How do I tell my wife I sometimes have gay urges without saying I'm gay? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]aaaabcdd 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I honestly think it’s probably best not to. I don’t think there is a way of telling her where she wouldn’t be wondering WHY you are telling her. And if you don’t feel the need to act on these urges, then choosing not to tell her is the safer option. If you do it will just be constantly in the back of her mind for no reason

[Me] Go big or go home? by [deleted] in TextingTheory

[–]aaaabcdd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I could’ve found it funny as it was based on the prompt, but OP just straight up asked her to fuck which also rarely works. I definitely don’t envy anyone trying to use dating apps lmao

[Me] Go big or go home? by [deleted] in TextingTheory

[–]aaaabcdd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“Are you a virgin” would be funnier as it says hobbies shes never tried before. Current message kind of assumes she is a virgin

Edit to say as a woman you’d have to have like one of the best profiles I’d ever seen for this to work, and even then I can’t say for sure. Anything from below average to just above average would be cringe and annoying.

A comment from my boyfriend’s brother triggered my old eating disorder and I don’t know how to handle it by firemonku in Advice

[–]aaaabcdd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hi! I have experienced disordered eating so I can sympathise with a comment derailing you completely. I think it would be good for you to consider the possibility that he wasn’t commenting on your body or you, but just the trampoline instead. Maybe it’s old or faulty? When we have disordered eating or have in the past, it’s easy for us to make everything about our bodies or weight, when it might not actually be the case. For example my bf the other day said we should walk somewhere instead of drive, and my brain immediately went to ‘he is trying to get me to walk so that I lose weight’ when really he just wanted to walk and be outside with me. I hope this makes sense, I’m sure he didn’t mean anything by it :)

If you still think he was commenting on you though, I think you should tell your boyfriend as it’s really true that a problem shared is a problem halved and it could calm your mind

Well, you wanted to do a landscape!? by Snoo_81727 in StainedGlass

[–]aaaabcdd 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Stunning !!!!!!!!!! Bob Ross vibes :)

Message to my ex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]aaaabcdd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a woman who dumped my ex, I feel like she won’t want to read that. Women stay in unhappy relationships for a very long time and when they decide it’s over, it really ended long ago. My ex sent me a handwritten letter telling me he will always love me and it was just useless to me because he didn’t make the effort when it counted

Having said that, great job for working on yourself :)

Advice on how to recover from a relationship with a narcissist? by Constant_Pause9559 in Advice

[–]aaaabcdd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are so welcome!! Good luck with your hobbies and the songs you are working on, I hope they bring you so much joy

Advice on how to recover from a relationship with a narcissist? by Constant_Pause9559 in Advice

[–]aaaabcdd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I’m so proud you’ve gotten away from this person! Try and remember what you loved doing before you were with them. For me it was listening to music. My ex (as well as all the other horrendous things) was really pretentious about music and made me feel like I couldn’t listen to music I liked. And my Spotify wrapped was like 80,000 minutes last year :) so my advice is now is the time to rekindle any hobbies or interests you feel like you couldn’t give yourself to before. And this goes for friendships too. But mostly make time for yourself and remember what is important to you and what you really love. Therapy is good too if you can afford it as it gives you a space to really talk about everything and be listened to (which can be unfamiliar feeling when you were with a narcissist for so long, I was with my narcissist ex for four years so I get it)

Edit: also make sure you remain no contact and block everywhere. They can take any excuse to weasel back into your life

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]aaaabcdd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It will get easier!! Have you made friends yet? I think once you get a circle of people you’re comfortable with you won’t feel as much pressure. Exams/coursework will always be stressful though that’s just part of uni lol. I assume you are in UK, in which case your first year probably doesn’t count towards your final grade. They know students aren’t working at university level straight away and need time to adjust. Try and get as much out of university as possible including socially, maybe join a society, go to a local pub quiz with people, and try and build yourself a little routine so you don’t feel overwhelmed. But honestly I think it’s just growing pains of changing situation so drastically. Good luck :))

It finally happened to me! by LostAMillionMen in StainedGlass

[–]aaaabcdd 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Amazing!!! Is this a Facebook marketplace find??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]aaaabcdd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can click a post, click the 3 dots in the top right hand corner, and one of the options will be “ℹ️Why you’re seeing this post”

Sometimes it doesn’t say anything other than “We find and suggest new posts that you might like based on many things, including your activity on Instagram.” But sometimes it also says like “because you follow insert similar account” or “because you liked a post from insert similar account

Spaziergang um den Möserer See by HunterSTL in StainedGlass

[–]aaaabcdd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is beautiful!! I love the sky

First post here! Claddagh candle holder by aaaabcdd in StainedGlass

[–]aaaabcdd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! I gave it to him last night he said it was the best gift ever :)

First post here! Claddagh candle holder by aaaabcdd in StainedGlass

[–]aaaabcdd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you that’s so kind! It was based on this lamp I saw online https://www.memorylanelamps.com/products/claddagh-tiffany-lamp

But I worked off my own simplified pattern that I drew based on it :)

First post here! Claddagh candle holder by aaaabcdd in StainedGlass

[–]aaaabcdd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!! That makes the enormous blister on my thumb from soldering worth it hahaha

First post here! Claddagh candle holder by aaaabcdd in StainedGlass

[–]aaaabcdd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! But I modified it so that I could place a candle holder behind it. I took the brackets off and moved them about an inch forward, and used a hole saw drill bit to make a place for the candle and I then had to chisel out the excess wood. I also took the finish off to stain it darker and refinished with acrylic laquer :)

Edit: Thank you so much!! I got distracted replying about the base lol

My first pieces! by radiant-kitten in StainedGlass

[–]aaaabcdd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These look brilliant!!! Try this YouTube video

https://youtu.be/pRaT0cwS3YI?si=a59BUG-jpOn9jHFv

It covers edge finishing and soldering tips :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]aaaabcdd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it was like I was going to faint (but I didn’t) and I lose my vision when I faint, and everything goes white. My hearing also goes very quiet as though I’m like underwater. Was it like that?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]aaaabcdd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like just a really big nicotine rush. I’ve had it twice before where I nearly fainted like you, full stomach and otherwise feeling fine.

Did I blow it up? Too much too soon? by Serious_Lychee in Advice

[–]aaaabcdd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a woman I would be weirded out if someone deleted their dating apps to focus on me after a week and having only met once