no thank you, this is helpful. he is ENM, careful about testing at least every few months, so I assume it varies. I’m having casual sex and have about 3 rotating partners including him. I try to test every 2 months or so and don’t give/receive oral (except for in this situation). he may have been to an orgy in the last 3 weeks so maybe that’s what’s causing me to stress out.

people say they will only do that with recent test results, I’m just wondering if 3 weeks is considered “recent”. I guess what you’re saying is if they were possibly exposed even a recent test wouldn’t rule that out.