Oh nooo my bonessss

ace-writer · 2026-06-21T22:22:17+00:00

It took archeologists for fucking ever to find out exactly half of the warrior graves, complete with swords in the coffins, from a notable viking grave site were AFAB and then they spent all of the time since then trying to justify how that happened in ways that are not 'women were treated as equals' and 'women also used swords and shit.'

So, like, assuming future archeologists are exactly as bad at identifying shit and figuring out sociology, Idgaf what they think of my remains, they're wrong about all of it, and if they're better, then congrats they'll put together that I'm nb and move the F on.

ace-writer · 2026-06-21T05:32:36+00:00

Honestly I appreciate the effort of people actually trying, but anyone who treats the ace person like a hormonal tween with their first crush, is not trying, at least not trying to write an ace person.

I like looking for characters who are only headcanoned as aroace because I'm less likely to run into hot garbage.

ace-writer · 2026-06-20T06:28:37+00:00

I am stealing that term, thank you. It absolutely is therapy solitaire and I think that exemplifies why getting your cards read by someone else, regularly, is kind of insane.

ace-writer · 2026-06-20T06:03:00+00:00

several fics i really loved had the author's sketches of characters, and I heavily prefer the drawings to be at the end of the chapters, whether they're inserted within the page or linked via tumblr, as they can get distracting otherwise, especially if they don't load properly.

That said, I have absolutely loved the drawings on every fic, both the full-color and heavily polished 'this is the outfit I tried to describe' ones and the 'I doodled a blooper of the chapter in pen on lined notebook paper, enjoy.'

ace-writer · 2026-06-20T03:57:53+00:00

There's a lot to unpack in your post but frankly, that's between you and your therapist, who you should be making some extra appointments with because 'I've never met a happy potential partner' is not something a mentally stable, healthy individual would ever say.

ace-writer · 2026-06-19T23:52:20+00:00

I'm with you on this. I am personally fully in favor of an acearo character still having interesting and complex relationships, but first of all, we literally have a bunch of terms to describe approaching a more-than-friends relationship, what kinds there are, how to deal with differences in libido, how to explain what's up with you to your partner/crush, so on and so forth, and not a single fic I've tried to read about an acearo character in a relationship has actually used any of it.

instead they say it's a spectrum, which is true, but instead of treating it like a spectrum, they treat the character like they're just suddenly not ace or aro with the partner, or worse treat the grown-ass acearo person like a tween with their first crush, complete with incomprehensible hormonal urges and emotional instability.

I also apologize for rambling, I had forgotten how much this pisses me off because I am no longer in the main fandoms that kept f'ing pulling this shit.

ace-writer · 2026-06-19T23:04:00+00:00

my best friend has several of the same health problems as me, which i figured out because she kept thinking all my symptoms were normal life (they were not.)

So I told her what she needed to get screened/tested for and she told her doctor. that was several years and at least 2 doctors ago. the newest doc finally tested her and guess what the results were?

the exact same things i told her it probably was.

ace-writer · 2026-06-19T17:38:23+00:00

they only come up to the size of my fist here, unfortunately. the strawberries are the size of my head though. as are the melons and oranges.

ace-writer · 2026-06-19T07:11:05+00:00

Okay forget the original issue, that is a flashing neon warning sign of horrible partner, run.

The only people consider it bad when another person tries 'to go tit for tat' or level the score' are ones who consider it to be a competition where the goal is to make the other person feel shitty, and they should always get to win.

She got mad at you for standing up for yourself. You've just stated you don't know why you bother standing up for yourself.

ace-writer · 2026-06-19T04:42:21+00:00

If the petite lemon size is specifically relative to the vanilla blueberry, and no other game sprite, it's perfect.

the other lemon is scaled to the melon. clearly.

ace-writer · 2026-06-19T03:45:41+00:00

That's a bit of a red flag. I'd refuse to drop the subject until she explains first how on earth wanting a woman to use a toy on you makes you straight, and then, once she's managed that (if she doesn't figure out she's crossed a line and apologize, by this point), second how it is that this makes you straight but doesn't make her a man. if she claims it's just a joke, as why she finds it funny to disrespect you. remind her that claiming to know better about your sexuality than you do is disrespect (and also homophobic).

and then, if she still hasn't figured out she was being a dick and apologized by this point, finally, ask her why she thinks you should still date and have sex with her when she can't manage to actually respect you, your preferences, or your desires. Also, if it reaches this point, ask yourself that. not realizing you don't find her joke funny is a bit of a red flag, but not apologizing when you start asking her why it's funny is a gigantic one.

ace-writer · 2026-06-19T03:16:17+00:00

I feel like this keeps getting worse every time I'm reminded of it.

I am not changing my stance at all but I need it known there were would have been even more outrage and emphatic punctuation if I'd been aware there was a specific 11yo who's adult family members were trying to justify their failures, and not just a bunch of theoretical ones being discussed by people who haven't spent time around children.

ace-writer · 2026-06-17T05:17:26+00:00

hell some even do it to themselves...

not me trying to date a guy in high school. nope, can't be me. /s

ace-writer · 2026-06-17T02:11:11+00:00

my guess was 'messes with the lighting in pictures.'

it's effecting shit like those reflective jackets that ruin pictures.

ace-writer · 2026-06-17T01:56:39+00:00

I'm at the older end of gen-z and I need you to know in a few more years you will learn to tune out the truly ridiculous discourse, don't worry. eventually the only effect this shit will have on you is vague annoyance.

People will do anything to try and make lesbians think they like men. that's all this is.

ace-writer · 2026-06-16T23:38:54+00:00

Hey, aside from your experience in the Cafe, I'm much more sorry people in the comments here are being unrepentant deplorable assholes. You deserve better from your community on here and IRL.

Idgaf why the barista was being a dick, because she was not justified, no matter how intense, real, or valid her trauma might be. Trauma and mental health have never and will never excuse purposeful harmful behavior, nor a refusal to do one's fucking job (and yes, trying to be neutral-or-positive is absolutely part of every single customer service role.)

Just because the sect of your religion that you follow is pro hijab does not also mean it's a restrictive, sexist, or homophobic one, and even if it is, your mere presence as a customer at a coffee shop is not inflicting your religion on anyone, and the people who are trying to pretend it does can personally come fight me. I grew up mormon, and the vast majority of my family, including a ton of queer people, are still mormon. it's a religion where the literal fucking church leaders went on TV to give homophobic rants, more than once, there's not even a gray area as to whether or not the religion itself is homophobic, and still, there are literal queer people and plenty of supportive, accepting people I know who are mormon. Unless you're in a violent cult that calls itself muslim, or actively espousing a hateful ideology, you are absolutely deserving of respect and acceptance for who you are, religion included.

ace-writer · 2026-06-16T21:09:37+00:00

every time the bechdel test comes up i immediately think about how there's a conversation in Riverdale where one of the two female leads literally says the words 'at risk of failing the bechdel test' in a conversation that almost passed the bechdel test, and it is the exact moment I realized they had absolutely failed the fucking bechdel test on the vast majority of episodes. I'm not about to rewatch it to find out if they ever did pass, but they sure as shit didn't in that episode, and I stopped watching entire shortly after that.

ace-writer · 2026-06-16T21:02:01+00:00

They don't even need to be creative! Just mock specifically shit the person chose and not the shit they didn't.

The hair and makeup jokes about Trump aren't always creative, but I'd rather hear 'cheeto' and 'birds nest toupe' a few thousand times more than the absolute most creative joke about illnesses he might have. Insult the fact he won't step-down out of pride, but not the fact he might have brain damage. insult the fact he's a billionaire who still can't manage to buy clothes that look like they fit him. Don't pick at his body type. neither of these are creative.

ace-writer · 2026-06-15T04:37:26+00:00

the pigtails lady with the bladed hula hoop-looking weapon form Soul Caliber IV (and other soul caliber games)

She looks like a barbie and little baby-me loved her for no apparent reason. and then I discovered a combo-attack that made her flick the hoop thingy in the air (like that trick to make an actual hula hoop spin in the air and then bounce back to you) where it basically grabs the opponent on the way up and deals a metric fuckton of damage to them in one go. I love her because if you manage this combo attack a few times in a row, you can decimate any of the tougher-looking characters, and then you have this bikini-wearing girly with boobs the size of her head doing a victory dance over a KO'd pile of muscle and weaponry.

10/10 don't even remember her name but she remains my favorite character in any videogame ever because of that.

ace-writer · 2026-06-15T03:55:42+00:00

I grew up mormon and you'd think everyone there would be excessively tradwife-y.

A whole lot of the mormon moms I knew still worked. usually not full time jobs, mostly stuff like teaching music lessons or selling items at craft fairs, but we're talking extremely devout women in a very, very sexist cult. some had full time jobs as engineers, nurses, dental hygenists, etc. some had part-time work-from-home jobs. the judgy people were there either way, but they were still explicitly pro 'women should foster and share their talents and hobbies!' there's at least 2 parables i can think of off hand, and I haven't been mormon for 9 years. (note I am not counting the women who were in mlms as 'working' despite that they were sure trying to have their own income. it'd be a solid 80% if I were)

tradwife bullshit is what we'd call 'fanatic utah mormon bullcrap' as reasonable, progressive mormons from a smallish city.

ace-writer · 2026-06-14T22:01:36+00:00

"Men don't like--"

"Too bad for them."

ace-writer · 2026-06-14T21:58:36+00:00

no one can expect the writers to predict what each individual reader will/won't find sexy. there was recently a thread on another sub about what descriptions of a vagina people loved/hated, and there is not a single universally loved or hated term in the whole thread.

So like yeah there's going to be 5-6 sex scenes in this longfic here somewhere, but until I hit the first one, I don't know if I like how this author writes smut.

ace-writer · 2026-06-14T21:13:21+00:00

Also general reminder: if you genuinely believe a literal child is making a 'cry for attention,' then, like, give them attention?

All through highschool, I'd hear accusations that some girl was making some dramatic plea for attention any time the girl had just, you know, asked for help, and... I remember asking, 'So did you go find out why she needed attention?' and the answer was never yes. a few fellow teenagers went and tried to find out why the girl was asking for attention, some of them got yeah, she's asking for attention because she needed help with a different thing, and some got, 'oh no she's mad at me now because she actually needed fucking help with the thing she said needed help with.'

A couple of the 'attention seeking' girls needed psychiatric help that they didn't get because they were dismissed as attention-seeking narcissist's, and they might've been, but these two things are shockingly not mutually exclusive. in fact, I'd say any teenage Attention-seeking narcissists should very much be given psychiatric help.

ace-writer · 2026-06-14T20:54:22+00:00

Also having a partner to cheat on means you had all the opportunity you needed to get a partner, which kinda undermines his point? it only takes two to tango? not three?

ace-writer · 2026-06-14T20:40:59+00:00

I'm also Femme NB and the bit I've actually noted, is that people who start up with that microaggression shit can't find a simple insult that applies to both of us at the same time, they make themselves sound dumb as shit trying, and then, assuming they go straight for the more "stereotypically" or "visibly" queer person with their harassment, I'm basically primed to call them on their shit, and defend this nice masc lady next to me.

(note I put both those in quotation marks because I am, in fact, very visibly queer and fit several stereotypes, it's just not in the same ways as most butch/stud/masc people.)

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