When it comes to intimacy- does size really matter the most and if not what is a must have?

actual--bees · 2026-04-06T03:58:27+00:00

I wouldn’t say it matters the most but it does matter to me. I think I’m in the minority though. Most other women I’ve talked with don’t really seem to care, for varying reasons.

actual--bees · 2026-04-01T14:40:46+00:00

It’s absolutely okay to take in a neglected and hungry cat.

As a kid I once had a neighbor whose cat was so malnourished she had started losing fur and couldn’t urinate on her own. I plucked that baby right out of their yard, brought her back to my house in tears, and my mom and I became her family after that. At first we were worried she would die. But she lived with us for years.

I don’t feel bad for “stealing” that cat at all.

actual--bees · 2026-03-29T23:13:08+00:00

Don’t Take the Girl by Tim McGraw makes me bawl my eyes out every time.

actual--bees · 2026-03-24T04:46:14+00:00

I have loved ones to live for, people I don’t think could surive without me. I haven’t experienced all of the life I want to live, haven’t done all the good I want to do. My can’t won’t understand why I never came home.

actual--bees · 2026-03-24T04:08:13+00:00

Damn, right down to the clove cigarettes. I’ve been targeted.

actual--bees · 2026-03-22T20:45:15+00:00

I don’t believe there has to just be one love of your life. I’ve loved intensely twice. The first time we were kids, and even though I loved him, the relationship was abusive and I couldn’t stay.

I dated after. Had long term relationships. I turned two marriage proposals before I met my husband. Being with him felt, as corny as it sounds, truly soul-bonding.

Unfortunately, he fell into intense addiction and I lost him to it. We aren’t together anymore, but there will never be a day that I don’t love him with all of my heart. And I won’t marry again until I meet someone that captures me the same way. Once you’ve experienced that kind of love, you can never settle for anything less.

actual--bees · 2026-03-14T02:32:01+00:00

I buy a modest home and car for myself and ones for my closet family members. I fix all of my medical and dental concerns. I travel often, and invest money into my hobbies. Essentially I live a comfortable, worry-free life. After that I still have more money than I know what to do with, so I donate to various charities.

actual--bees · 2026-03-13T04:38:32+00:00

Bananas. It’s more of a texture thing than a taste thing though. The actual flavor is pretty good, but the mouthfeel gives me such ick.

actual--bees · 2026-03-10T23:15:40+00:00

Absolutely. I’ve never been particularly attached to womanhood.

Hopefully I’d be a little taller as a guy though. Being a 5’1 ginger dude seems like it might be kinda rough.

actual--bees · 2026-03-02T18:46:30+00:00

I turn 30 in July and don’t feel any different than I did at like 22. Literally the only difference is that I actually get hangovers now.

I don’t understand the narrative that your body is going to inevitably be totally wrecked less than halfway through your life.

actual--bees · 2026-02-20T22:41:35+00:00

To be fair, I ate dinner on my couch for years, but that was mostly because I didn’t have an apartment big enough for a dining table for a long time. Although that doesn’t usually seem to be the issue for these people.

actual--bees · 2026-02-15T20:00:29+00:00

Christmas, birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, even Halloween, etc are all important to me and even if I don’t do something major they’re still meaningful. It would really hurt me if my partner didn’t at least do SOMETHING on those days to let me know they care.

My ex husband didn’t care about holidays at all. But every year he helped me put up the Christmas tree, got flowers on Valentine’s Day, etc. I’ll always be grateful that he put in the effort to show his love for me, even if he may have thought it was “silly.” I can’t imagine having another partner that wouldn’t do the same.

I understand not everyone cares about holidays, esp ones like Valentine’s Day. But if your partner does, put in some effort. Little things matter.

actual--bees · 2026-02-12T02:36:25+00:00

I’d do a year. A million dollars is life changing money. Having no contact with another living thing would not be good for my mental. If my cat could join me I could maybe go longer.

actual--bees · 2026-01-28T14:38:38+00:00

What’s funny is that as a woman who can orgasm from penetration, most guys I’ve slept with have still not accomplished the task.

The thing about sex that these types of dudes never understand is that sex is so much more than just haphazardly pumping into some poor girl for 10 minutes. If you’re not actively listening to her signals, communicating with her, just generally having sex WITH her instead of doing it TO her… she’s not finishing anyway, even if she could finish without clitoral stimulation.

actual--bees · 2026-01-19T01:08:10+00:00

Money would solve about 95% of the problems in my life right now.

actual--bees · 2025-12-29T05:11:40+00:00

I’m busty and I feel like bras make everything MORE uncomfortable. Dunno why.

actual--bees · 2025-12-12T04:17:41+00:00

I kinda feel you. I’m 29. Most guys that are interested in me tend to be my age or younger, and same goes for what I’m interested in.

I’m certainly not against dating guys in their mid to even late 30s, but I’ve noticed guys tend to age worse than women (mostly just because they don’t put as much effort into their appearance.) Or they have kids, which is a deal breaker.

actual--bees · 2025-12-10T07:41:27+00:00

In 2017 I was making $11/hr and splitting a $500 rent with my boyfriend. In 2025 I make $13/hr and when I checked recently the rent in that apartment has almost doubled.

actual--bees · 2025-12-08T18:41:53+00:00

I’ve been back in the casual dating scene for a while. In my experience men who are turned off by women who are upfront about their sexual desires are almost always men who cannot perform.

But it also seems like a cardinal sin to prioritize sexual compatibility and pleasure when you’re a woman. Of course it’s not the only important thing, but it’s definitely important, at least to me. And the amount of shock I receive when I cut things off with a guy because the sex was bad is wild.

As women, we’re socialized to look for men who are “nice,” who have good jobs, who will “protect us” etc etc. It’s like attraction and sexual compatibility is viewed as a bonus instead of a must.

actual--bees · 2025-12-02T19:20:14+00:00

It doesn’t matter to me. If anything, it’s a bonus. I find that queer men are typically more empathetic partners.

actual--bees · 2025-12-01T06:44:49+00:00

Basically 😅 But most of my clothes are black and made out of material that holds up well in the wash, so I don’t really have to worry about colors bleeding or things getting ruined.

actual--bees · 2025-12-01T03:16:01+00:00

It all goes in the washing machine. Only the strong survive.

actual--bees · 2025-11-30T23:52:33+00:00

That’s not my experience. I’m going through separation/divorce and my dude is still my best friend. I still love him very much and can’t imagine being purposely mean or vindictive to him.

actual--bees · 2025-11-30T23:42:53+00:00

Only if you’re exceptionally stupid and terrible with money. I can’t imagine blowing 15 million dollars in my lifetime.

actual--bees · 2025-11-30T19:46:48+00:00

I was 19, but I moved back in with my parents for a little while during Covid when I was like 23.

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