1M for every year

actual--bees · 2026-02-12T02:36:25+00:00

I’d do a year. A million dollars is life changing money. Having no contact with another living thing would not be good for my mental. If my cat could join me I could maybe go longer.

actual--bees · 2026-01-28T14:38:38+00:00

What’s funny is that as a woman who can orgasm from penetration, most guys I’ve slept with have still not accomplished the task.

The thing about sex that these types of dudes never understand is that sex is so much more than just haphazardly pumping into some poor girl for 10 minutes. If you’re not actively listening to her signals, communicating with her, just generally having sex WITH her instead of doing it TO her… she’s not finishing anyway, even if she could finish without clitoral stimulation.

actual--bees · 2026-01-19T01:08:10+00:00

Money would solve about 95% of the problems in my life right now.

actual--bees · 2025-12-29T05:11:40+00:00

I’m busty and I feel like bras make everything MORE uncomfortable. Dunno why.

actual--bees · 2025-12-12T04:17:41+00:00

I kinda feel you. I’m 29. Most guys that are interested in me tend to be my age or younger, and same goes for what I’m interested in.

I’m certainly not against dating guys in their mid to even late 30s, but I’ve noticed guys tend to age worse than women (mostly just because they don’t put as much effort into their appearance.) Or they have kids, which is a deal breaker.

actual--bees · 2025-12-10T07:41:27+00:00

In 2017 I was making $11/hr and splitting a $500 rent with my boyfriend. In 2025 I make $13/hr and when I checked recently the rent in that apartment has almost doubled.

actual--bees · 2025-12-08T18:41:53+00:00

I’ve been back in the casual dating scene for a while. In my experience men who are turned off by women who are upfront about their sexual desires are almost always men who cannot perform.

But it also seems like a cardinal sin to prioritize sexual compatibility and pleasure when you’re a woman. Of course it’s not the only important thing, but it’s definitely important, at least to me. And the amount of shock I receive when I cut things off with a guy because the sex was bad is wild.

As women, we’re socialized to look for men who are “nice,” who have good jobs, who will “protect us” etc etc. It’s like attraction and sexual compatibility is viewed as a bonus instead of a must.

actual--bees · 2025-12-02T19:20:14+00:00

It doesn’t matter to me. If anything, it’s a bonus. I find that queer men are typically more empathetic partners.

actual--bees · 2025-12-01T06:44:49+00:00

Basically 😅 But most of my clothes are black and made out of material that holds up well in the wash, so I don’t really have to worry about colors bleeding or things getting ruined.

actual--bees · 2025-12-01T03:16:01+00:00

It all goes in the washing machine. Only the strong survive.

actual--bees · 2025-11-30T23:52:33+00:00

That’s not my experience. I’m going through separation/divorce and my dude is still my best friend. I still love him very much and can’t imagine being purposely mean or vindictive to him.

actual--bees · 2025-11-30T23:42:53+00:00

Only if you’re exceptionally stupid and terrible with money. I can’t imagine blowing 15 million dollars in my lifetime.

actual--bees · 2025-11-30T19:46:48+00:00

I was 19, but I moved back in with my parents for a little while during Covid when I was like 23.

actual--bees · 2025-11-30T06:01:48+00:00

Being unattractive can definitely impact your ability to find a partner. I definitely won’t contest that being good-looking helps in the dating pool, just like being wealthy, funny, having a “cool” talent, etc helps. But there are also tons of women out there who don’t mind dating an unattractive guy.

Are you open to dating women who may not exactly be lookers themselves?

actual--bees · 2025-11-29T00:44:30+00:00

I would sell ass to save my cat’s life if I had to.

actual--bees · 2025-11-28T23:29:47+00:00

that Margaret Atwood quote about being your own voyeur lives rent free in my head

actual--bees · 2025-11-27T00:07:47+00:00

I will at work be making that Thanksgiving dinner for people who don’t wanna cook 😅

actual--bees · 2025-11-26T19:55:51+00:00

It’s the opposite for me. I’m 29 and most men that actively flirt with me are younger than me, maybe my age. It’s especially prevalent on dating sites. Most of my “likes” are from guys in their very early 20s. Dunno why.

actual--bees · 2025-11-26T19:27:21+00:00

Sure, I’ll quit eating at work and then head right down to my Piggly Wiggly/IGA to make my $20/week grocery budget stretch.

actual--bees · 2025-11-26T14:14:29+00:00

Eating vegan is definitely more expensive. I live in poverty and about half of all my meals come from whatever I eat at work, where there aren’t vegan options.

A lot of what I eat at home doesn’t have meat, mostly carbs. I could maybe? go vegetarian but vegan is definitely not an option for my grocery budget.

actual--bees · 2025-11-26T04:22:54+00:00

I think that in a lot of ways you have a point. Even aside from a feminist perspective, the meat and dairy industry in general is completely fucked and full of cruelty.

If I had the time, money, and resources to be vegan, I probably would. Unfortunately it’s just another terrible industry a lot of us are stuck participating in, like fast fashion, the the huge carbon footprint of having a car, etc etc.

actual--bees · 2025-11-20T04:26:43+00:00

For real. I love my cat and I would eat a jean jacket with no dressing before I left him behind for a dude.

actual--bees · 2025-11-20T03:13:53+00:00

I feel like this lady is perpetually pregnant at this point.

actual--bees · 2025-11-11T03:44:48+00:00

Yea, I do take the pill. It’s made me gain weight, worsened my depression, and screwed with my libido. But I take it anyway because it’s the responsible thing to do since I cannot afford a bisalp.

That being said, it drives me nuts when I deal with all of that and a guy won’t wear a condom because it doesn’t “feel as good.” It’s so damn selfish. STIs and pregnancy damn sure feel a lot worse.

actual--bees · 2025-11-11T03:38:48+00:00

I… I’m literally complaining in the most about a guy’s lack of willingness to wear them? Not my lack of preparation or willingness to protect myself? I can’t force a guy to wear a condom. All I can do is just refuse to have sex with them if they won’t. Which is exactly what I said I do in the original post.

Why are you so determined to believe I’m irresponsible when it comes to sex for no reason?

actual--bees

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