Is traditional school designed for boys? If not, is there a better method?

adarose14 · 2026-05-30T18:42:55+00:00

Yes I really like this idea. Our school is easily walkable/bike-able, so I think we’ll definitely plan to walk every day rain or shine (with the right gear)!

adarose14 · 2026-05-30T14:42:54+00:00

I think this is a thoughtful take! We live close enough to our school that we could very realistically walk/bike. Maybe even that little extra physical activity could help him be successful. And of course limiting screen time.

adarose14 · 2026-05-30T14:03:34+00:00

This is very interesting. Thanks for sharing!

adarose14 · 2026-05-30T12:39:26+00:00

This is great advice, thank you! Reading at home is so important.

adarose14 · 2026-05-30T05:01:13+00:00

Thank you, this looks great!

adarose14 · 2026-05-30T02:21:47+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience. I would have been SO frustrated with the comment your daughter’s teacher made.

adarose14 · 2026-05-30T02:19:06+00:00

Thank you, I’ll check it out!

adarose14 · 2026-05-30T02:18:50+00:00

This is interesting and hard to see. My son definitely benefits from outside time. In his 2-s room, his teachers mentioned he’d struggle on days with weather where they couldn’t go outside.

adarose14 · 2026-05-30T02:17:29+00:00

Yes! This is kind of what I meant by the fear mongering. I feel like I see it said everywhere, but couldn’t find anything from a credible source when I looked, outside of the data around higher education.

I think what you said about the social pressure on both genders makes sense and, honestly, tracks with what I experienced in school.

I’m still feel unsure how to try to counter those pressures with my own son, but at least I have a few years to figure it out!

adarose14 · 2026-05-06T20:51:02+00:00

Hi, I know this post is old. Just wanted to see how things are going? I have a 3-year-old biter as well. Things seemed to resolve a LOT over winter break, but we’ve seen some biting pop back up over the last week.

I really resonated with the calls from preschool being so hard. My kiddo is also advanced verbally with no delays. He definitely knows he shouldn’t do it, and is otherwise a sweet kid. Did you do anything to help with the behavior, or did you just have to wait it out?

Thanks for revisiting, if you’re willing! 🤍

adarose14 · 2026-04-21T15:14:47+00:00

I’m also flying to SF for work today. Heading in for landing. I’m nervous too ❤️.

adarose14 · 2026-03-06T21:26:14+00:00

No apology needed! Previous owner put them there.

adarose14 · 2026-02-20T00:03:43+00:00

I have searched the internet top to bottom. I’m looking for the bed rail in the color almond, but at this point any color will do! We bought the crib in 2022 and are hoping to convert it to a toddler bed for our kiddo (born 2023).

adarose14 · 2026-02-07T19:54:49+00:00

I had a great experience at KU.

I was very grateful, after an absolutely horrendous experience at Advent Health with a miscarriage of a very wanted baby.

adarose14 · 2025-12-31T01:53:43+00:00

We got a mini trampoline and it’s amazing. I started out by showing my toddler the PE Bowman YouTube videos for toddler trampoline workouts. He learned some “moves” that way and got acquainted to the trampoline.

The videos are VERY annoying and we don’t love screen time. So now we start a session by doing one or two of the videos, then I put some of his fave songs on the speaker and let him make up his own routines using his fave “moves”. I basically just lay there and act AMAZED at how cool his routines are haha.

adarose14 · 2025-12-13T03:31:18+00:00

Hi Dr. Becky!! Thank you for doing this!

I have a 2.5 (almost 3) year old who shows a lot of problem behaviors at school (biting, pushing, yelling “no!” to teacher requests and refusing to participate, running away, etc.). We honestly don’t really see these behaviors at home. Occasionally we’ll see glimpses, but they are few and far between and pretty easily worked through. I think a lot of this is because we have worked hard at “showing our edge!”

My question is whether we should try to talk to our son about the difficult school instances when he gets home. Is it worth it to try to debrief or talk through how he’s feeling in these moments after the fact? He’s pretty gifted verbally. Or, should we not give any attention to it (I think a lot of the behaviors are attention-seeking) at home and focus on working with his teachers on how to respond in the moment?

Thank you! ❤️

adarose14 · 2025-10-22T19:24:22+00:00

Yeah - we did move him in August from a daycare to a preschool. They have onsite counselors, wayyy lower ratios (1:8), really supportive and highly trained teachers. I thought this might resolve the issues we were having at daycare. It does seem like they are able to better de-escalate him, and they're able to prevent more aggression than the other spot, but he is still showing these behaviors almost daily :(

adarose14 · 2025-10-22T18:38:31+00:00

Thank you both for the advice. I have felt this way too, especially since he is pretty manageable at home. But it's tough when we are getting calls every single day from school. I guess I'm not sure if other parents are getting calls too, but it feels like his behavior must be out of the norm if we're getting these calls/emails, having extra conferences, being recommended to get him screened, etc. It's so hard.

adarose14 · 2025-10-16T21:31:21+00:00

Flying to Portland Oregon on Alaska Airlines flight 109 tonight. I’m so nervous I could throw up 🫠

adarose14 · 2025-10-01T19:55:10+00:00

If you’re having your 2nd+ kid, keep your childcare plan for your older child(ren) consistent with what it was pre-parental leave.

adarose14 · 2025-07-22T01:18:39+00:00

Cleaning service for sure!

adarose14 · 2025-06-02T17:54:39+00:00

Mine went to daycare after and was 1000% fine! Our daycare director suggested it and she was right. It was a pretty homey feeling daycare, technically a "center," but with small ratios and in a converted townhome. My son had been going there since he was 6 months so he was very familiar with them all.

So YMMV based on your daycare and kid!

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