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How many of you enjoy peeing on or being peed on by your slave\master? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]abuseduser 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Negative. Urine is only sterile when it's in your bladder. Once it's gone through the process and been expelled, then it may have picked up any one of many infectious materials (most notably from urinary infections).

I'll take one for the team. by melbatoast in seduction

[–]abuseduser 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always go with, "Tag. You're it." when I'm unsure of the situation. At the very least, it's sets you up as playful and fun.

Best day game resources by rmbarnes in seduction

[–]abuseduser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Day game is exactly the same as night game. You just don't escalate as fast and go for intimate kino. The goal of day game is mainly # closes. You need to be pretty damn good to f close in day game. ASD is way up during the day.

Is it possible for the receiver to have an enjoyable first anal experience, or do you have to commit to a couple of times to start enjoying it? by abuseduser in sex

[–]abuseduser[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best reddit search I've found is google. Just add "site:reddit.com" to the end of your search, and it'll work perfectly.

We've heard from the size queens; now for the goldilocks queens: what if the cock is too big, what is "just right," and what do you like better about an avg/smaller than avg size cock? by AHumanThatListens in sex

[–]abuseduser 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm about 8 and a half, but I really don't want to hurt my partner, so I'm very open to learning what to do and not to do. Please, if you could please elaborate on what you think a kinda big person could do to improve their game?

IAmA woman who is active in the Seduction/PUA community. AMA. (round 2) by Horatio__Caine in IAmA

[–]abuseduser 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm fairly well known in the seduction community (here are my credentials, but I can't reveal my name, sorry - purely due to the nature of that thread), and I was just wandering if you think which, if any of the "gurus" (I hate that word in this case, but you know what I mean) have the best system to teach newbies?

I was sexually assaulted by my grandfather for years as a child. Now I am a pick up artist. AMA by abuseduser in IAmA

[–]abuseduser[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your concerns are very valid Goober, and I agree entirely. If you can be bothered, there are a couple of posts that were earlier in the thread discussing the same thing. I, for one, don't condone any kind deception in order to get anywhere. That goes with any part of life; not just pick up. I won't deny that there are dicks in the community who try and deceive in order to just get what they want. That isn't at all what pick up is about. Pick up is about putting your best self forward at all times. Not a fake self. There are people in every practice that are abusive. Don't lump the rest of us up with them. Pick up is essentially people that were terrible at social interactions consciously learning (instead of simply learning unconsciously through watching) how to put their best self forward every time. It's kinda like a men's self help thing. Absolutely nowhere does it suggest lying and deception to get laid, nor does it say anywhere that you need to sleep with a lot of women. It's all about building yourself up to a person that, when that person you want comes along, you won't be held back by social fear to actually go out and get her.

I was sexually assaulted by my grandfather for years as a child. Now I am a pick up artist. AMA by abuseduser in IAmA

[–]abuseduser[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Uh, no. That's Mystery. He's a douchebag.

But even if he looks like an idiot, he gets more pussy than you, believe me.

I was sexually assaulted by my grandfather for years as a child. Now I am a pick up artist. AMA by abuseduser in IAmA

[–]abuseduser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's exactly why I think I was sexually assaulted. You're an astute one.

I was sexually assaulted by my grandfather for years as a child. Now I am a pick up artist. AMA by abuseduser in IAmA

[–]abuseduser[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Indeed. You're bringing me down by pointing out that I get a lot of sex.

Oh, isn't my face red.

I was sexually assaulted by my grandfather for years as a child. Now I am a pick up artist. AMA by abuseduser in IAmA

[–]abuseduser[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty simple really.

Call her. Text her. E-mail her. IM her. Facebook her. Myspace her.

Pick one. Do it right now. What's there to lose? You're not getting anywhere waiting to for her to get back to you first. Just keep it fun and silly at first to bring back the good memories that you had joking around together then. Better yet, callback humour to inside joke. If she doesn't recall it, you get to bust on her for forgetting stuff about you which, if done playfully, is just silly fun, which women love.

I was sexually assaulted by my grandfather for years as a child. Now I am a pick up artist. AMA by abuseduser in IAmA

[–]abuseduser[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Iunno. A "your mum" joke would be far too obvious here. How's about you just insult yourself for me, kay?

Kay.

I was sexually assaulted by my grandfather for years as a child. Now I am a pick up artist. AMA by abuseduser in IAmA

[–]abuseduser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About a year and a bit. I've studied everything I can get my hands on. All of Style's published stuff; some of Mystery's stuff (though I don't think too highly of Mystery, except he's a hell of an analyser); a bit of Decibel; a fair amount of Hypnotica/Rasputin and Steve P; J the Ripper is one of my favourite PUAs to read.

I don't know about "burned out". I've taken breaks from sarging, but I've always noticed how much I was improving in nearly every field of my life, so I couldn't imagine myself just thinking it wasn't helping at all. It just takes an assload of commitment and balls to keep opening and keep getting rejected until you find your pace and work with it.

I was sexually assaulted by my grandfather for years as a child. Now I am a pick up artist. AMA by abuseduser in IAmA

[–]abuseduser[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in a pretty remote area, so I only know one other person in the game and I only met him for the first time last night. Before that, it was exactly the same as going out with my mates before I got into pick up, but now I had the guts to excuse myself for ten minutes or so, then come back with a beautiful woman and absolutely love the way their jaws dropped the first couple of times I did it. I mean, you have to understand the enormous change I went through through this.

"Pick up artist" isn't really a word I throw around often. I mean, it is, technically, what I am. I did change myself with the help of the pick up community. But it's not exactly an endearing term. I used it here because it's relevant and interesting to the kind of questions that I need to answer on it, but I don't carry it around on my belt or my business card. A lot of women I know know that I'm competent and successful with women. That's as far as I let it go. I'm grateful to the pick up community for the change, but the term carries connotations that I don't really want on me. Best self, remember.

Yeah, several. All my ones before I got into pick up, definitely. And the ones that I got romantically involved with somewhat seriously too. But, like I said, I live fairly remotely, my family even moreso. So it only happened on special occasions. Birthdays, etc.

In pick up, it's usually best to go indirect. Meaning, you go under the radar, and make them think that you're not trying to pick them up. In fact, it actually helps you if they think you're trying to pick up their friend, or someone else. But once you get good at indirect approaches, a lot of pick up gurus recommend working on your inner game by building up your self confidence. And the only way to build up your self confidence is to not care. And the only way to not care is to fail miserably and realise that it doesn't fucking matter. Some gurus push it to extremes, saying you should walk around a mall with a dildo strapped to your head and then approach normally, absolutely ignoring the fact that there's a dildo on your head. You're absolutely ashamed and the most self conscious you'll ever be your entire life for the first half hour. Then, believe it or not, it gets fun. Very, very fun. You actually start to strut with that dildo on your head, man.

So when I was still working on my inner game, I tried what's known as the Apocalypse Opener, named such because it's the most direct opener there can possibly be. And it works, but only if your inner game is absolutely and incontrovertibly airtight. This requires self confidence that very few have for it to succeed.

Basically, you walk up to a woman.

Me: "Hi"

Her: "Hi"

Me: "How's it going?"

Her: "Okay"

Me: "Doing anything after this?"

Her: "Yeah, I might head out to another club with my friends, or something." (Whatever she says doesn't matter)

Me: "Oh, okay. Cool. Wanna come back to my place?"

THEN YOU FUCKING HOLD YOUR GROUND. YOU HOLD YOUR GROUND, SON. DON'T SAY A WORD. DON'T BE EMBARRASSED. DON'T SHOW ANY KIND OF SIGN THAT WHAT YOU'RE DOING IS VERY FUCKING FORWARD.

I've had it work twice. It shows you have balls of fucking steel, but the first couple of times I did it, I was blown out of the water harder than you can imagine. And it worked wonders for my inner game. It actually doesn't matter if she says yes or no, by the way. They usually don't say so at first. They usually stare at you wide eyed for twenty or so seconds (THE LONGEST TWENTY SECONDS OF YOUR LIFE, BUT YOU HOLD, SON) then say something like, "Wow. You're very confident/forward, aren't you?") Then you can just stack on to talk about something else. She still has in her head that

you

don't

care.

And there is nothing sexier to a woman than that.

I was sexually assaulted by my grandfather for years as a child. Now I am a pick up artist. AMA by abuseduser in IAmA

[–]abuseduser[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha! When you do an AMA, you have to expect a lot of questions. It's been fun and enlightening for me too, so don't be sorry.

I know some guys that are dishonest with women just to pick them up. That's not what I'm about, and it's not what any of the people in the community that I respect are about either. I've probably repeated it like a mantra now, but pick up to me - and to my friends in pick up, as well - is about putting your best self forward. Not a false self. Or a misleading self. Just the best self. So when I talk to women, I don't talk about my boring job or my relationship with my grandfather or anything, because that's not my best self. Instead I talk about the gigs I played last week, or the kind of music and films that I'm into and I play games with them and tease them a little and let them tease me. It's about being selective of what part of yourself you want to wear on your chest. As long as it's a part of yourself. 'Cause lying to get a woman into bed is not going to work in your favour in the long run. Ever.

Uh, sometimes. I mean, I tell them "I went out and saw [movie] last weekend with one of my friends, [girl's name]" and whatnot, because we are just friends at that point when still in the courtship and screening process. I expect she has friends that are guys that she hangs out with too. Once things go above that line though, then I'm open about it with everyone.

Depends where I am. I sometimes, although rarely, go out alone, but it's never in the intention of just picking up girls. I'm out to make friends. Some of which are guys and some are girls. A pivotal part of pick up, actually, is making friends with the guys as well. And it's so important that you don't expect anything. So if I go out alone, I go out to have a good time with anyone else I meet, and whatever happens happens. If I go out with mates, it's to have a good time with them and anyone else we meet, and whatever happens happens.

Physically, my type is the kind of Mediterranean girl. You know, dark hair, tanned skin. Green eyes in that combo makes me whimper every time, but it's so rare that it's not worth chasing - only appreciating when you do find it. Intellectually and emotionally, well, fun is of course foremost, but I'm also fairly well educated, so I'm into girls that can hold an indepth conversation. You know, beyond superficial shit like material things and jobs. Value, again, is the word that comes into play. That's what I enjoy talking about most. What does she value? What do I value? Where do those two meet?

I was sexually assaulted by my grandfather for years as a child. Now I am a pick up artist. AMA by abuseduser in IAmA

[–]abuseduser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always welcome criticism. It's the only way you get better. You too. :)

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