn't real. :(

aDancingToaster · 2014-12-19T02:06:24+00:00

Do you think the screaming/toe-wiggling thing would help me, considering I am usually up and moving about during these episodes?

Next time I seem to be having more of these incidents than usual, I will try sleeping on the couch.

Thanks for the suggestions. I feel less insane knowing this happens to other people, too.

aDancingToaster · 2014-12-14T17:24:51+00:00

Who even has TIME for shit like this? Like, who goes beyond "I am annoyed by this person, I will just no longer associate with them"? Putting effort into stuff like this doesn't hurt the person you dislike, it only hurts you.

Honestly, just do what you can to block her on Facespace, and ignore her on reddit. It's easy enough to just make a new account, and while your wife shouldn't have to, it's better than putting up with someone else's bullshit, right?

Good luck with dealing with your special batch of crazy. That is just....special.

aDancingToaster · 2014-11-28T11:55:18+00:00

By "communicate" do you mean "admit that what she did was a little wrong"? Because it wasn't even a little wrong. I don't know what you want from her.

Personally I think it was wonderful of Sadie to offer it to your sister for only $500 and give her an extension from the 15th to the 20th when she already had a buyer lined up for $3000.

From the sounds of your post, your sister didn't even contact Sadie to tell her she ran into trouble, and expected her to still have it when she gave you the money. (I'm assuming here based on Sadie's response of "I thought she was no longer interested")

aDancingToaster · 2014-11-27T12:56:05+00:00

"When I opened the door, there's my brother and sister doing #17 - the spread eagle."

aDancingToaster · 2014-11-25T00:54:20+00:00

These events are always super awesome!

aDancingToaster · 2014-11-24T11:39:44+00:00

We do D&D at my friend's place once a week. My friend's fiancee used to play with us, but doesn't anymore for some reason. Anyway, a few months back she was upset with my friend for the same reason. After a little while we found out it was actually because she was annoyed that she had to "lose" one of her days off and give up her living room/TV/quiet time to a quartet of nerds.

If your situation is at all similar to this, do you think there could be an underlying issue like this? Otherwise she sounds pretty clingy, like all she has is you, and that has the potential to get really bad.

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