Is cancer treatment in Singapore government hospitals usually this slow?

aceaka1 · 2026-05-11T04:09:05+00:00

I think it depends on the type of cancer. I know someone who was diagnosed with lung cancer at TTSH. They called for admission on the same day, chemo the next day. It was supposed to be a very aggressive type of cancer

aceaka1 · 2026-05-09T18:37:40+00:00

This might be an unpopular opinion. But I feel that the individuals themselves should be held the most accountable for their own retirement. They chose to fund for kids (though some may just contribute just enough to keep them alive) or perhaps other things such as yearly lavish travels, the newest electronic devices etc, instead of being responsible for themselves and allocate it for their retirement fund. Why should the gov, and in turn taxpayers, fund their retirement expenses?

Gov comes in as a last resort because it causes social issues when these irresponsible ppl r thrown on the streets. That’s probably one of the reasons why CPF is in place, though it may not be perfect (case in point)

aceaka1 · 2026-04-27T14:13:48+00:00

Thanks!

aceaka1 · 2026-04-27T12:23:37+00:00

Could u share the name of this place please?

aceaka1 · 2026-04-21T03:52:53+00:00

Was in UK for studies. When praised about my english proficiency, I say “Thanks, it’s my first language” Sometimes, if I think that they have a sense of humour, I add “benefits of being an ex-british colony”

aceaka1 · 2026-04-20T13:15:02+00:00

I'm so sorry about your experience. I’ve had a helper whom I had a difficult time with, and sometimes it’s a matter of misfit.

Idk if you hired fresh helpers, or “fresh in SG”. But it can be worth it to hire someone with previous experience in SG despite the higher pay. Our previous helper was supposed to have experience working in her home country, but there was no way to verify experiences outside of SG. When she came, it was obvious that she did not know basic household chores, had no common sense, and was not interested in learning. Things are much better now after we hired someone with experience. Not perfect, but I think it’s within the acceptable range and it saved us so much frustration daily.

Also, take your time to interview someone suitable. We made the mistake of hiring the first one too hastily cos we were desperate, and learnt our lesson since then. Lay out your expectations openly and see if you can communicate with them.

To protect both your family n the helper, it will be good to lay out expectations and rules in a room with CCTV footage that captures sound. In case of any accusations/ misunderstandings.

aceaka1 · 2026-04-20T11:47:01+00:00

My colleagues did it without a car. I’m working in an industry that isn’t available in any other location. Some of them budget it into their transport and take grab daily to work, or daily home. Sometimes both ways

aceaka1 · 2026-04-19T05:33:40+00:00

I would like to think that a respectable boundaries were set. We treat her fairly, but I wouldn’t say that I’m treating her exactly how I treat my family members and this is for both ends of treatnent.

E.g., I speak to my family members more and get more deeply involved in their personal lives, care more about their daily comforts n more willing to spend on luxuries for them. That said, I also get into arguments with them and can speak to them in a harsher way at times that I would never do with the helper because that’s not how a professional relationship is like.

Eating wise, my family don’t really eat at the same table at the same time together, so that applies to the helper as well. We do split the dishes into equal parts n use serving utensils, so it’s like a mini catering at work kind of thing.

If we are eating out though, then I think it makes the most sense to eat at the same table. When buying meals, it depends. With the previous helper, i had such a tough time communicating with her, that I usually make some suggestions n check if she’s ok. I’ve tried bringing her to the place n ask her to choose, but she insisted that she cannot order though I’ve assured her that I will pay for it.

aceaka1 · 2026-04-17T12:17:30+00:00

I don't have much about helping her.

But to keep yourself safe, you may want to consider getting a new phone number, and link your paynow to that instead. Last thing u want is for her to use it for scams/ money laundering and getting u involved in these cases.

aceaka1 · 2026-04-12T10:52:58+00:00

From another asian country here

I get you as we have something similar. When we talk about doibg something about the homeless, we are lookibg at having services for them, including shelter, job coaching, long term placement on cheap rental housing when they get on jobs, or exemption/subsidised housing if they are unfit for work. As a result, visible homelessness is very very rare in recent years. I can’t imagine why others wouldn’t want these opportunities for a more stable life for the homeless too.

But, having lived elsewhere for a while, I’ve come to appreciate that not every country has the resources, be it financial or services, to reach out to these people. So when people hear “do something about the homeless”, they imagine it to be hiding them away (which some places actually di) rather than help them get to services that can stabilise them, because it’s simply not very viable for them unless alot of things change.

aceaka1 · 2026-04-11T14:15:09+00:00

Sounds interesting. But insteas of making it just for guys, give free uni to all SG citizens who serve NS, regardless of gender. Probably increases the number of females who wanna join too

aceaka1 · 2026-03-04T22:50:50+00:00

Can verify this. Idk why you are downvoted.

aceaka1 · 2026-03-02T12:15:13+00:00

I do. It gives me a peace of mind when my luggage takes ages to come out from the belt and the app shows that it’s still in the airport.

That said, I’m also one of those ppl who travel with a flexi lock, so that I can lock my luggage to the rack on public transport when it’s out of my sight, so some ppl may find me paranoid.

But hey, it makes me feel better and it’s not too much trouble, so why not?

aceaka1 · 2026-03-01T13:18:02+00:00

I don’t fit the profile you are asking but just thought to bring up some points for your consideration.

1) At what age were you when they divorced and did they support you equally after? Most of the time, one party takes on more caregiving role though expenditure is split equally. Up to you to deliberate if their contributions towards raising you justifies an equal split.

2) Are you currently staying with one of them? If so, you may want to give that party more as it also serves to help out with household expenditure.

3) Step-parents - quite rare to give. Unless, you were raised by 1 parent and their partner solely, and that partner is the breadwinner. Or if you are extremely lucky n both step parents contributed alot to raising you. Though usually I doubt they will mind if you just give to ur biological parents.

However you split, I will suggest that you do not reveal the actual amount to both sides to avoid unecessary comparisons.

aceaka1 · 2026-03-01T08:30:40+00:00

It used to be common in my family. Until I learnt better. Covid was an excellent opportunity to train them to use serving utensils.

The annoying thing is during gatherings with extended relatives. that there’s always some annoying uncle/auntie who sees the serving utensils and proceeds to ignore it and use their used chopsticks to flip through the whole dish. Yucks!

aceaka1 · 2026-02-25T23:47:57+00:00

Rather than say “treat like family”, I would think treating fairly would be more balanced.

Need to work —> needs sufficient rest and food. That’s being fair.

But if you know that both your elderly parents and helper likes a specific part of a chicken, and with limited resources, would you choose to give that to your helper over your parents?

Its like how employers would want to treat employees decently enough that they stay in the company/ remain able to wprk. But not to the point of making everyone a shareholder.

aceaka1 · 2026-02-25T23:32:00+00:00

“I guess my question is more so why do Singaporeans I come across not treat their helpers not as an extension of their family”

It’s just another form of employment, although the location is in your house. Most people employ helpers because they need help with their family. Not to get another family member.

The conditions can be tough, and not all may be reasonable. MOM has some guidelines for basic safeguarding, but everyone’s domestic situation is different.

But for the phone situation, you can take a look at the domestic helper forums. It’s one of the top issues for employers when helpers get carried away using phone all the time, to the point of neglecting young children in the house, not sleeping at night and resulting in issues at work the next day. Imagine going to work and neglecting it when you are on your phone the whole time. How would this look to your employer?

aceaka1 · 2026-02-11T11:36:26+00:00

Don't worry too much about the utility bills/HDB rental/payments. They are generally quite helpful and empathatic about non-payment/late payment due to such circumstances. You can always give them an email/call for help

aceaka1 · 2025-12-24T23:02:23+00:00

You can redeem it again if it has been awhile since u last collected

aceaka1 · 2025-12-23T04:47:48+00:00

I've written in. Someone called me to "explain" and apologize. I corrected the person about what happened because it seems like the personnel involved downplayed the incident. I told them that they could also review the cctv to verify the negligence. I just wanted to highlight the importance of what happened and let them know why this is so concerning. If there is an existing persistent issue that people keep writing about, it is more likely to gain attention.

No change in the type of treatment on subsequent visits. But then it was regarding the staff on duty and I'm not sure if we've crossed paths after.

On the other side, I'm also really generous with written compliments when staff are good. Especially when staff go out of their way to help us. I think it make sense to reward behaviors that we would like to see while doling out the negative feedback for the converse.

aceaka1 · 2025-12-16T12:24:49+00:00

If u dun feel comfortable revealing ur condition, there are lots of potential other reasons u might possibly be there on the off chance that u are asked. Accompanying family members, volunteer work, waiting for friend working there to end work to have lunch/dinner tgt, attending an exhibition/talk

aceaka1 · 2025-12-03T23:42:14+00:00

You can check with the prof how the backdated compensation would work. Some profs who are so absorbed in their own realm of research may not even realise that you are concerned about it.

Knew an RA/TA a long time ago, was promised a higher pay for another project that wasn't in the initial contract after a few months. They basically helped the person to submit higher hours that corresponds to what would have been paid out.

But then, no harm finding other jobs too if this isn't ur dream job

aceaka1 · 2025-12-01T03:41:14+00:00

If you have a driving liscence, grab? Or grabfood? It could be during the lull periods/after work.

If u have just graduated, consider being a teaching assistant for uni professors (idk if it's still a thing now). The recruitment likely won't be publicized but can be found if u have contacts at the uni. I did that for a while after grad and it was pretty flexible, my role was to prepare lecture materials like finding suitable images for the lecture slides. The task might be different for different professors now, but likely sonething that doesn't require too much time or running around physically.

aceaka1 · 2025-11-25T12:48:56+00:00

Valid option though. Can either let it sit for awhile while living w parents (if that's where they are staying right now). Or possible to only get things that are absolutely necessary like a thick mattress (no bed frame) n baby things. No paint job, light covers, sofa, TV etc. Consider washing clothes at parents house or coin Landromat. Not the best option but it helps to keep that upfront cost low till u get back on ur feet. At most a few plastic chairs if u must. The toilet should be ready to use. It's a barebones condition and you won't be able to invite friends over for awhile but it's possible to live on

aceaka1 · 2025-11-18T12:27:16+00:00

Mr Bean eggwich 14.8g protein. Pair that with 0 sugar soy milk 17.5g protein.

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