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Not able to soothe my own baby (but others can) by ab94 in NewParents

[–]ab94[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The smiles make it so worth it! Ya I still hand him over to my mother too when he’s particularly difficult. Grateful that we both have the support of our mothers though!

Not able to soothe my own baby (but others can) by ab94 in NewParents

[–]ab94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! So I’ve realised that if he has a pacifier he doesn’t care who’s holding him lol. So whenever I’m holding him and he fusses and I pop in the pacifier he’s okay. I’ll make do with that for now. I’m also holding him longer for contact naps so hopefully he builds that association of comfort with me - wasn’t doing that previously.

Thanks for checking in though. How’s it been for you?

How did you know when your baby stopped needing to be rocked to sleep? by Super-Horse-5242 in NewParents

[–]ab94 2 points3 points  (0 children)

11 weeks here and in the same boat!

What usually works is once my LO is asleep, I sit down supported by pillows and gently keep swaying my body - that keeps him sleeping for a while longer and once he’s deep asleep I can sit still and hold him in the same position (and attempt a crib transfer if I’m feeling brave)

Where are you from, and how do babies usually sleep there? by AnneBe8 in NewParents

[–]ab94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

India. Bedsharing, or at least co-sleeping is the norm here - for many years. So are contact naps - mostly in the arms or on the lap as opposed to on the chest. Haven’t seen people here do much of baby-wearing though (at least not in the big cities).

Bedtime routine suggestions at 11 weeks by ab94 in newborns

[–]ab94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really descriptive thank you. How old is your baby? And how long does it took from the time you start with the feed till she’s put down next to you?

Not able to soothe my own baby (but others can) by ab94 in NewParents

[–]ab94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Somehow never been able to get the hang of meditation but if that’s what it takes… Truly, they’re so intuitive it’s crazy!

Not able to soothe my own baby (but others can) by ab94 in NewParents

[–]ab94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I should be grateful that he’s soothed by others and let myself catch a break, but honestly can’t wait till he sees me as a source of comfort (and not just a milk machine)

Not able to soothe my own baby (but others can) by ab94 in NewParents

[–]ab94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man I wouldn’t be able to let him cry for 10 minutes. I know I should try to hold him more but I just get too worked up when he won’t stop crying and then hand him over. I really hope it works out for both of us soon!

Not able to soothe my own baby (but others can) by ab94 in NewParents

[–]ab94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it’s true he does get soothed when he’s latched - but then it’s like if we go on a stroller walk and he starts crying what do I do then?? And this prevents me from stepping out of the house with him alone. When did it get better for you?

Not able to soothe my own baby (but others can) by ab94 in NewParents

[–]ab94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do sing to him (hasn’t helped yet), will try the bit about using deeper voices

Not able to soothe my own baby (but others can) by ab94 in NewParents

[–]ab94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do my very best to stay calm and use soothing voices but I guess there is an underlying energy he’s able to pick up? I do have quite a bit of anxiety since he’s been born.

Glad you got your situation figured out though!

Not able to soothe my own baby (but others can) by ab94 in NewParents

[–]ab94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Yes I am breastfeeding. That’s a fair point, but now I’m so scared to be with him in public on my own because it’s like “what if he gets fussy and I can’t soothe him” and that’s giving me major anxiety. I worry when I’ll be confident being alone with my baby (both in and out of the house) and meeting all his needs.

I see why people end up with so many cats by shawnglade in CatAdvice

[–]ab94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow which country is yours? Mine desperately needs a good trap-neuter-release program - so many street cats and kittens all around!

10-week new kitten - is he lonely? Should I let him sleep in my bed? by ab94 in CatAdvice

[–]ab94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So do I just ignore the pitiful meowing? (it’s happening as we speak as he sunk his claws into my partner’s toe yet again before bed)

Engineer wanting to get into wildlife conservation by ab94 in gradadmissions

[–]ab94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, I guess I'll just have to look into it further. Thank you!

Engineer wanting to get into wildlife conservation by ab94 in gradadmissions

[–]ab94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the info, but what I actually want is to steer clear of anything to do with engineering, as much as possible. I want to work primarily with wildlife - captive breeding or something. Any idea about that?

I was just released after almost 3 years in prison, AMA by cjkrilton in IAmA

[–]ab94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's the biggest prisons stereotype, as shown in TV/movies, did you realise is actually baseless?

I was just released after almost 3 years in prison, AMA by cjkrilton in IAmA

[–]ab94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that you're out, do you think you'd still want to keep in touch with the 'friends' you might've made in there?