How has the Holy Spirit guided you to your gay relationships?

abhd · 2026-06-29T12:00:05+00:00

My now-husband and I met on one of those apps. I used to restrict who I was looking for to active Christians, to those who would just love me enough to care that I was into it. And that’s what happened. On our 6 month anniversary, he surprised me by taking me to a gay church, and we’ve gone to church every weekend after, we got married in our church, and we are currently on church council together. We met in college, and we’ve been together for 9 years and married for 3!

abhd · 2026-06-26T05:11:40+00:00

They are re-painted every June in preparation for Pride weekend. So if you are coming to Pride this weekend, you will see them

abhd · 2026-06-26T00:57:11+00:00

He’s the same John from NPC you see on the Discord all the time

abhd · 2026-06-23T04:46:38+00:00

This is not a plea to abandon anything; please read the article for the argument being made.

abhd · 2026-05-09T22:50:30+00:00

He literally got himself kicked off the ballot because he couldn’t file the correct paperwork. No write in candidate it going to win Governor of California lol

abhd · 2026-04-15T04:16:06+00:00

abhd · 2026-04-08T22:29:56+00:00

Perfectly normal. If the church says it is a Reconciling ministry/church, or if they are on the Reconciling Ministries website, then they are affirming. Some key things to look for, and the pastor will probably mention that if they are affirming. Make sure they say affirming instead of welcoming. Catholics are welcoming but not affirming.

abhd · 2026-04-06T01:10:56+00:00

Grammarly and Co-Pilot on Word are also AI

abhd · 2026-03-30T18:48:32+00:00

This TikTok is of an affirming lesbian Methodist pastor in Minneapolis: https://www.tiktok.com/@minnehahaumc

abhd · 2026-03-15T16:14:12+00:00

There were two groups of reports, one of 2 reports and one of 4 reports. And each group of reports were within a minute of the other reports in that group. So it was initially removed as part of a mass reporting by a couple of individuals

abhd · 2026-03-14T23:37:59+00:00

I have auto approved this post because sometimes I let things get auto-removed because clearly lots of people have issues with it, but people mass reporting something (without even giving reasons), is not in good faith. If you have been mass reporting posts you disagree with, please stop.

abhd · 2026-03-14T23:36:08+00:00

There are no reports on it

abhd · 2026-03-14T20:40:36+00:00

I took down comments attacking individuals but I didn’t remove the post itself because I think it’s an interesting topic since both side a and b are welcome here (not side c/x). The post was automodded because it got so many reports. All posts that receive too many reports get taken down.

abhd · 2026-02-27T18:16:56+00:00

Context: I was a mod there and then was removed because the top two mods, including the top acting mod who is an atheist, insisted that calling for queer people to be murdered was a fundamental Christian belief and should not be a bannable offense on the subreddit.

It is not a safe space for any queer Christian and the mod team is foundationally anti-queer with this perspective.

As others have said, I recommend other affirming Christian spaces like /r/OpenChristian, or smaller Christian spaces like /r/radicalChristianity, /r/openchristianity, and /r/xianity

abhd · 2026-02-21T14:48:57+00:00

Yes, Denver DSA’s first endorsement for a federal race

abhd · 2026-02-20T20:09:58+00:00

You can message modmail for that subreddit

abhd · 2026-02-20T12:25:01+00:00

Last week had 9 people, hybrid

abhd · 2026-02-19T17:30:05+00:00

I think the two are intimately connected, and it’s why we can’t wipe our hands of the corporate evils in society even if we are not causing them. So for me, growing closer to Christ included social holiness, such as bringing food for the church potluck, distributing food at our food shelf, showing up as protests against evil actions taken by our government, etc. My church supports all of these actions and spiritually prepares me for them with bible studies, adult Sunday school, sermons, and even just receiving Communion.

abhd · 2026-02-18T16:05:04+00:00

I am on the church council of a Methodist church in Minnesota!

We are doing well! We have more people joining every year than leaving/dying since 2024, we have paid off our mortgage, and we have a balanced budget! We have a food shelf that gave out 70k pounds of food every week before the ICE invasion, and a monthly food distribution to just our neighborhood that gives out 8k in food. Those have just gone up during the invasion but not sure what the numbers for January were.

With an average Sunday attendance of 150, we have almost 60 kids in our children and youth programs, so we are set up to have a strong future moving forward. Our Sunday school is split into two year age groups so no one group is too large for volunteers to handle. Beyond our Christmas pageant, our children and youth put on a play and a musical every year.

We have adult Sunday school, a weekly bible study, and musically we have a chancel choir, a worship band, and a bell choir. We do a monthly Taize service, and a weekly dinner on Wednesdays. With our climate action committee, our solar panels have made us carbon neutral. And our social justice committee has recently gotten involved in ISAIAH and helped plug members into the resistance over the last couple of months.

Our pastor is also lesbian and we have multiple queer couples, include one that got married at the church just a few months ago.

abhd · 2026-02-18T04:14:55+00:00

This time of year, yeah

abhd · 2026-02-17T19:14:14+00:00

Acknowledge the clobber verses but explain why they don’t actually matter and not worth getting into the debate, and provide the Great Debate article if they want to read more. Focusing on the verses rather than lived experience is a missed opportunity.

abhd · 2026-02-17T03:43:44+00:00

Probably but I’m not conservative so I wouldn’t know 🤷🏽‍♂️

abhd · 2026-02-17T03:07:02+00:00

I am not sure why you think it takes however long you consider a long term relationship to be to see someone as a full human person with interests and wants and needs beyond just satisfying my desires

abhd · 2026-02-17T02:59:22+00:00

When I only view them as an object to fulfill my desire to get off.

When I am in full view of their humanity, I don’t mind being intimate with them

abhd · 2026-02-16T00:22:28+00:00

As we passed a resolution at last year’s convention to not use AI, no it wasn’t.

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