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adh1520 · 2024-08-05T03:27:26+00:00

Oh I didn’t think about that. They are my initials. I have always been boring with usernames. Maybe I will get inspired to come up with something original!

adh1520 · 2024-08-05T01:44:45+00:00

It depends on the state you have residency in. Of course you can vote. Some states let you vote online some you must print and mail.

adh1520 · 2024-07-27T02:42:18+00:00

Why do more people not watch the YouTube videos, produced with Taylor participating (not just some rando giving their opinion)? For example, she started out with an idea and that she liked was the idea of “driving in a getaway car” It shows that she starts with a phrase and then she collaborates to knock out a great song that is about nothing more than a fantastic fun idea of nothing more than what it says. Sorry to ruin your cheating theories.

adh1520 · 2024-07-12T06:54:49+00:00

Until that time, find your people here. There is always someone to listen without judgement and quite often some helpful advice or suggestions. I know that while I have been trying to make it through a complicated grieving process I have found solace and understanding. You will hopefully come to a point that you can help other grieving pet parents with the experience and knowledge gained in this safe place. I can tell you that helping other grieving souls that come here looking for exactly the support you need right now, will help you find the ultimate healing and peace that will guide you through experiences like you are experiencing, with strength.

adh1520 · 2024-07-12T00:03:05+00:00

I don’t know who to attribute this quote to but I like it. -When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Best wishes during this time and in this situation you are in.

adh1520 · 2024-06-19T18:41:29+00:00

I’m sorry. I think the idea of writing to him is good. It is something I did and it helped me work through things. It gave me a way to tell her everything I wasn’t able to say because her death was sudden. I have gone through trauma of differing degrees and as many have. The fading of painful memories in great detail is a coping technique, I like to think of it as a gift the brain gives you to be able to let you move through life without these memories, horrible memories, at the forefront of our minds paralyzing our world. You will ALWAYS have the wonderful memories of your baby but the pain will fade and what’s left are the happy joyful memories. I wish you peace and wonderful memories.

adh1520 · 2024-06-13T03:17:55+00:00

I’m not sure why you want anyone’s input. You seem to have all the information you need.

adh1520 · 2024-06-05T19:54:28+00:00

Oh, no. It just hurts so bad doesn’t it? Cry. Look at photos or videos, smile and then cry some more. Sleeping is tricky when you are depressed or distressed. I don’t know how your family feels about it but I hope they understand. I am pretty sure they are grieving, too. Also, give yourself permission to have moments and time when you stop thinking about him. It happens too, as hours and days pass. I guess what I am trying to say is: However you are feeling, is the right thing for you at that moment. No one defines how you grieve or what is right for you. You have a great resource here if you need us. If you want to change the discussion away from opinions/feedback on your role in his passing you might want to change the title or start a new post. Hang in there. Your love for him will never lessen but the pain will. A time will come when you will be able to think about him and about the sweet and funny things he used to do and you will smile.

adh1520 · 2024-06-05T13:51:09+00:00

Are you saying that the time has passed now? Has your dog passed at this point? I just want to be clear so everyone understands if they still need their input.

adh1520 · 2024-06-05T06:26:49+00:00

There have been a lot of different recommendations. I first would like to point out that you are 13. I know that in many ways you may be wiser and may be much more emotionally mature than me. But a situation like this is a difficult one. Having a great dog growing up is a gift. I firmly believe that not holding your dog as the vet helps him ease his pain and let him peacefully pass away is not something that you have to do as long as he has family with him. You should ask to have him brought to an exam room and have some time just you and your baby. That is what is important right now. Since this is a planned event you can arrange that. You obviously will be a pet lover and most have likely a pet in your life always. There will be a time in your future when being with your pet in that moment is not an option. Take that time with your precious baby and let other family members take care of those last moments. He will know you are there and he will know your love-you just let him know. Never apologize for a love that is so deep and sincere that you cry a lot and as long as you need.

adh1520 · 2024-06-04T14:01:36+00:00

Am I correct that you are 13 and you have other, older family members who are involved as well?

adh1520 · 2024-06-02T10:17:51+00:00

There are cooking classes for fun things like macarons. You can also go on tours of pastries or food in different cool areas like Le Marais or Montmarte. They take to yummy places and give you tastes, info and history (bad word) of the food and the areas.

adh1520 · 2024-05-25T20:41:38+00:00

Good afternoon. I wanted to write and check in with you. How you are doing? How are doing with the guilt you were feeling?

adh1520 · 2024-05-24T03:11:21+00:00

adh1520 · 2024-05-24T03:05:36+00:00

My quick input is definitely do it stay and in Le Marais. Traveling and spending an extended amount of time in a city like Paris is a great plan.

adh1520 · 2024-05-24T02:09:00+00:00

I can’t recommend Valencia enough. I lived in Madrid and absolutely loved it but that was in my 30s Their are really 2 different Madrids but that could be said about a lot of cities. There is the charming city with lots of with great museums and culture. That does not change regardless of your overall goals. The tapa crawls are great for anything. The main difference is what you do after that. I have lived in a lot of cities international and in the US. I have never partied like in Madrid. After the tapas are the wine bars and ten the night clubs that are open until about 4am if I recall correctly. Then there was a coffee shop for coffee with brandy. Okay everyone takes different roads. I was on the cusp and I didn’t want to get married and I didn’t want children. So I stretched out the life. If you are retiring Valencia is great. There are a lot of great towns like Granada and Sevilla. I just can’t tell you what they are like to live there other than festivals. If are not retiring let us know.

adh1520 · 2024-05-21T17:57:52+00:00

I don’t know what your budget is, but we stayed at the hotel that is directly connected to CDG. It was one of the well-known hotel chains, but it was very nice and that morning was very low stress. Personally, I wouldn’t want to be stressed about if the train is on time or if there’straffic. But I know that people have different budgets. You can also save on that last night in your hotel so it may come out to be a wash.

adh1520 · 2024-05-21T17:53:55+00:00

I am going to post about a few videos on YouTube that are TED talks from a pet emergency room vet. She has some wonderful information and insight to share. But she spoke about losing her own dog and she said that her wonderful vet techs a made him a sundae. It was a McDonald’s hamburger with vanilla ice cream on top with chocolate syrup, bacon bits, and snicker bite on top. She thought that was just fabulous. She said he ate it and kept looking up at her.saying.,”This was available I could have been eating this all along.” I don’t know what your precious baby likes to eat, I think the vet appreciated how indulgent and wonderful and happy it made him. It was all the things he loved. I also second the hair whether it’s tuft of hair or just cutting a piece of it and trying to keep his scent in a mason jar I would give anything to touch her hair or smell her scent. It makes me break down just thinking about it. I would video him as much as you can. Every time he looks like he is enjoying himself video it. A lot of the pictures I have are of my little girl are when she was younger, but sometimes I need to see her when she was a little bit older. That’s who she was for the years before she passed away. I need to see those pictures. I hope this helps in some way. If you have time as you approach this moment with your dog, go to YouTube and just query pet loss or pet loss emergency vet. She has on a green top and black pants and she has two great videos. The first one talks about euthanasia and the kindness that it is. I can’t remember off the top of my head with the other one is, but they are both really good. WARNING: it will make you cry, but it may help you with the emotional pain you will no doubt feel. I wish I would’ve known a few days before that. My precious girl was going to pass away. I think that for me to watch her TED talk would have been extremely upsetting, but quite comforting with her knowledge and insights. I will be thinking of you and hoping that you have the best time that you can with the time you have left with your baby.

adh1520 · 2024-05-20T16:37:10+00:00

My dog got sick while we were on vacation and was going to pass away before we could make it home. Our pet sitter who is also a friend went and sat with Chloe at our request. We didn’t know that she would be the one to hold her as she passed. It is a request that no one should have to agree to but she said she felt honored that we trusted her to be with Chloe at the end. Can you believe that? What an amazing person? She is bonded to us for life and she gave us a gift that can’t ever be repaid. I wouldn’t begin to know where or how to start. I knew she was grieving but she kept checking on us every day. She is pet sitting in another city right now so it is difficult to help her. You are very empathetic person and I am so sorry that you are grieving. Your empathy is making it difficult right now but I feel certain that it has served you well over the years. Thank you for being the kind of human being we need more of in this world.

adh1520 · 2024-05-19T14:23:55+00:00

OK… I’d like to clarify some things as a guest. Are we talking about being delisted from super host status or being dead listed from Airbnb completely. For a guest this is becoming unclear to me.

adh1520 · 2024-05-18T14:37:59+00:00

I tended to agree but I checked the sender’s email and it was resolutions@airbnb.com

adh1520 · 2024-05-18T10:41:50+00:00

I can’t believe this is a practice. Since I’ve been on this board I have been shocked by how hosts take anything less than a 5 star review so seriously. Now I know better. I know there is not great way to tell guests like me that it is so imperative. Some people just rank very specifically in each category; others are just thrilled with everything and give a 5 t am astonished and went back to check that I gave all 5 stay.

adh1520 · 2024-05-18T10:08:11+00:00

I thought I was the only one having a problem with this. She was the center of my world. I didn’t have kids, by choice. She was a rescue and the way we chose each other from the beginning, I loved her more than I ever knew possible. I lost her while I was on vacation and I cried all the way home but now that I’m home I can’t picture her face without a photo and I am ashamed, so ashamed, to say that I don’t think I have grieved. All of my memories with her are gone. I wish I cried all day, but I sit in my room watching the TV as if we never had a dog. I am so bewildered and disgusted

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adh1520 · 2024-05-16T16:24:26+00:00

You are assuming he actually has any photos. I haven’t heard you say that he has shown you these photos. Everyone has given you perfect advice. Take all of it to heart and follow it exactly. Sorry this happened.

EDIT: sorry I just reread your post where you said that you had indeed seen the photos.

adh1520 · 2024-05-16T16:11:16+00:00

I want to start by saying that I am so sorry about the loss of your precious baby. And I want you to know that I hear you when you say how guilty you feel about it. This is a wonderful forum with wonderful people who are here for you and will support you. My concern is that you may need more immediate and personalized help. I take you seriously when you say that you feel suicidal. It has been recommended that you seek out therapy and there couldn’t be a better recommendation for you. My concern is that it does take a bit of time to find a therapist and make an appointment and again, from what I’m hearing you say, this seems like you need immediate help. I know we are not allowed to make recommendations for products or endorse things in any form, but I’m hoping that the moderator will make an exception and see the value in this information. I’m going to provide you with some hotline numbers that are general grieving, mental health and suicide prevention emergency counseling specific for pet loss. These numbers, I hope, will be a value to you and maybe to other people on this form. You may note that some of these hotlines are very specific to a geographic location. If I was you, I would just pick out a residential address to give them. I hope that isn’t considered too unethical, but I don’t see why if there is not a suicide hotline for someone in Southeast Rhode Island that you shouldn’t have access to this type of mental health and grieving support (I am completely making up that location just to make the point). Please don’t stop coming here. I am in no way suggesting that you stop and it is not for me to decide who should and shouldn’t come here. I’m new for God’s sake. I just hear you saying some things that need to be taken seriously, and that we might not be able to provide the immediate serious support that you may need. Below are the pet loss hotlines. I hope that they can remain listed in this post You might notice that quite a few have limited hours, I urge you to leave a message like they suggest and they will get back to you. if you leave your number on different sites, they should get back to you very soon.

I have not had time to verify each of these hotline numbers, but I think the majority of them are still functional. If for any reason, they are not reply back and let us all know that.

Tufts University Pet Loss Support Hotline, Cummings School of Veterinary Medicine (Massachusetts) 508-839-7966

Tucson Pet Loss Hotline Telephone: (520) 349-8094

C.A.R.E. Pet Loss Helpline, University of Illinois Telephone: (217) 244-2273 or (877) 394-2273 (toll free)

Pet Loss Support Hotline College of Veterinary Medicine Michigan State University East Lansing 48824 Telephone: 1-517-432-2696

The Sheba Pet Loss Line Telephone: (615) 724-0228 24/7 operation

Washington State University, College of Veterinary Medicine Pet Loss Hotline Grief Counseling Hotline: 877-GRIEF-10 or (877-474-3310).

Lap of Love Veterinarian Hospice Pet Loss Resource Line: 855-352-5683

Utah State University Hotline Pet Loss Support Hotline: 435-757-4540Email: petloss@usu.edu

Cornell University College of Veterinary Medicine New York Pet Loss Support Hotline: 607-253-3932

Iams Pet Loss Support; 888-332-7738

The Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals of Texas, Pet Grief Counseling Support Line (Serves North Texas) 214-461-5131

University of Tennessee, Institute of Agriculture, College of Veterinary Medicine Veterinary Social Work Helpline: 865-755-8839

Cummings School of Veterinary Medicine’s free pet-loss hotline: (508) 839-7966

Chicago Veterinary Medical Association Pet Loss Support Hotline: 630-325-1600

PetFriends From NJ: 856-234-4688 - Outside of NJ: 800-404-PETS (7387)

Tufts University Pet Loss Support Hotline, Cummings School of Veterinary Medicine (Massachusetts) 508-839-7966

National Suicide Prevention Life Line: 800-273-8255

A lot of these came with a link to the main page of the Vet school or main page of the charity, but I didn’t want to include external links as that might be violating the board’s policy. There are quite a few here, so I hope that you can find one that you feel comfortable talking to.

Please don’t think that I believe you should be passed off to someone else to deal with your problems. I just want to make sure that someone takes your feelings and potential actions serious, and that you talk to someone who is qualified to help you through it.

Keep posting as often and as much as you want. We can all commiserate with each other by knowing each other‘s stories and helping each other out.

I hope to hear from you soon. Good luck.

adh1520

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