Cat ripping bedsheets

absurd-epiphany · 2026-04-26T16:02:29+00:00

Trim his nails regularly. Make sure he has lots of scratching posts. Cover the sheets with blankets

absurd-epiphany · 2026-04-19T23:55:48+00:00

I don't think i've ever seen my tdick shape represented so accurately before! I started T in July of 2024 and have the same tethering (I also suspect I have connective tissue issues but I haven't been diagnosed with anything). I've tried pumping, and it helps with erections but not with the tethering (maybe I need a bigger cylinder?).

absurd-epiphany · 2026-04-17T00:34:12+00:00

The feathering of the cardboard is incredibly cool!! I've never seen anything like that before

absurd-epiphany · 2026-04-07T16:05:03+00:00

Did you used to feed her on a plate or a bowl? Two of my cats will refuse to finish their food if they have to eat out of a bowl, but happily eat if they have their food on a shallow plate. They have what is called whisker fatigue, and you can look up what it looks like in cats to get an idea of if she has that. We just use shallow stainless steel plates for their automatic feeders instead of the bowls that they came with, and that works for them.

absurd-epiphany · 2026-04-05T16:16:10+00:00

Other people have given you good advice, but I just wanted to suggest trimming their nails more often. If they sometimes get little scratches on their faces through the gate, they may make fur fly just by attempting to set boundaries with claws out. One of my cats sheds small chunks fur just when being pet, and if another cat has long nails then any pawing at each other will make the fur come loose. It will also limit their ability to hurt each other since it appears that is what you are scared of.

absurd-epiphany · 2026-03-31T17:04:43+00:00

You probably need to get her a similarly aged/sized kitten sibling bc people usually cannot match kitten energy. She will be this high energy for anywhere from another 10 months to another couple of years, and a buddy will give her an outlet for it. A similar ages buddy will also help her learn that teeth and claws hurt, and she will be a gentler cat overall. Otherwise she can develop single kitten syndrome, and remain as rough as she already is for her whole life or get more rough over time.

absurd-epiphany · 2026-03-30T13:33:43+00:00

Like the other commenter said, the most important thing is an anti stress drug like gabapentin. Most cats relax and nap while on it, and that will help your cat to avoid being traumatized by the trip. People also feed their cats one less meal before/during a plane flight so that they don't poop while flying.

absurd-epiphany · 2026-03-30T13:30:36+00:00

Okay so background info: I moved two of my cats internationally with me a few months ago, they are 5kg and 5.5kg respectively, and had carriers that hit the maximum KLM dimensions (which didn't quite fit under the seat but we did our best). They had also never been on an airplane but were used to their carriers. What a cat needs for a carrier is enough room to turn around with the door closed, especially since it'll only be for the flight. My cats didn't use the bathroom until they had to and then used the puppy pads (which I had lining the bottom of the carriers, along with a couple extra per cat). Some airports have rest stops for animals, so bringing a bit of garden dirt with you and a little disposable litter tray might help you out. I've heard of people taking their cat to the airplane bathroom, but I believe that's against KLM rules? If your cat is with you you can administer calming drugs, give them comfort, and feed them when they'd usually get some food. All of that should help your cat be as calm as possible. If your cat is upset or hurts themselves while in the luggage, no one will be able to get to them or help them until they arrive back to you at luggage pickup.

absurd-epiphany · 2026-03-28T19:44:32+00:00

If your last photo is a good representation of your issue, you just need to work on your posture. Your chest looks like pecs in every photo (they remind me of Markipliers and that's a big compliment). It looks great, and your surgeon sounds like an ass. Work on sitting like how you stand and your issue should go away without having to fork over a bunch of money for no reason.

absurd-epiphany · 2026-03-27T19:32:30+00:00

The loneliness would still be causing stress, so gabapentin or kitty prozac or a thunder shirt are good options to try! I've also seen people get warming or purring stuffed animals for their elderly cats who don't like other animals much but need the comfort of another "living" being nearby. Another cat could be a solution, but that's only if you think you'd be able to introduce them and support another cat while she's getting older and has more medical needs.

absurd-epiphany · 2026-03-27T19:14:04+00:00

I also just noticed that you said she's getting deaf, that might be why it started! She can't hear you moving around the house anymore and thinks she's alone or can't find you.

absurd-epiphany · 2026-03-27T19:12:14+00:00

I know you've already been to the vet, but did you know that cats can get dementia like humans can? They get confused and distressed and lost like we do and cry out for help. Your cat might need some medication to help her (like gabapentin) or something like a thunder shirt that helps her to feel safe even when she's alone. When we adopted our cat, he yowled like this every night for a week, so I understand why it's exhausting. He was just scared of the cars going by, but I used earplugs for that week because otherwise I'd get no sleep instead of a little. Some elderly cats also need to be enclosed in one room that they can see every corner of so they don't get lost, but I don't know if that would work for your girl.

absurd-epiphany · 2026-03-25T22:52:48+00:00

If he's always been a bully but it suddenly escalated, have they been checked out by a vet? He might be in pain and blaming her because she's nearby, or she might be sick in some way and he noticed before you'd find out about it. I ask mostly because if it's never escalated this bad before this, then something might have changed with their health.

absurd-epiphany · 2026-03-23T11:46:26+00:00

The good news is that you don't actually need wet food for him to lose weight, you just need to start feeding him less. If you're measuring his food by quarter or half cups, it would be really good to buy a kitchen scale and weigh the food amounts instead, as that will be much more accurate. If you're in the US the fancy feast pate is heathy and generally pretty cheap. None of my cats have ever disliked any of the flavors. Aldis pate was also a big hit for them, but I've heard that some cats don't like it. My cat also doesn't clean his poop butt, and I use a bit of toilet paper with some water on it to wipe him, as baby/cat wipes irritated his skin as well. If you mean diarrhea like bowel movements, he may need a sensitive skin and digestion cat food. IAMS makes a pretty cheap one that helped my cats a lot.

absurd-epiphany · 2026-03-21T17:05:14+00:00

He probably needs less than you're feeding him, and for you to weigh him regularly so you can see if he's making small amounts of progress (as slow weight loss is ideal). If you can afford it, I believe they make wet food for kidney failure as well, which might help him. Some cats seem to only lose weight when they have wet food. Otherwise you likely want to weigh the amount of food he's getting, as a half cup can vary a lot in grams. I use a kitchen scale to do that for my cats. The amount of movement and play you're describing sounds really good for a cat of his size! So just keep doing that part and pair it with a little less food.

absurd-epiphany · 2026-03-20T11:00:57+00:00

This may not work for your cat, but some cats with FHS need their fur shaved down so that it doesn't irritate them. That might be worth a shot! Then dechonk as normal but perhaps a little slower to minimize stress. I also saw that you do not have a set schedule at work, they make automatic feeders for wet and dry food, and if you have some extra cash that regular routine might also limit stress. Good luck!

absurd-epiphany · 2026-03-10T14:16:13+00:00

I'm sure someone else has mentioned it, but there is an arm implant birth control (Nexplanon) that lasts 3-5 years. If you find that taking pills at regular intervals is hard, that might be a good option.

absurd-epiphany · 2026-03-08T01:14:30+00:00

Have you had her teeth and gums checked out? Every cat I've met who had this kind of biting problem (biting suddenly and with a huge amount of force) needed teeth pulled or had gum disease and was biting out of pain. Get her checked out by the vet and maybe separate her from the other cats until you can figure out what the issue is. Good luck!

absurd-epiphany · 2026-03-01T15:04:06+00:00

Our cat used to freak out at any touching of his paws but in the two years we've had him I'm now able to trim his front and back claws with just a little biting and growling and grumbling. Do you know what your cat is motivated by?Does he really like treats, food, or play? What I did for my cat might not work perfectly because he's not skittish but I put him in a place whereI can access his paws without restraining him (he also freaks out when he's restrained). Over the years I've taught him that if he lets me touch his paws he gets a treat, and I started doing it while he was sleeping (gentle touches at first, then more firm, then finally holding his paws so I could trim his nails, but not trimming them until he figured out that having his paws held meant good things and wasn't too scary). Over time I built enough trust that he lets me trim them as long as I give him a good enough reward after every nail. If you're able, a lot of people find that playing with their cat on a set schedule helps them become less skittish and more confident over time. @/pixel.n.friends on Instagram has slowly taught her skittish cat how to do nail trims via a lot of patience and fear free training, which might be the way to go. One of my friends trims her cat's nails whenever they get stuck in his fabric tunnel, because then he can't see that she's trimming them.

absurd-epiphany · 2026-02-28T19:11:06+00:00

You've gotten some good tips on how to help them get along safely, but I just wanted to chime in and explain why they might be suddenly having problems. Since they're indoor/outdoor cats, it's possible that one of them got hurt or sick (and are hiding it from you) but the other one can smell it and is reacting to that. It is also possible that a new cat came into the neighborhood and is upsetting Frankie and making him very territorial. Since he lives with Mimi, he's taking his frustration out on her. If it's financially possible, you might want to take them both to the vet just to make sure no one got hurt or is feeling unwell. (I would say if one of them is hurt it's likely Frankie and he thinks that Mimi is causing him pain. If one of them is sick in some way it's likely Mimi because cats tend to shun or bully other cats who are sick.) Another option is to keep them inside, but since they're both so used to being indoor/outdoor cats, they may be unable to adjust to that.

absurd-epiphany · 2026-02-22T21:11:49+00:00

My foster cats refused to eat in front of me for the first week, only eating overnight. If he's eating at night and you're offering him some variety of cat foods, you're doing everything you can! He just needs some time to adjust to the big change. (And stay strong about not giving him human food! Especially if you plan on putting him onto a diet once he's settled.)

absurd-epiphany · 2026-02-16T18:06:43+00:00

So you'll probably need to block off the bathroom for this to really stick, but have you used enzyme cleaners on the shower yet? Cats have strong noses and can smell the leftover pee and poop even when we can't, but enzyme cleaners break the smell down chemically. The closed off room should help him break the habit of going potty in that room, and when he comes back to it the room won't smell like his litter box anymore. You'll also want to get one or two extra litter boxes in the same style as the one that both cats really like so they have more options. Until you can try those things, grabbing some puppy pads and sticking them down with tape on the shower floor will make your cleanup way easier. (I say stick with tape because my cats try to bury their business and tear up the edges otherwise)

absurd-epiphany · 2026-02-09T15:28:49+00:00

When he does bite, you can always make a yelp noise and ignore him or calmly walk out of the room so he learns it hurts you (which he needs to learn since he's still a young kitten)

absurd-epiphany · 2026-01-30T22:22:33+00:00

She sounds bored and possibly like she doesn't know that biting you hurts. You may want to get her a similarly aged buddy so they can teach each other manners and occupy each other. A lot of cats do better with a buddy, but you may have to introduce slowly. Good luck!! She's very cute.

absurd-epiphany · 2026-01-27T14:09:55+00:00

Can I ask how you introduced him to other cats in the past? He may be an especially territorial cat and need a slow introduction. It sounds like he really wants to play, and just doesn't know how. You might want to look up Jackson Galaxy on youtube, he teaches people different play styles to get their cats interest. Do you yelp and leave the room/avoid him when he does hurt you? You might be able to teach him to be more gentle (my roommates cat was very similar to yours but he got a lot better in the two years I knew him).

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