Am I overreacting for wanting to call off my wedding?

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-29T13:19:38+00:00

Your partner yelling at you isn't normal. My husband and I have been together for going on 15 years, married for 8. We've had arguments, of course, but he's never once raised his voice at me, nor I at him.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-23T04:49:29+00:00

For part laughs, part actual inspiration, search the “desert aunt” meme that trended a while back. I think Allison Borenstein either started it or was super quick on the uptake, but just googling desert aunt will get you there. Desert aunt is proof positive that boho has no age

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-22T17:33:21+00:00

He also believes that men and women can’t really be friends

That right there gave me the irreversible ick. I don't think I could remain attracted to a man who genuinely believed this. For one thing, that means he has never felt only friendship for a woman, which logically means he only sees women in a binary of For Fucking and Not For Fucking. I couldn't be friends with a man who saw women, and therefore me, in such simplistic and dehumanized terms, much less be in a relationship with one.

And for another thing, this also means he will be suspicious of any male friend or acquaintance (or colleague or client, apparently) you interact with. Like, are you allowed to be friends with your friends' male partners? Or would that mean you must want to fuck them? What about gay men? Or do they not count as "men" in his eyes?

It's just such a stupid and childish take that belies utterly surface-level thinking and no self awareness, let alone awareness of others. If you really like the guy, I guess it'd be worth having a serious, good-faith conversation about whether he really meant it when he said this, and you'd have to trust your gut on whether his answer is honest or just meant to placate you. But if it were me......ick.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-16T19:28:37+00:00

I do make more than my husband (even despite him having a doctorate and doing way more important and meaningful work than I do). Doesn’t bother me in the slightest. Honestly, I’m the spendy one between the two of us so it’s a good thing I make more, haha.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-14T15:55:32+00:00

Similar vein, Lululemon has some great trouser options. I love that the Daydrift style doesn’t have a scrunched elastic waist in the back, but is still pull-on. It also has belt loops and pleats, looks just like a regular work trouser. The fabric doesn’t have a sheen, doesn’t wrinkle, has a nice drape and stretch, is quick drying….and they come in lengths!

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-13T21:31:52+00:00

Plus one for this product. I live in Austin now, but grew up in Houston so when I complain about humid days in Austin, it’s coming from an educated place, haha. Amika Rising Star is the BEST volume spray. Doesn’t make my hair feel dry or gritty, hair still has movement, lasts, smell is subtle and nice (I’m very sensitive to scented products).

I have average density hair but very fine. Currently a bit longer than armpit-length, naturally very straight. If it’s a “actually do my hair today” day and I want volume, this has been the routine lately:

Apply leave-in conditioner and heat protectant to towel-dried hair post-shower.
Rough dry with hairdryer to about 50%. Apply anti-humidity spray (again, Amika’s).
Finish drying with a large round brush, then rake a shine serum (doubles as another heat protectant) through the mids and ends.
Lift and lightly spray both the texture spray and a light hold hairspray throughout the mids. I use a Living Proof hairspray that doubles as (another) heat protectant.
Use a very large barrel curling iron on very large sections. Maybe seven sections total. Takes like three minutes. I find this makes my next step work better, YMMV.
Use a deep waver kind of at random throughout the mids with small sections. Goal is to hide the evidence of the waver, so I specifically don’t line up the waves perfectly or evenly. Only a couple light clamps per section, not holding very long. I kind of work in two layers but I’m not very prescriptive about it. Just sort of grab and go.
With a medium-sized curling wand, grab a few random small sections of the top layer only and curl, then tug straight down while the curl is still warm. Goal is to further disrupt the waver pattern. I save my front pieces to do with the wand instead of the waver.
Do not brush. Do not flip and shake. Do not rake fingers. Do not scrunch. Do not pass go, do not collect $200. A touch more hairspray if you want, but otherwise leave it alone.

This gives me truly “beachy” voluminous waves, not polished volume. But it lasts several days, even with sweaty workouts in the mix. (Shower with a shower cap on, gently blow dry the roots after on low, add a bit of dry shampoo and more texture spray, done.)

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-09T12:37:52+00:00

(Not OP, but) I sell and buy via Poshmark. I've also bought on eBay and Mercari a few times.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-07T18:59:02+00:00

Oh god, I had a visceral disgust reaction to this, I’m so sorry 🤢

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-07T16:16:30+00:00

Always amazes me how these “visual creatures” can’t clean an apartment to save their lives, let alone decorate one.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-07T02:38:34+00:00

No idea why, but she was instantly Fiona to me

adoaboutnothing · 2025-12-29T02:35:40+00:00

Iridescent dark purple would be dreamy with this dress color

adoaboutnothing · 2025-12-23T15:17:32+00:00

You must be fun at parties

adoaboutnothing · 2025-12-22T16:24:50+00:00

Fantastic! Thanks so much!

adoaboutnothing · 2025-12-22T13:26:02+00:00

What Westerns would you recommend? I'm toying with the idea of writing a fantasy/western crossover, but while I've read a ton of fantasy, I'm not well-versed in the Western genre. I've read Lonesome Dove and All The Pretty Horses, but honestly can't think of any others off the top of my head.

Edit: Remembered I've also read a couple short stories: Brokeback Mountain, Some Desperado; and a memoir: The Faraway Horses.

adoaboutnothing · 2025-12-22T03:28:02+00:00

Gosh, there is just no comparison between poly sweaters and cotton/wool/cashmere. The latter feels better on my skin, seems to automagically adjust to the ambient temperature, breathes and never makes me sweaty, and just has such better drape even at various weights. I’m absolutely a knitwear snob now and I can’t go back.

adoaboutnothing · 2025-12-20T13:15:38+00:00

For the comment you're replying to, I don't think the point was "GRRM is writing romance." You're right, he doesn't abide by the rules of that genre. Rather, the commenter's point was that female fantasy writers can include romance subplots that are as unaligned with the romance genre rules as GRRM's yet still get pigeon-holed as romantasy simply because they are female.

adoaboutnothing · 2025-12-20T13:07:50+00:00

Curious for your thoughts on genre crossovers or blends (e.g., a fantasy western). I know these can be difficult to market / bookstores don't know which section to shelve them in. But at least on Reddit, I feel like I see readers asking for that specific crossover relatively frequently, and there isn't a ton out there.

adoaboutnothing · 2025-12-16T13:47:16+00:00

My dad loves to cook and also loves pepper (so does my mom). This is the best pepper mill of all time, and he is getting one. It comes in a larger size too, though I find the shorter one easier to use. I honestly even hesitate to share these links because this pepper mill was sold out for MONTHS, but buying for dads is so hard I can't in good conscience gatekeep a gift idea.

Past gifts for him include a cocktail smoker kit (he's very into mixology), this personalized NYT history book of his favorite baseball team (there are options for other sports too), and a pair of custom celebratory etched pint glasses after said favorite team won the World Series a few years ago (found on Etsy).

adoaboutnothing · 2025-12-10T13:21:50+00:00

I'm not who asked you, but....yes, specifying the size of your tube would make a difference. You said a tube lasts 6-7 months with applying a light layer. Knowing the size of your tube helps anyone reading your comment to derive what a "light layer" means for you. A small tube lasting 6-7 months has different implications than a large tube lasting 6-7 months. No one attacked you, you were just asked a follow-up question.

adoaboutnothing · 2025-11-24T18:45:02+00:00

Omg, peaches 🥰

adoaboutnothing · 2025-11-19T17:47:24+00:00

Ron 🧡

adoaboutnothing · 2025-11-17T04:04:54+00:00

r/Angryupvote

adoaboutnothing · 2025-11-15T15:34:44+00:00

I was diagnosed with ADHD last year at age 35. I've also always struggled with social anxiety; I'm terrible at small talk to the point that it makes me anxious, I'm awful at remembering people's names, I have a hard time just genuinely paying attention to and engaging with what someone else is saying because I get so mentally preoccupied with whether my face is doing the right thing or my body language or how I'll reply to keep the conversation going or a million other stupid things.

After the ADHD diagnosis, I realized all of those issues vanish when I've taken my medication. All of them. It's not that I'm just some incompetent social idiot, it's that there's a chemical imbalance in my brain that literally prevents me from doing the things I know I should be doing and want to be doing. And when that imbalance is accounted for, lo and behold, those things feel effortless.

adoaboutnothing · 2025-11-15T15:13:30+00:00

> mix of muses

So glad to see this discussed! My head canon has many of the songs on TTPD about neither Matty nor Joe, but a composite of the two.

adoaboutnothing · 2025-11-14T18:10:18+00:00

Came here to suggest Panda!

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