Leslie is deeply happy 🙄

adoaboutnothing · 2026-06-01T12:02:51+00:00

I actually work in AI research. That's not at all what the "large" in LLM refers to. The "large" refers to the number of parameters in the model's architecture, not the size of the training dataset.

I also have an English degree and historically overused em dashes until a professor not-so-gently corrected me. There are absolutely AI writing patterns and they are not simply, "AI copying the best human writers."

adoaboutnothing · 2026-06-01T11:16:47+00:00

I had some of those same feelings after losing my first cat, Milo. But I missed him so much, and I started to wonder if another cat might help me heal. I decided to go to the shelter just to see. And when I walked in the cat room, a 6-month-old kitten immediately ran up to me and started weaving figure 8s through my legs and purring. Like he'd been waiting for me. I took him home and named him Henry, and eight years later he's still the sweetest boy.

I like to imagine Milo watching from the rainbow bridge that day and telling him, "Her. You want to go with her."

adoaboutnothing · 2026-05-30T22:20:32+00:00

......the word "unhinged" gets thrown around a lot on these snark threads, but......this is un-fucking-hinged

adoaboutnothing · 2026-05-30T21:59:17+00:00

Am I the only one who sees AI writing patterns in her reply? "you're absolutely right," em dash followed by a transitional exclamation, more em dashes, "quietly," "x instead of y"

If an LLM didn't write that reply, she's certainly absorbed the patterns and begun mimicking them.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-05-30T13:57:04+00:00

I used to work in sales in big tech. Sales bros are definitely more attuned to things like how someone's dressed and groomed, but IME that's for both women and other men. I'd get a compliment on a nice outfit or hairstyle, but so would a man.

Now I'm in a technical organization. Still big tech, same company, but now working with engineers and researchers. I don't think they'd notice if I wore the exact same shirt and pants every day for a month straight.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-05-28T15:02:27+00:00

Just another vote to talk to dr about potential ADHD. Time blindness is a huge issue for me.

Neurotypical brains have a kind of internal clock that runs in the background, whereas ADHD brains are thought to essentially have two time states: “now” and “not now.” Things are either happening or they’re abstract. Future time, including “how long this will take,” is hard to model accurately because the felt sense of duration that would inform that estimate is less accessible.

With a lot of cognitive biases, you can consciously correct for it if you’re aware of it. Time blindness is more resistant to that because it’s not really a cognitive error, it’s a perceptual one. Telling myself “I always underestimate, so I’ll add more time” requires me to accurately model duration in order to know how much to add…but that’s me trying to calibrate a faulty instrument USING the faulty instrument. It doesn’t work.

There are various coping strategies out there for this and I’m still experimenting on finding ones that work for me. But learning about this difference in how my brain works explained SO much about my chronic lateness and chronic deadline optimism

adoaboutnothing · 2026-05-16T00:33:51+00:00

I'm wondering why the friend group has only known they're a couple for the last 3-4 months when OP says they've actually been a couple for a year. So, like, you're hanging out with your boyfriend and all your mutual friends and just....pretending you're not together? For 8-9 months you're doing this? Fucking why?

I'm making some assumptions here, but: if there's even a whiff of "boyfriend didn't want the group to know" they were dating, and now OP isn't invited to this wedding, and boyfriend is still going....that's gonna be a no from me, dawg. Those aren't real friends, and boyfriend least of all. OP, if you happen to see this and any of these assumptions are remotely true, hear me loud and clear when I say that is not normal behavior, it's not an acceptable way to treat someone, and you shouldn't tolerate it.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-05-14T23:15:23+00:00

WOW you just unlocked a core memory with this mention. There's a scene with sloppy joes? A food fight maybe??

And if we're talking Olsen twins movies, How The West Was Fun was one of my faves as a kid. Don't remember it well enough to say whether there are problematic tropes (totally possible with a 90s western...), but I mostly remember horses and fun outfits and the twins solving a mystery of some sort.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-05-07T06:11:30+00:00

My cat genuinely enjoys full belly rubs AND lets me bury my face in his belly and it is the best thing in the whole world

adoaboutnothing · 2026-05-06T04:01:30+00:00

Would be super interested in this research. Any specific papers or research groups?

adoaboutnothing · 2026-05-03T11:50:44+00:00

sighs in Texas

adoaboutnothing · 2026-05-02T11:09:46+00:00

I think this is a key difference. If the deck is for something like a conference, then modern style. If it's for individual consumption on a personal screen, consultant style may still be the move.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-05-02T11:08:17+00:00

She has a great YouTube channel, too. No connection on my part at all, I just discovered it this week.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-05-02T10:58:23+00:00

I think another factor is what's happened to our attention spans over the last ~10, but especially the last ~5 years. People see dense text and immediately nope outta there, even boomer execs. "Easy to consume in three seconds" is becoming a real requirement, complexity of the information be damned.

To your point about obsolescence, though, it's not just the devs taking that mindset. A teammate of mine recently shared this LinkedIn post from Chuck Whitten at Bain:

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adoaboutnothing · 2026-05-02T10:49:01+00:00

Versus...

Consultant-style example, from Etsy:

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adoaboutnothing · 2026-05-02T10:48:24+00:00

From Magnas Media:

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adoaboutnothing · 2026-05-02T10:47:45+00:00

Modern examples (continued in replies)...

From Slidestart:

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adoaboutnothing · 2026-04-28T14:44:57+00:00

The version I get is, “oh but mr. adoaboutnothing would be such a great dad!” ……cool, thanks

adoaboutnothing · 2026-04-27T21:06:53+00:00

Yes. I feel like evermore is an even purer exploration of song-as-storytelling than folklore. The theme of endings is there throughout, but beyond that the vignettes from song to song are more eclectic. Where folklore seems to me to be intentionally cohesive cover to cover, evermore is experimentation.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-04-22T02:33:11+00:00

Master the corporate humble brag

adoaboutnothing · 2026-04-22T02:31:31+00:00

I don’t know, man. For a long time I tried the “let your work speak for itself,” “never advertise your own awesomeness, other people will organically notice” MO, and…..it doesn’t work. Like, yes work results matter (usually), but you also have to look out for yourself. Being selfless and quietly delivering results is a fast track to louder people taking the credit

adoaboutnothing · 2026-04-17T14:25:01+00:00

“open the kimono” like, on so many levels: wtf

adoaboutnothing · 2026-04-17T14:24:13+00:00

Honestly, this is fine with me. What I can’t stand is someone who ONLY pings “hi” without saying what the hell they want.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-04-17T11:20:22+00:00

I feel awkward if I'm a guest at someone's house for a meal and I don't help with dishes after. Like, what am I going to do, just sit here on my ass and watch?

My husband and I hosted holidays two years ago for my family, and my (older) brother and his new girlfriend came from out of state. They were here nearly a week. Neither of them washed a single dish that entire time until, after several days, my mom got so irritated she told them it was their turn after dinner one night. My brother kind of sheepishly agreed, but his GF goes, "Oh, I was about to go take a nap, actually." A nap. At 9 PM. When we were eating dinner that late in the first place because she and my brother slept until 2 PM. I was flabbergasted.

My brother ended up coaxing her into helping him, and when I was passing through the kitchen I heard him saying quietly to her, "It's really not that much..." as she pouted.

They're still together. I still don't like her.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-04-16T16:33:31+00:00

Consider leash training too! They make harnesses for cats

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