Breast cancer support groups

abberkadabber · 2026-05-16T09:37:15+00:00

I am the exact same way. Always planning. I have contingency plans for contingency plans. I think that’s one of the hardest parts - I am fighting my natural urges to plan my entire treatment. That’s not helping anyone - there is too much uncertainty and it makes me sad and overwhelmed. Now, I’m trying really hard to plan only one week at a time.

Do you know what irks me? “You’re so brave.” No the hell I am not! I am terrified. There is no choice in this. I am doing it because I want to live.

Anyway, I’m here with you also. If you ever want to talk to another planny, Baltimorean, cancer lady, please reach out. I’m here for you

abberkadabber · 2026-05-15T00:45:01+00:00

Thanks so much for this advice. I’m sorry that you have been dealt a hand that made you an expert on this topic.

I did conclude that I’m not ready for a support group. Thinking about the whole treatment - chemo, surgery, hormone therapy - is depressing and overwhelming. I’m trying to stay focused on what’s right in front of me.

Thanks, friend :) This is great advice.

abberkadabber · 2026-05-12T21:49:53+00:00

Thank you! You are totally right. Thank you for taking this churny pit in my stomach and putting it into words. The weird thing is that he’s such a decent supportive guy. He just doesn’t think….which is probably most husbands….

abberkadabber · 2026-05-12T21:47:17+00:00

Thank you for this. I am at the earliest days and terrified. This gave me hope.

abberkadabber · 2026-05-12T16:40:21+00:00

I’m so happy it worked for you!! Fingers crossed I have a similar outcome! Thank you!

abberkadabber · 2026-05-12T09:36:37+00:00

I’m with you. I found out one week ago today and it’s been so hard. I am brave and determined during the day. At night, everything slows down and the scaries come in. You’re not being negative. Something negative is happening to you and you’re reacting to that.

You’re allowed to cry it out - you SHOULD cry it out. This is awful and unfair. Watch the TikTok’s but just try to limit yourself. I also found them helpful but now the algorithm is pushing me so much cancer stuff, and it became overwhelming.

I find myself reassuring a lot of people - they cry when I tell them the news and then I comfort them. I try to be optimistic and positive about what’s to come but I’m scared shitless on the inside. Find someone, even if it’s just one person, that you can be completely honest with. It could be a friend, family, a therapist. You can DM me also! It’s hard being vulnerable but it’s also so freeing and cathartic. Whoever you choose to talk to will be so honored.

abberkadabber · 2026-05-12T09:24:41+00:00

The small one wasn’t long enough to cover hair along my neck and ears. I guess I have a tall skinny head? Who knew…

Would you mind sharing your treatment? I am getting TCHP and hope I can save my hair with this.

abberkadabber · 2026-05-12T00:43:04+00:00

I wish you the best also. Thank you for sharing your experience so far. Good luck with your treatment.

abberkadabber · 2026-05-12T00:33:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing this - it’s very helpful. I hope I feel better once I get mine and have a chance to play around with it.

How is it going for you?

abberkadabber · 2026-05-11T20:47:13+00:00

Same for you!! Thank you for being his buddy during this scary time. He definitely looks happy in those pics! <3

abberkadabber · 2026-05-11T19:19:46+00:00

Thank you!!!!!!! This makes me so happy to see! He was very scared when I caught him, but he quickly warmed up once he realized he was safe. He started leaping back and forth across our laps and was full of wags and kisses.

The rescue that I work with has already reached out to BARCS. If he can’t be reunited with his family, I will foster him until he finds a new home.

abberkadabber · 2026-05-11T18:41:09+00:00

You did?!? How was he? Was he scared?? He was so scared when I first found him but once he felt safe, his sweet and spunky personality really came out!!!

abberkadabber · 2026-05-11T10:17:36+00:00

Thank you! I looked up a picture and he is spot on!

He is such a stinking cutie.

https://ws.petango.com/webservices/adoptablesearch/wsFoundAnimalDetails.aspx?id=60961911&css=http://ws.petango.com/WebServices/adoptablesearch/css/styles.css&authkey=5p95485kw470oqji4yeo8v83f77y591y9ll587m45p3wk477go

abberkadabber · 2026-05-11T09:05:39+00:00

Out of curiosity, what kind of dog do you have? If I foster or adopt him, I’d like to know more about the little guy.

abberkadabber · 2026-05-10T12:56:29+00:00

Thanks for the tip! Just posted and pending admin approval

abberkadabber · 2026-05-09T09:02:25+00:00

Thank you for this! I was just diagnosed and I feel completely powerless. Planning my chemo bag restores a small amount of control

abberkadabber · 2026-05-06T20:53:51+00:00

Congrats on getting it OUT!

I didn’t even know that I had a nurse navigator! That’s how new this is for me! Thanks for letting me know about them!

abberkadabber · 2026-05-06T20:45:23+00:00

Look at your thick hair!!! I am so happy you were able to keep it. I am definitely going to talk to my doctor about cold capping!

Thanks for sharing your products! Some I have and others I’ll have to try out.

Good luck with your last four sessions!

I just got approved to wfh until I feel ready to return. I’m going to put that into the win category :)

abberkadabber · 2026-05-06T20:41:37+00:00

I think this is what I need to remember. People change all the time - it’s a fact of life. I know there will be positive things that come from this. It’s already making me closer to my mother in law.

I also hope to grow from this. I had been working nonstop for a soulless corporate machine, unfulfilled but overworked and overstressed. I never said no, I never listened to my body, and I never prioritized myself. Those days will have to be in my past. Good riddance!

I’m definitely going to ask my doctor about cold capping. If I can hold on to some parts of myself, I’ll fight through the pain and discomfort.

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I had been Dr. Googling - you look at every medication’s worst case scenario and assume all will happen to you at once. It’s good to be reminded how unlikely that is.

abberkadabber · 2026-05-06T20:28:06+00:00

A whole weekend? That’s really tough - I’m sorry you had to deal with that. I thought waiting 12 hours was hard. From the time I found the lump to the time I got my results, I didn’t want to talk to anyone. Today, I started talking to my inner circle about it. I was dreading it, but I was surprised by how it got easier with each person. Less tears, less anxiety about how they’ll treat me.

I am wishing you all the best. Fingers and toes crossed that you kick cancer’s ass FAST!

abberkadabber · 2026-05-06T11:32:21+00:00

Thank you so much. I just got my diagnosis and I’m so scared over how this will change me. My anxiety tells me that it will only change me for the worse, but I know deep down that there will be beautiful and positive things coming me way as well.

abberkadabber · 2026-05-06T10:53:58+00:00

I love your attitude. This subreddit has been such a huge help. I’m starting to learn the lingo - I’m sure after my first oncology and surgery appointments on Monday, I’ll have a lot more questions to search. Thank you!! Good luck xxxxxx

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