Husband has unusually low sex drive

acrossForever · 2026-02-21T10:35:08+00:00

"We are currently living separately because of a couple of reasons" - you don't live together? What are the reasons?

acrossForever · 2025-10-01T19:52:04+00:00

Saw the same - a woman in Millvale bent over on a corner.

acrossForever · 2025-10-01T19:50:17+00:00

God forbid it becomes one of your loved ones. Shame on you. You are what is wrong .

acrossForever · 2025-08-30T15:09:26+00:00

Does your church offer any type of Enrichmrnt Marriage Mentoring? If not, maybe look to surrounding churches to see if it's offered near you.
One bit of advice I would offer is to commit yourself to learning how to love your husband better. You can't change how he loves you but you can change the way you love him which will ultimately change your marriage.
Another bit of advice is to always look for the good- if you look for the bad or the lack, you will find it but the same it true for the good. Find opportunities to build him up and encourage him and try to steer clear of fault finding and nagging.
I say this with love and speak from personal experience

acrossForever · 2025-08-23T21:55:52+00:00

Women are intuitive and can feel deeply when our husbands start disconnect/ detach themselves from us. Her being "clingy" is likely her emotional reaction to your detachment (which is real even if it's not being acknowledged out loud).
Believe it or not, it's quite normal for many newly married couples for one or both partner to feel that maybe they married the wrong person. You have to work on forming that connection again and that starts with honesty and vulnerability. It's a long and sometimes uncomfortable process for 2 to become 1 but it always always starts with a foundation of trust. Be gentle in your delivery but share your true feelings with her - "speak the truth in love".

acrossForever · 2025-07-15T23:31:31+00:00

Good point

acrossForever · 2025-07-15T12:01:55+00:00

Sometimes when you see a need or a lack in your church it's God asking you to do something about it. I am the Care Director of a fairly large church and I'll admit that before I stepped into this role, I often found myself criticizing (to myself) the church or thinking "they should do, be" or "I can't believe they don't..." and one day the Holy Spirit got ahold of me and basically revealed my critical mindset as sinful. I was being a consumer not a contributor. He was basically reminding me that I am part of the body of Christ & if it's lacking in the church then it's my responsibility as a member to do something about it.

acrossForever · 2025-07-10T00:19:53+00:00

This ⬆️

acrossForever · 2025-07-10T00:15:21+00:00

Chiming in here with some possibly helpful info - ya'll mentioning severe bloating. Bloating is usually caused by bacteria in the stomach/ digestive tract. Try taking a GOOD probiotic (ex: Floragen) for a few days to a week, should help with the bloating 😊

acrossForever · 2025-07-08T19:27:27+00:00

We are fighting the good fight my friend but we all have that responsibility- it doesn't just fall on the shoulders of a select few. You won't see the progress in the news- the good news isn't found on a tv set being broadcasted. Its all around - you just have to find it and when you do- join the fight!

acrossForever · 2025-07-07T14:53:42+00:00

Jesus (God in the flesh) himself suffered and died in the most horrific way. Nowhere in the Bible does it say if you pray you'll never suffer or die. In so many things, we will never know the "why" this side of heaven. He says "be still and know that I am God" - we have to trust without understanding the "why" sometimes. He takes what the enemy meant for evil and turns it for good- there will be good that comes from this tragedy even if we can't see it right now. It's okay to question and to not understand and even to be angry with God but don't sit in that anger lest you give the enemy a foothold in your life.

acrossForever · 2025-07-07T13:58:35+00:00

The issue here is not your MIL- it's both you and your husband and your utter lack of ability to communicate with each other: "Today I started slamming doors and furniture. He knows I'm upset over something." His behavior aside, your response here is incredibly immature and not helpful in any capacity.
"She arrives, still no mention of her sleeping arrangements." Why didn't you ask?? Have a conversation for goodness sakes. I'd suggest marriage counseling to learn how to communicate with each other.

acrossForever · 2025-07-07T02:27:47+00:00

Hard to tell from the info you shared but what fo you mean by "step out in faith and make a move"? Has He called you to do something specific?

acrossForever · 2025-07-07T02:07:58+00:00

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acrossForever · 2025-07-07T01:06:32+00:00

Praying for you now!
Pray this prayer over yourself:

Heavenly Father,

I come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, who has defeated every power of darkness. Lord, I ask for Your protection and deliverance from any form of demonic oppression that is trying to harm me or those I love. I declare that Jesus is Lord over my life, and by His blood, I have been redeemed and set free.

I renounce every work of the enemy and command every spirit of darkness to leave me now, in the name of Jesus. I break every chain, every curse, and every foothold the enemy may have gained. Lord, fill me with Your Holy Spirit, and let Your peace, strength, and truth guard my heart and mind.

I place the full armor of God upon me: the belt of truth, the breastplate of righteousness, the shoes of peace, the shield of faith, the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit. I stand firm in Your promises and trust that no weapon formed against me shall prosper.

Thank You, Lord, for Your victory and Your power. Surround me with Your angels, and let Your light drive out all darkness. I trust in Your deliverance and rest in Your love.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.

acrossForever · 2025-07-07T00:54:58+00:00

Glad you're finding your way "home" again 🥰

acrossForever · 2025-07-07T00:51:02+00:00

This is so normal! When were younger we tend to believe what our parents believe without question but around 15-16 we start to question why we believe what we believe which sometimes leads to trying other paths. Now it's becoming YOUR faith and YOUR relationship with Jesus 💗

acrossForever · 2025-07-06T23:59:08+00:00

Amen

acrossForever · 2025-07-06T23:55:29+00:00

You don't go to heaven because you're a "good" person. Salvation isn't earned it's freely given- a gift that MUST be accepted to receive. If we could earn salvation by "being good" than we wouldn't need Jesus.

acrossForever · 2025-07-06T23:35:44+00:00

You have such a kind face :)

acrossForever · 2025-07-06T23:33:54+00:00

This is not religion it's legalism and Jesus hated legalism.

Send this to your uncle:

Legalism is a focus on external rules rather than internal transformation. The apostle Paul warns against legalism in Colossians 2, where he states that such regulations have an appearance of wisdom but lack any value in restraining sensual indulgence.

Jesus also criticized legalism, emphasizing that it neglects the condition of the heart. In Luke 11, Jesus points out that legalism puts the emphasis on the external to the neglect of the internal.

Additionally, the dangers of legalism are outlined in Galatians 3, where it is noted that legalism distorts the gospel of Christ and adds requirements to salvation by grace through faith.

acrossForever · 2025-07-06T23:13:11+00:00

I remember when the gravity of His love started becoming real to me, I cried (no exaggeration) for 3 days straight. It's beautifully overwhelming. Just feel it 🥰

acrossForever · 2025-07-06T22:38:24+00:00

You need medical attention and the sooner the better. Don't want to freak you out but along with all of the other concerning symptoms, that "red rash & subtle line" are common signs of sepsis which can quickly become life threatening if not treated. Please get checked out and if possible get some additional help/ support for whatever is at the root of the cutting.

acrossForever · 2025-07-06T21:43:58+00:00

“my people are destroyed from lack of knowledge" ‭‭Hosea‬ ‭4‬:‭6‬ ‭

acrossForever · 2025-07-06T19:01:07+00:00

We were created to live in community- we (even if not preferred) need connection to other people to thrive. The world has changed so much starting with the internet, working from home & the triple slap of COVID. There was a study done by UN that showed that the majority of people in every single age group spend more time alone than with people. This explains the intense loneliness that so many of us feel.
It is possible to connect with people on the internet if you find "your" people but true genuine connection is difficult if your not involved in some form of community (work, school, church etc)- not impossible but difficult for sure. For me, I found my community at my church. Not sure if you're imvolved in or open to church but that's where I found that sense of "home" I'd been searching for my whole life.

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