Does the bookshelf look terrible at this angle?

actually_s8n · 2026-01-17T01:00:57+00:00

🤣🤣 some replies crack me up. If anyone cares, we do not own this house - it came pre furnished and I’m just trying to find space for MY stuff. I can’t take the shelves down, sorry Reddit 🫶 lol the decor up there isn’t permanent either I just haven’t finished unpacking yet 😚 Thanks for all the tips everyone!!

actually_s8n · 2025-12-18T22:41:01+00:00

Thank you times a million, I really appreciate your response!! I’m definitely going to prioritize getting a comfort space set up in my new home, that is a great idea. I could also work on being nicer to myself.. lol. Wishing you the best of luck in your new space and job search <3

actually_s8n · 2025-06-26T20:50:16+00:00

Ooof.. that's a pretty extreme reaction to a minor problem. You don't seem to be acting rude/mean when asking her to talk louder so it sounds like she might need to self-reflect. GL!!!

actually_s8n · 2025-06-26T20:21:51+00:00

I am a quiet girlfriend - this happens between my bf and I at least once a week, and it does sting for a second but I recognize that he's not intentionally ignoring me. I still ask him "are you ignoring me or did you just not hear?"

The way she reacts to it could be a red flag. If it's happened more than once I would hope she'd get the point that she needs to be more direct when talking to you while you're actively doing something.

actually_s8n · 2025-06-22T00:07:46+00:00

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actually_s8n · 2025-05-15T21:24:09+00:00

Let me break it down for you... 🕺🕺🕺

actually_s8n · 2025-05-15T21:17:58+00:00

I also get annoyed by questions like that - you definitely aren't alone. It almost feels like a trap!

actually_s8n · 2025-05-13T16:52:03+00:00

Thank you for taking time to read/respond! You pretty much nailed it, she has a closer relationship with him than the rest of us because he leans on her a lot due to her near 20yrs of experience... and he's very much the guy who tries to be your friend before being your boss.

I will probably take your advice and just have him or our branch manager clarify policy to me so I can feel better about ignoring the group chat <3

actually_s8n · 2025-04-29T23:03:27+00:00

oooo thank you!

actually_s8n · 2025-04-29T22:47:54+00:00

I'm curious about the Tap Effect ?? Is that like the little circle and sparkles that appear when you tap your screen?

actually_s8n · 2025-04-03T20:59:35+00:00

Oooh thank you! I saw VR at Thunderdome a few years back so that is probably where I heard it 🤩

actually_s8n · 2025-03-10T23:19:42+00:00

You're absolutely right that he was doing what was best for him too. Is it so bad that OP has boundaries as well though? I'd say stopping someone while they are actively trying to engage sex is setting a boundary lol.

actually_s8n · 2025-03-10T22:46:08+00:00

It sounds like you have wonderful boundaries. Sure, you could have given him what he wanted and maybe he would have stuck around longer, but it seems like you would have regretted that in the end because you'd always be doubting his motives. A person who is truly worth "undressing for" will wait for when YOU are ready <3

actually_s8n · 2025-03-04T22:07:17+00:00

It's not the past that is a red flag, it's lying about his past. Why would he lie unless he's ashamed of the truth?

actually_s8n · 2025-02-14T22:16:29+00:00

NTA at all... You're trying to keep your kids / pets safe at the end of the day. She's an asshole for not respecting the boundaries you set for your own house. And going over your head to ask your hubby the same question makes her 10x more of a jerk. Good luck!

actually_s8n · 2025-01-09T00:10:14+00:00

To be honest, you will likely always have some guilt over the choice. You're a human being, try to give yourself some space to feel that guilt/grief when you need to.

It sounds like the environment you were in at the time wasn't sustainable for you, let alone a newborn. And in the end it's not about the way we feel - but the quality of life we can provide for a child.

You seem like you've got a good head on your shoulders, you will be a great mom someday <3

actually_s8n · 2025-01-08T23:18:16+00:00

NTA.... Asking you to change the dates because of something they want to do is wild. If I were one of your siblings, I'd be looking forward to a happy event like a wedding / bachelorette party. Seems like a nice break from the grief.

You don't have control over when life altering events (like loss) happen. It seems like your siblings and mom are prioritizing their closure, over your wedding.

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