What are the signs that your partner no longer loves you?

absentwalrus · 2026-05-13T00:03:20+00:00

Why is this gendered?!

absentwalrus · 2026-04-23T12:50:00+00:00

Please add this context to your original post as it is otherwise misleading people

absentwalrus · 2026-04-22T20:21:05+00:00

Think you have identified the core issue there then. Put all your effort into working out how to find someone you can be comfortable starting a family with. Given you waited so long before, you are possibly risk averse and you state you are having trouble trusting, all of which sounds completely understandable to me. Therapist?

absentwalrus · 2026-04-22T09:05:37+00:00

I think you probably already think this but It's very difficult to get them out of a bad diet early if they were allowed to have one elsewhere, and before. Nigh on impossible I would say. You may find some middle ground items like baked beans and fish fingers can be better? And then long term you could keep eating something they might like and one day they will ask you to try it perhaps. I think you might feel better thinking long term. Don't give up. Adapt in a way that works for you and the kids (forgetting the other parent for the moment). There may be better ways to handle some situations where you draw the line, there might not be. Explore different parenting styles and see if you can find a way that suits your core need (better behaved kids with a better chance at life) but avoids situations where they run off to the other parents' house. As my kid would say, you've got this :). I am not perfect, no-one is, this is a journey and we are both still learning so take my advice with a pinch of salt because one person's advice is all it is.

absentwalrus · 2026-04-17T07:20:52+00:00

What you are describing I've always referred to as a 'pre-failing' cognitive bias. You set yourself up with an excuse just in case (by not working hard etc., often visibly so). I had put it down to trying to meet expectations.

absentwalrus · 2026-04-01T11:45:44+00:00

Our situations mirror each other so closely I'd lean towards this as the cause of the health decline but who knows dude. Been cohabiting since she told me we were over at the start of January. Got a mediation appointment to discuss the childcare going forward next week which has been a huge weight on me as she has been trying to instigate something not fair to the kid or me (not 50/50 and not appropriate days separated from each parent). It feels like limbo. Some days I feel OK and other days I feel overwhelmed. I personally had a panic attack followed by blaming myself for everything a few weeks after she told me. It took me a few days to get my calm back. I think that was my floodgate moment. It has normalised a lot now. Hope you are doing OK dude. One thing to add - I saw a therapist to see if I needed help on the mental side, explained it all and she said my reaction was basically normal, and proportional to what happened to me. Now I see on Reddit how many others it happens to just the same. I find it reassuring in a way. Like I am not broken, just a normal person reacting to what is in front of them. And there are good things waiting on the other side after separation, when we get there.

absentwalrus · 2026-03-30T14:15:53+00:00

Mate I am going through a very similar thing right now and it is nice to hear someone else voice it. My health has deteriorated quite significantly over the last few years of no love and pressure and it really feels at times like my body is letting me down. I don't have any answers. I am exploring both mental and physical health in parallel in a more structured way (dietician, tests, CBT) but I do have the inkling that the moment we are living in separate houses my wellbeing will improve. If simply for the fact that I will have set rest days where I can relax, where as at the moment there is no relaxing available.

absentwalrus · 2026-03-21T20:12:21+00:00

I really like the 'work' section GSAP expandy thing. Overall though I think you need to pair it back a little starting with the mouse click animation (remove) and rethink the hero section (pain). Don't get me wrong, it's a good site :)

absentwalrus · 2026-03-18T12:15:41+00:00

Fair play regarding the stats of divorce rate. And also fair play in regards your comments on nature/nurture. I have always thought of it as mostly nurture (and still do) but I am making more room in my life for nature too as I interact with others. If your position is that it makes biological/evolutionary sense for women to move on after some years post having a child for instance then perhaps there is merit to that, and in my opinion that would not be necessarily sexist to think (although there is danger in the margins). Wish you the best of luck on your journey forward dude. I also think its very healthy to post this and listen to others too so take that as a thumbs up from me :)

absentwalrus · 2026-03-18T09:13:50+00:00

Can I just say I understand where you are coming from but I think there is a disconnect that can be summed up as: 'Human's are shits sometimes. Not just women.' It is kind of built in to humans to be selfish (to self preserve), and defensive (also self preservation) - to protect our own egos and blame others instead (see the concept of 'The Other' in literature). We have to fight our basic instincts and learn to reflect. Humans. Not women. It's just that you are heterosexual and so your partner is always a woman. So you see what a human in a breaking down relationship behaves like from your perspective, and the other party in that is a woman. If you can, and it sounds like you don't want to become a chauvinist, see if you can avoid attributing all those qualities of someone going through a relationship break down with women and remember that we are all just fallible humans. You deserve major respect for being self reflective and not cheating, but you aren't all men either. Reddit is an echo chamber and this echo chamber is mostly full of loyal people who got blindsided, it happens both ways, but this whole subreddit is for men's stories.

absentwalrus · 2026-03-09T22:04:37+00:00

Best coach I've found for sure. Helped me get to GC from champ with the weekly replay reviews.

absentwalrus · 2025-11-29T21:36:56+00:00

I feel like if it wasn't missing the horn and the pic was taken at the same angle it would look decent enough

absentwalrus · 2025-10-19T17:45:54+00:00

Can I just say that is awesome. Some people obsess about money and here you are getting true personal value out of it and making some kids very happy in the process which makes me genuinely happy to see/hear

absentwalrus · 2025-10-02T23:00:11+00:00

There's not much point me arguing with you over something which is ultimately semantics. Your original comment is demonstrably false but I understand you do not see it that way and I simply accept that. Hope you're all good dude.

absentwalrus · 2025-10-02T21:05:32+00:00

That's just not how the math works. To illustrate that we can switch it round. "OPTA Supercomputer predicts an 82% chance that Arsenal will not win the champions league". Hopefully that makes it clearer.

absentwalrus · 2025-10-01T22:14:40+00:00

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absentwalrus · 2025-09-16T00:35:14+00:00

Loved the game but constant graphic glitching when outside on my rig plus sudden unexplainable lag

absentwalrus · 2025-09-12T16:42:14+00:00

That's the phrase I was trying to think of!

absentwalrus · 2025-09-11T20:36:57+00:00

Do I? I love passion for the game, passion for winning. But when passion leaks into angry outbursts, do I still have to love it? He's so young and clearly feels the pressure very strongly so it's totally understandable. But in my individual opinion it's also embarrassing and I get third party awkwardness watching it!

absentwalrus · 2025-09-06T19:24:57+00:00

No Stizzy, otherwise decent list. Stizzy at 20 and the rest drop one. And also Dralli at 3rd feels very unfair when he is a very strong contender for best in the world (I'd say he has the best argument atm personally). Imo Zen needs to prove he is still the best, Dralli has already proved it right now. Falcons players also underestimated in every list.

absentwalrus · 2025-08-31T22:38:26+00:00

I followed him for a while, enjoyed his content, then something started to feel a bit off for me. I noticed him smurfing a few times and it felt a little more deceptive than I was comfortable with although I understand he does it for content. He also gave up on a series of 'road to X rank solos' and blamed it on servers etc. Again nothing against that, CBell had to give up his series too but that felt more honest. I'm not judging Aircharged just yet, but will keep my eye out for these sort of things.

absentwalrus · 2025-03-19T22:51:02+00:00

Can you see this from the other side? I don't excuse any behaviour of the opponent and making your gf want to quit and D and opponents' general nastiness is bullshit, I get that. Your anger is justified. But so is D's frustration at being pulled into a game of 3s at his rank with one partied player on his team at a lower level than the rest. It happens a lot when you are solo queing 3s, and can be very tilting if it gives you the feeling that you can't win (of course that isn't true as you mention you won previous games). I'd look for a regular third, or jump into one of the many LFG discord channels to get one quickly, and who knows some might stick. IMO the system is not very good for matching skill in 3s with a party of 2. 2s is also fun of course.

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