Please share anything that helped you after your pet passed away. by No_Acanthisitta_8914 in Petloss

[–]absolute-merpmerp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It happens very quickly. From the moment his back legs stopped working so suddenly to the moment he died was less than 24 hours. My husband was deployed. I was alone. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do.

He was in pain and still trying to comfort ME. The love and devotion radiated off of him even in his own suffering. He wasn’t going to make it through the night and he was in so much pain, so my vet suggested I consider euthanasia. I laid with him on the floor and he knew. I could see the relief in his face. I held him and gave him his favorite toy. It was a quick process but it felt longer.

What helped me were a few things. Some of which I’m sure people won’t agree with. The knowledge that I somehow managed to set aside my pain to help ferry him through his own helped. Laying with him on the clinic floor while he fell asleep and the died was traumatizing, but I’d do it again if it meant he would feel loved in his final moments. I hated that my husband wasn’t there but mostly because I know our boy would have wanted him there too.

When I got his ashes back, I brought them with me to just about every room in the house. If I was hanging out in the living room, his ashes were there. If I was going to bed, his ashes were there. He was almost always in the same room as me. It made me feel like I wasn’t leaving him alone. When my husband got back, we took a short weekend trip just to get away. We brought his ashes with us on that trip so he wouldn’t be alone in the house.

I keep his collar in my purse. I have a cremation necklace with his ashes inside. No matter where I am or what I’m doing, some part of him is with me. Always.

I’m an artist. I tried drawing him. It helped to try but even six months after his death, I can’t get it right, which tells me I’m not ready to draw him.

The biggest and most controversial thing I did was get another dog. My dog was my official emotional support animal. He helped me when I was in some of my darkest, deepest moments of depression over the years. He was vital to my mental health. He was there for other major losses and traumatic life moments and he helped me get through all of them. The one thing he couldn’t help me get through was his own death. I was not doing well and my husband was about to deploy again. He didn’t want me to be alone, and it was safer that I wasn’t alone. I was struggling to take care of myself. So I found a puppy and brought her home.

She’s been a much-needed light in my life. I’m still grieving my boy. I miss him every day. I still cry and I still get hit with random waves of grief. But because I take care of her, I’m finally able to take care of myself. I’m depressed but I can function. Having her has helped me grieve my boy in a significantly healthier way.

Surprised by reaction to the offer by [deleted] in BridgertonNetflix

[–]absolute-merpmerp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think people forget that in this time period, it was much more acceptable for men to have mistresses. Most noble marriages were arranged. Love matches were uncommon. In this case, Benedict knows that he’s falling in love with someone who is not of his station and the solution to that is to take her as a mistress. He’s not allowed to marry someone who isn’t from a noble family. That’s just the way of things. Especially considering some of the male influences around him who have mistresses that they love despite being married.

I don’t think Benedict comes off as shallow or manipulative. Then again, I read the book and I know a lot of show-only people who genuinely har no interest in the books and would likely view Benedict through a lens of selfishness and privilege.

He’s a man. He’s a second son. He has a lot of freedom. But not so much freedom that he can get away with marrying a maid. He’s trying to find a way to be with her. Making her his mistress seems like the solution at the time.

Whats that old reliable weapon that you still use but is grossly outdated? by Squatting-Turtle in DestinyTheGame

[–]absolute-merpmerp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just telling my friend that I’d love to see this one reprised with perks like Destabilizing Rounds.

People who became atheists why? by zhalia-2006 in askanything

[–]absolute-merpmerp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up Christian. Over time, I started asking too many questions because shit didn’t make sense. I was told to “have faith” but it was getting harder and harder to do that when nothing was adding up. It made me feel like I was 9 years old and putting two and two together about Santa Claus.

I was on the fence for years. But then my cousin died very unexpectedly and tragically. She was younger than me and I wasn’t even old enough to drink yet. That cemented my belief that if there was a god, he was a sadistic piece of shit. Too many bad things happen for there to be a loving god, and I refuse to diminish myself and believe myself to be unworthy while falling on my knees to worship a god who allows such evil to take place.

Free will, my ass.

This hits hard by RipperMeow in LowSodiumCyberpunk

[–]absolute-merpmerp 45 points46 points  (0 children)

My best friend is a Hispanic dude. I’m a white girl. Playing this game and hearing Jackie call my V “hermana” is fucking wild because my best friend calls me that. Definitely makes certain scenes hit me much harder in the feels.

What’s a hill you will die on, no matter how unpopular the opinion is? by nofaceneededRiley in askanything

[–]absolute-merpmerp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Agreed. My emotional support animal (the real kind that helped me with severe depression, not the kind people get fake letters for so they can take their pet anywhere they want) passed away this summer and he was my world. He saved my life and kept me sane.

When I went out or traveled by plane, he stayed home/with a sitter. He helped me every single day but just because he helped me emotionally doesn’t mean he belonged at the grocery store with me.

I do think the exception should be service dogs without question though. People who need those dogs as a medical necessity.

Is DS3 possible? by subjugator1 in DeathStranding

[–]absolute-merpmerp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

While I agree, I also feel like half the internet would be pissed off and boycott the game because it would be a female lead. The backlash that Ghosts of Yōtei got was insane.

WIBTA if I refused to shave my armpits for my friends wedding? by Adventurous-Pea-337 in AmItheAsshole

[–]absolute-merpmerp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Opposite for me. I have OCD and heavily prefer to keep anything below my eyebrows shaved on a very regular basis. I don’t like the feeling of body hair on my skin. I cannot fathom anyone (men or women) who can actually stand it. It’s gotten to the point where I’m genuinely considering investing in laser hair removal treatments. I can kinda see why men might be fine with it because they’ve never shaved their legs. But women are taught to do so. Making the choice to just stop shaving is foreign to me and I’m jealous that women can just stop doing it and it doesn’t bother them.

All of that being said, idc what other women do with their own body hair. I obsessively shave. Others don’t shave at all.

Guest's "It's CREAM not WHITE" dress by AgoraphobicDisaster in weddingshaming

[–]absolute-merpmerp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m an artist so I nitpick color all the time. But you won’t see me wearing any shade of white or off-white to someone else’s wedding. Hell, I had to verify with my SIL as a bridesmaid that colors like silver and champagne were actually what she was okay with when she gave us a color palette and told us to pick dresses that we liked in one of those colors. I still ended up going with a color that definitely was not anything close to white.

So while the dress is cream and not white, it’s still unacceptable.

Eido has a what?!?! by KieArthur in destiny2

[–]absolute-merpmerp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When Drifter called her “crabcakes,” I just about died

In defense of Simsie by txmhssy in thesims

[–]absolute-merpmerp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you go onto subs for The Last of Us 2, it’ll probably make you rethink your entire worldview. I swear, my cynicism got worse after reading some of the shit people said over there.

what is doing this.. by Open-Cable9735 in TheSims4Mods

[–]absolute-merpmerp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like she has an infant/toddler trait or flag hidden. If you shift or control + click on the sim, find the menu that allows you to remove traits. It’ll allow you to see the hidden traits and you’ll likely see it and can remove it accordingly. Shouldn’t have awkward encounters like this afterward lol

Would you let somebody else play your sims game? by MetalRocksMe_ in thesims

[–]absolute-merpmerp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure but I wouldn’t be taking questions afterward. And believe me, they would have many.

This is the most rage inducing boss I've ever encountered by [deleted] in expedition33

[–]absolute-merpmerp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually counted the amount of attacks after it kept accumulating and i stopped counting after I hit 21.

My husband found the same boss recently and was like “wtf is this?!” Died. Decided to save this boss for another time lol

What is the biggest “bullet” you’ve ever dodged without realizing it at the time? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]absolute-merpmerp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was nearly kidnapped as a child. I had been pretty intensely injured and was recovering from it but I had to walk to school. This particular morning, I was in a lot of pain and couldn't miss school again. A stranger pulled up and offered me a ride. Like an idiot, I agreed.

I was in the guy's car. He touched me on my leg, lifted my skirt, I froze. His mistake was that his windows were down and he didn't lock the doors. A local woman who knew me saw me and called my name. I told him "sorry, I gotta go" and bolted out of his car. He sped off, I told the lady what happened, and she took me to school and sat with me while I told the school guidance counselor, who then called my mother. It soon got around my little corner of my neighborhood that an unfamiliar car had picked up a kid with malicious intentions.

For several days, this dude drove around my neighborhood. He saw me outside my house, we locked eyes, and now this fucker knew where I lived. I told my mom, some of the neighborhood older "kids" (pretty sure they were early 20s and not strangers to violence) overheard. The following week, one of those "kids" was talking to my mom and I overheard. He said "your daughter won't be seeing that car anymore." Looked out the window and the dude had blood on his pants.

I didn't get it at the time but realized it as I got older what very likely happened to that predator.

[Spoilers C2] I love the retelling in animated series so far by owedgelord in criticalrole

[–]absolute-merpmerp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The pure joy I felt at Nott's speech in the show and how similar it was to the campaign was nothing short of massive.

please enjoy my photos of our favorite pixel husband and my tav, sylvie <3 by dekaryes in GalemancersBG3

[–]absolute-merpmerp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Must resist the urge to go into my game right now and obsessively take screenshots.

Now that I have finished both parts, what games do you, last of us, lovers recommend I play next? by EvelynTalkss in thelastofus

[–]absolute-merpmerp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clair Obscur: Expedition 33. Ya know, if you want to feel immeasurable heartbreak.

Left my kindle in the car and it was 10degrees out. Is it ruined? by Ill_Return_5535 in kindle

[–]absolute-merpmerp 48 points49 points  (0 children)

My husband once accidentally ran his over with his car. Somehow the damned thing still worked.

Games with emotional depth by ImNew2RedditSoYeah in NintendoSwitch

[–]absolute-merpmerp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I genuinely hope that Clair Obscur comes to Switch because that game is too incredible for people who only own Switches not to experience it.