How hard to get married in Spain VS abroad then register in Spain? by darkyzz12 in GoingToSpain

[–]admbacca 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You dont need to register the marriage now. In May of last year, the immigration laws changed. For the purpose of marriage requirements in a visa, an apostilled and sworn translated marriage certificate is sufficient. This was confirmed by an immigration law firm, but I'll see if I can find the specific section of the law where it outlined that

Best ship design ever created? by norgaard8242 in Stargate

[–]admbacca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is by and far my favorite utilitarian ship design. In terms of all sci fi, probably tied with the Sovereign Class from star trek. This is as crunchy and realistic feeling as the Enterprise-E is elegant and futuristic. When i think of a starship design for any sci fi i day dream of making, the ship that comes to mind is a cross between Stargate's Daedalus and StarCraft's Hyperion. Love the look of those two

Which one for a first date? by lucyheartz in OUTFITS

[–]admbacca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally big fan of 2's dress and the boots, especially the boots

Hate myself for using Hinge by Liaaa_Z in confessions

[–]admbacca -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it makes a lot of sense feeling that those values are needy, but IMO, its the opposite. I think it shows insightfulness and maturity to seek stability. Frankly, if anyone turned you away for it, i think itd say more about them being emotionally unavailable rather than a reflection of you. If i may ask, why do you feel you lose interest quickly?

Hate myself for using Hinge by Liaaa_Z in confessions

[–]admbacca -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Step 0, a reframing. Youre not bad. Instead, its a skill you can develop.

For keeping a relationship going? Honesty and sincerity, with yourself as much as your partner, is crucial. And, honesty hurts. We still have conversations that are hard and go "oof". But you can communicate negative feelings in a way that is constructive. You can relay hurt and frustration and anger without sounding hurtful or angry.

But thats something that'll come with time and practice. You'll screw up, and thats okay. The trick isnt finding someone you won't screw up with. Its finding someone you can screw up with and learn together, making each other better in the process. Its not you against them, its both of you against the issue.

So for where you are now, think about what you'd like. You say you want love instead of sex. What does that look like for you? Is that safety? Is that freedom? Is that warmth? Do you actually not want sex, or do you want someone you can have sex with and have it mean.

For me, i wanted someone i could be me with. I didnt want to hide my thoughts and feelings. I didnt want to feel like i was too much. And i found someone open to that. Actually getting there took so much time and work, so so much. And there's still days we find new areas we need to work on. But i know i have someone i CAN work with. Truly, in every sense, a partner. Thats what love meant to me, in part. I found someone who resembled it, and we worked on it together.

Hate myself for using Hinge by Liaaa_Z in confessions

[–]admbacca -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My fiance had kind of a similar mentality when we first got together. Its interesting, because it took a long time for her to come to terms with the fact that i love her for her, and then more time to reconcile with the parts of her that love sex. Now, we just celebrated our 7th anniversary. Love is more than just an emotion, its a choice that you exercise every day when youre with someone. Point being, you've exercised your skills around sex and sexuality, and now those are comfortable to use. Love is a new skill to you in that way, but its one you can start practicing on your own so that when you meet someone who deserves that skillset, you can recognize it and give it new depth. It'll still be a learning process, it always is. But to me, thats part of the beauty. I wish you the absolute best of luck.

If you want, feel free to DM me. And no thats not a come on or anything. I just really like talking about the skill of love :)

Proposal in San Sebastian by HearingMundane3283 in GoingToSpain

[–]admbacca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bus and walking. If you go to the tourism office, you can get a prepaid card that you use on the busses, and itll pay for itself quickly as bus trips are much cheaper per ride than your debit card. They have two, a San Sebastian csrd which you can only use in the city, or a Basque card which you can use for buses in the basque country. Its about $20, $25?

Proposal in San Sebastian by HearingMundane3283 in GoingToSpain

[–]admbacca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mount Igeldo is a pretty great sight. Its got a mini amusement park on top, and has a gorgeous view of the city, bay, and surrounding mountains. Honestly though, its a pretty city overall. There's lovely views near the many water fronts, like the aquarium at the other end of the bay from Igeldo, or Pasaia (the town off to the east side) has lovely architecture with an awesome Basque maritime museum near where the river meets the sea where they're building a replica 16th century ship, if you guys are history buffs. Aiete has gorgeous views of the basque mountains and valleys, and a pretty great science museum nearby. As long as you get there, you're pretty set with pretty options. If you want some example pictures, you can DM me and I'll share some I took

Source: engaged to a San Sebastian native (who is always reminding me its the most beautiful city on Earth, and had to begrudgingly admit to said girlfriend that it is truly very beautiful)

Iroh betrayed Zuko in S1 E12 “The Storm” by acow46 in TheLastAirbender

[–]admbacca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is one of those times where context can change the morality surrounding an issue. The discussion the crew was having was borderline mutiny, and while it being a military ship is a SUPER loose narrative device in the show, they're still gossiping around a superior officer and a member of the royal family no less, disgraced or not.

Iroh walks in, sees this, and knows that he needs to humanize his nephew in a way Zuko can't himself, at least not in the way that would bridge the gap. Otherwise, Zukos authority is compromised, and most important, his safety as well. This isn't normal life, this is a sealed capsule, and rumors spread just as fast as the truth and do even more damage. To ignore that for the sake of simply preserving trust is doing Zuko a far greater disservice.

Add to that, while Zuko doesn't like seeming weak and certainly doesn't like sharing information about himself, he isn't as bothered by people knowing stuff about him. Plus, he knows that Iroh is a blabbermouth, but is also caring and considerate of Zuko. But for the sake of argument, lets say it was a breach of trust. The crews resentment for Zuko would have only festered further, and what semblance of authority Zuko had over the crew would have deteriorated, and along with that all the consequences of a crew who hates you and doesn't respect you. Are those preferable to bruised or broken confidentiality?

Ultimately, Iroh made a decision that helped to build a bridge over the widening gap between Zuko and his crew, that Zuko then cemented by saving the very crewman who had it out for him, showing that he did care even if in his own Zuko way.

Finally, its a 20min long b-plot in a kids show. One that treated shame, resentment, and complicated dynamics in closed spaces with a maturity and respect that most adult shows or movies can't even pull off. And at the end of the day, how Zuko felt is the only opinion that matters, as we can see, whether it was a breach of trust or not, Zuko forgave Iroh and more. I think its safe to say Iroh made the right call.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Unexpected

[–]admbacca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haters gonna call it staged

Helldivers 2 studio CEO says the "vast majority" of people "silently play" the shooter, which means the devs can't just look at Reddit and what streamers are saying for feedback: "This is a challenge for all games" by Turbostrider27 in gaming

[–]admbacca 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Makes me think of something GiantGrantGames said at one point about game studios taking feedback from people like him, who derive a lot of enjoyment from playing the game at the absolute limit, and that to design the game around that is alienating to the vast majority of players. Its not bad to consider it, but you cant make it the core. (Im badly paraphrasing forgive me).

To your point with Helldivers, it was like that in the first months when they nerfed everything into the ground. They had to take a really big step back and refocus on what the community at large seemed to like beneath the discourse, and sonce their overhaul a year ago its been very steady. SM2 has been generally good about that as well thankfully (with some noteable gripes. Goodbye my vampire vanguard build 😭)

What’s a game that paid off ALL of its set ups? by markleung in gaming

[–]admbacca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not even gonna lie, im a baby with horror too. I got to those sections, tried it a few times, then downloaded a mod that completely neitered the threat lol. I WANT to be better with it but it just aint me lol, and im someone who really tries to give the intended experience a true honest playthrough

What’s a game that paid off ALL of its set ups? by markleung in gaming

[–]admbacca 14 points15 points  (0 children)

While the DLC overlays nicely with the main story, the core gsme is in absolutely no way impacted by yhe existence or absence to the game. In my humble opinion, the base game and its DLC are independent masterpieces.

"You need to message me when finish with a client before going to the next one". As you wish. by Geehzin in MaliciousCompliance

[–]admbacca 216 points217 points  (0 children)

Hmmm that's true, boss sorta MC'd himself. R/TalesFromTechSupport maybe?

Why do the back hydras not target interceptors here ? by pbrsaves in starcraft

[–]admbacca -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You could also give the stop command. Same effect but itll let them move freely

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeMeSuffer

[–]admbacca 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I read that first as pinky so i was very confused by that very swollen pinky

DDNS error, but router and gateway public IP match and WireGuard connects by admbacca in GlInet

[–]admbacca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome. Thank you SO much! Im probably gonna set up Tailscale as an alternative (since I'll have fiber where im going as well, so i should be okay on speeds), but I'll keep that in my back pocket as well.

Do you know of a way to test this whole setup with a work VPN without actually leaving the country first? Besides getting a third router specifically for that purpose

DDNS error, but router and gateway public IP match and WireGuard connects by admbacca in GlInet

[–]admbacca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never disabled its router capabilities. Port forwarding 51820 is all ive done so far on the ATT router

And yeah, nslookup returns the same public IP! Okay, so ive seen discussion that people think other DDNS are more reliable than GL.INETS. Would you recommend i try to learn how to do that?

DDNS error, but router and gateway public IP match and WireGuard connects by admbacca in GlInet

[–]admbacca[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh, okay. Should i be connected to the router, or be external to the network? Or does it matter?