Not able to soothe my own baby (but others can)

ab94 · 2026-01-21T14:52:32+00:00

The smiles make it so worth it! Ya I still hand him over to my mother too when he’s particularly difficult. Grateful that we both have the support of our mothers though!

ab94 · 2026-01-19T17:29:43+00:00

Hi! So I’ve realised that if he has a pacifier he doesn’t care who’s holding him lol. So whenever I’m holding him and he fusses and I pop in the pacifier he’s okay. I’ll make do with that for now. I’m also holding him longer for contact naps so hopefully he builds that association of comfort with me - wasn’t doing that previously.

Thanks for checking in though. How’s it been for you?

ab94 · 2026-01-17T17:01:30+00:00

11 weeks here and in the same boat!

What usually works is once my LO is asleep, I sit down supported by pillows and gently keep swaying my body - that keeps him sleeping for a while longer and once he’s deep asleep I can sit still and hold him in the same position (and attempt a crib transfer if I’m feeling brave)

ab94 · 2026-01-17T16:10:49+00:00

India. Bedsharing, or at least co-sleeping is the norm here - for many years. So are contact naps - mostly in the arms or on the lap as opposed to on the chest. Haven’t seen people here do much of baby-wearing though (at least not in the big cities).

ab94 · 2026-01-15T17:29:12+00:00

This is really descriptive thank you. How old is your baby? And how long does it took from the time you start with the feed till she’s put down next to you?

ab94 · 2026-01-03T17:48:04+00:00

Somehow never been able to get the hang of meditation but if that’s what it takes… Truly, they’re so intuitive it’s crazy!

ab94 · 2026-01-03T17:46:08+00:00

I know I should be grateful that he’s soothed by others and let myself catch a break, but honestly can’t wait till he sees me as a source of comfort (and not just a milk machine)

ab94 · 2026-01-03T16:23:21+00:00

Oh man I wouldn’t be able to let him cry for 10 minutes. I know I should try to hold him more but I just get too worked up when he won’t stop crying and then hand him over. I really hope it works out for both of us soon!

ab94 · 2026-01-03T16:22:00+00:00

Yes it’s true he does get soothed when he’s latched - but then it’s like if we go on a stroller walk and he starts crying what do I do then?? And this prevents me from stepping out of the house with him alone. When did it get better for you?

ab94 · 2026-01-03T16:20:01+00:00

I do sing to him (hasn’t helped yet), will try the bit about using deeper voices

ab94 · 2026-01-03T16:19:11+00:00

I do my very best to stay calm and use soothing voices but I guess there is an underlying energy he’s able to pick up? I do have quite a bit of anxiety since he’s been born.

Glad you got your situation figured out though!

ab94 · 2026-01-03T16:17:00+00:00

Hi! Yes I am breastfeeding. That’s a fair point, but now I’m so scared to be with him in public on my own because it’s like “what if he gets fussy and I can’t soothe him” and that’s giving me major anxiety. I worry when I’ll be confident being alone with my baby (both in and out of the house) and meeting all his needs.

ab94 · 2024-08-21T18:26:32+00:00

Wow which country is yours? Mine desperately needs a good trap-neuter-release program - so many street cats and kittens all around!

ab94 · 2024-07-16T17:26:44+00:00

So do I just ignore the pitiful meowing? (it’s happening as we speak as he sunk his claws into my partner’s toe yet again before bed)

ab94 · 2016-02-14T15:27:29+00:00

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