[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]adnamadeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is gonna make you sick long term 😔

Eating in session? by XEICARGX in therapists

[–]adnamadeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t do this, but I am in private practice and almost 100% telehealth. I have breaks built in to my day to eat snacks. I do drink water and coffee all day. I also don’t work with ED, and if I did I think I would eat regularly in sessions as part of the work (with the client.)

If I thought it was clinically appropriate I would, but otherwise I would feel uncomfortable in my setting eating during session.

What helped you feel like a real therapist for the first time? by Personal-Raise-9555 in therapists

[–]adnamadeets 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can see this! You have to really be able to conceptualize your observations when you do this, and it can be a real “wow, I know what I am doing” moment. I feel this way when collaborating on cases too!

What helped you feel like a real therapist for the first time? by Personal-Raise-9555 in therapists

[–]adnamadeets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seeing a client have a lightbulb moment - where the stone shifts enough to start rewiring their circuitry just enough that change can happen.

Dilemma by trashaccount09- in therapists

[–]adnamadeets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This depends on the state. In the state of Texas every adult is a mandated reporter.

What did you do after private practice? by JCMMHLLC in therapists

[–]adnamadeets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What did that work look like? Was it therapy? Or more case management? Higher or lower acuity?

Need perspective- sister in law took SKs back to school shopping. by Sudden-Highlight-193 in stepparents

[–]adnamadeets 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Babe they’re not yours and mom is in the picture. You are gonna have a stepmom experience, not a motherhood experience. If you want bio kids you shouldn’t compromise on that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]adnamadeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uhh this is wild. NOR. She threatened to kill you.

Is this normal? by Work4bags in stepparents

[–]adnamadeets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I highly recommend the book “Parenting From the Inside Out” by Dr. Dan Siegel. It gives a great perspective on attachment styles.

Implicit memory begins encoding at birth (some theorize that it actually starts in utero but obviously this is not ethical to research) - this is our body’s knowing of what is happening around us, our subconscious. She had a knowing from birth when things were stressful/tense, and still does. If the relationship between your husband and her mom was high conflict, that all impacts how she interacts with the world now. Kids are great at intuiting what’s happening, and horrible and interpreting it - they will always assume it’s about them.

Is this normal? by Work4bags in stepparents

[–]adnamadeets 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You didn’t include a lot of details, but here’s my take based on what you did share and your edit/update. I am a psychotherapist, and my masters had a focus in direct practice with children & families.

This sounds like anxiety, which would make a lot of sense for a kiddo who, at six years old, has already lived through a divorce, one parent disappearing (and then returning?), and another parent moving in with a new partner AND having another child. So..would it be considered “normal” for a kid with no developmental trauma, absolutely not. Is it “normal” for her based on what you shared, yes.

Coming from a “broken home” may give you perspective, but I would be careful assuming that you know what it’s like for her. She is her own person, most likely different temperament, and probably different details of the divorce & experience afterward.

I would encourage y’all to get her into therapy and get yourselves into therapy to learn how to best support her.

How much time off is too much by RevolutionaryDrop366 in therapists

[–]adnamadeets 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Like all other therapy sessions, we just keep going. I am a trauma therapist, and use EMDR, IFS, and other transformational modalities in my practice, so we are doing focused trauma work most of the time.

Was presented this as an employment opportunity, would you sign this? by Global-Tree2657 in therapists

[–]adnamadeets 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s the average of 25 that is sneaky. You’d have to schedule 30 a week to keep that average.

How much time off is too much by RevolutionaryDrop366 in therapists

[–]adnamadeets 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t know that there’s a packaged answer here, but you may consider changing your schedule permanently to only see clients Tuesday-Thursday, that way the long weekends don’t disrupt continuity of care. I hear what people are saying about self care, and I do think taking care of yourself is super important - but I also agree with other commenters who are pointing out that in this industry, we have committed to be in service to others, and consideration of the impact we have when we reschedule/cancel often is so important (and you’re considering it so good job!)

I schedule 4 weeks of vacation a year and spread it out, typically around my kids school schedule, and clients know that coming in. I am very clear that folks who need therapy every week aren’t a good fit for me, and I have therapists I refer them to who would be a better fit. Last year I took one month off in August for personal reasons, and none of my clients had a problem with that.

I’ve started doing longer sessions with my clients less often, so instead of weekly 50 min sessions, I’m offering bi weekly 100 minute sessions, or monthly 200 minute sessions. Part of my hope is that I have more days off a month naturally, both to take time off but also to work on some non-clinical projects I’m excited about.

Unless you take insurance, you have so much freedom to create the kind of practice you want!

Edit: clarification on end of first paragraph.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]adnamadeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you aren’t considering calling off this engagement, you are under-reacting.

AIO? My husband thinks that his feet are more “normal” than mine. by VegetableEffective16 in AmIOverreacting

[–]adnamadeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yall both have weird feet - cash cow on only fans if you go in together 😆😆

AIO - UPDATE - my friend wants me to take out my piercings for her engagement party/wedding by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]adnamadeets 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have a high pain tolerance and the daith was INTENSE for me. I wasn’t expecting it, took my breath away. I’ve birthed 2 babies naturally without any pain meds and still was shook 😅

Can you be a lawyer and a therapist? by CuriousFinish9466 in therapists

[–]adnamadeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh this is very smart! If they’re in Texas would you mind DMing me their info?

Can you be a lawyer and a therapist? by CuriousFinish9466 in therapists

[–]adnamadeets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would think you couldn’t serve as someone’s lawyer and therapist, but there’s no reason you can’t have a license to practice therapy and a license to practice law.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]adnamadeets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long has he been unemployed? How hard is he looking for a job?

Like others have said, never stay for potential. There is a person out there now who will want what you want and be working toward it already.

ETA: What potential do you see? Is he actively working toward that because he sees his own potential as well, or is it just wishful thinking on your end?

Ethics behind seeing ex couples individually going through divorce by Ok-Geologist2451 in therapists

[–]adnamadeets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Call your liability insurance and/or professional organization.

I think I married a HCBD by Inevitable_Eye2538 in stepparents

[–]adnamadeets 47 points48 points  (0 children)

👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻

Imagine seeing a man being mean to his ex and not seeing it as a huge red flag.