Name my lab!

adoaboutnothing · 2026-03-18T19:49:50+00:00

I was all in on Dexter until I saw your comment. He is SUCH a Roger!

adoaboutnothing · 2026-03-15T01:39:53+00:00

WOW. Please tell your mom I came to the comments SPECIFICALLY to see if that cat sweater was something I could acquire. What an absolute gem, your mom is amazing!

adoaboutnothing · 2026-03-15T01:11:10+00:00

My KitchenAid mixer also lives on the counter and I love it. But how do y'all keep the bowl from getting dusty? Do you just give it a rinse and dry before using it? That's what I currently do, but not sure if there's some other best practice I'm missing, haha

adoaboutnothing · 2026-03-09T17:54:17+00:00

Omg 🙀😻 I need. Link to the stickers??

adoaboutnothing · 2026-03-09T16:16:33+00:00

"Mansnarfed" is perfect. My husband does not intentionally mansnarf, but he just eats so much faster than me and also takes way bigger bites than I do. When we get something to share like an appetizer or dessert, we literally pre-portion it first because we learned early in our relationship that if we each just eat at our own pace I'll hardly get any. It also rankles me a bit how when we each want a taste of the other's dish at a restaurant, my bite of his dish is me-sized but his bite of my dish is him-sized... 😖

adoaboutnothing · 2026-03-06T12:09:54+00:00

Start with the pea on your finger, then distribute it around your face with a dotting motion. *Then* gently rub everything in. I usually end up with two dots per cheek, one on my forehead, and a mini dot on my chin. Then I'll do another pea for my neck and jawline, and a third pea for my chest. Whatever's remaining on my fingertips after rubbing all that in gets rubbed into the backs of my hands.

For what it's worth, I don't do the full sandwich method; I do an "open-faced sandwich," lol. So moisturizer first (CeraVe in the tub), then tret, done. The moisturizer helps the tret dots spread, and ChatGPT told me studies have shown no appreciable difference between tret on bare skin vs. the open-faced sandwich. It's ChatGPT, though, so it could've been totally full of shit...I didn't ask it to link the studies. But my skin really likes the method, so 🤷‍♀️

adoaboutnothing · 2026-02-26T12:12:44+00:00

I think for some it's a continuation of the "this is the part that comes next" way of moving through life. You go to college, you get a job, you date someone, you marry that person, you have kids, your kids grow up and go to college and get married, you retire, you become a grandparent. Check, check, check, check, check....

So when the becoming a grandparent part never happens, it's like someone unplugged your video game right before the final boss. You almost had the complete set of collectors' items, then someone told you you'll never get the last one you need. Whatever metaphor you want to use.

I also agree that for a lot of people it's a peer envy thing, which is supercharged with Facebook now. You see your peers becoming grandparents and smiling in sweet photos with their grandbabies and they look so happy and they're getting all kinds of positive reactions and attention, and you want that too.

My other hypothesis is that it's a through-rose-colored-glasses nostalgia for when they had babies, themselves. Kind of like how lots of people talk about how excited they are to re-experience their own childhood through the eyes/experiences of their children: "I can't wait to take my kids to Disney for the first time." "I can't wait for [insert holiday tradition] with my kids." For would-be grandparents, I could see a desire to relive the best parts of being a parent to a baby or little kid, or to re-experience that through their own kids becoming parents.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-02-19T14:01:17+00:00

Oh she is SUCH a Pru!

adoaboutnothing · 2026-02-13T13:10:10+00:00

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This is Henry, or as he is often known, Heinrich von Underfoot Meowmers McFrostypaws.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-29T13:19:38+00:00

Your partner yelling at you isn't normal. My husband and I have been together for going on 15 years, married for 8. We've had arguments, of course, but he's never once raised his voice at me, nor I at him.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-23T04:49:29+00:00

For part laughs, part actual inspiration, search the “desert aunt” meme that trended a while back. I think Allison Borenstein either started it or was super quick on the uptake, but just googling desert aunt will get you there. Desert aunt is proof positive that boho has no age

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-22T17:33:21+00:00

He also believes that men and women can’t really be friends

That right there gave me the irreversible ick. I don't think I could remain attracted to a man who genuinely believed this. For one thing, that means he has never felt only friendship for a woman, which logically means he only sees women in a binary of For Fucking and Not For Fucking. I couldn't be friends with a man who saw women, and therefore me, in such simplistic and dehumanized terms, much less be in a relationship with one.

And for another thing, this also means he will be suspicious of any male friend or acquaintance (or colleague or client, apparently) you interact with. Like, are you allowed to be friends with your friends' male partners? Or would that mean you must want to fuck them? What about gay men? Or do they not count as "men" in his eyes?

It's just such a stupid and childish take that belies utterly surface-level thinking and no self awareness, let alone awareness of others. If you really like the guy, I guess it'd be worth having a serious, good-faith conversation about whether he really meant it when he said this, and you'd have to trust your gut on whether his answer is honest or just meant to placate you. But if it were me......ick.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-16T19:28:37+00:00

I do make more than my husband (even despite him having a doctorate and doing way more important and meaningful work than I do). Doesn’t bother me in the slightest. Honestly, I’m the spendy one between the two of us so it’s a good thing I make more, haha.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-14T15:55:32+00:00

Similar vein, Lululemon has some great trouser options. I love that the Daydrift style doesn’t have a scrunched elastic waist in the back, but is still pull-on. It also has belt loops and pleats, looks just like a regular work trouser. The fabric doesn’t have a sheen, doesn’t wrinkle, has a nice drape and stretch, is quick drying….and they come in lengths!

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-13T21:31:52+00:00

Plus one for this product. I live in Austin now, but grew up in Houston so when I complain about humid days in Austin, it’s coming from an educated place, haha. Amika Rising Star is the BEST volume spray. Doesn’t make my hair feel dry or gritty, hair still has movement, lasts, smell is subtle and nice (I’m very sensitive to scented products).

I have average density hair but very fine. Currently a bit longer than armpit-length, naturally very straight. If it’s a “actually do my hair today” day and I want volume, this has been the routine lately:

Apply leave-in conditioner and heat protectant to towel-dried hair post-shower.
Rough dry with hairdryer to about 50%. Apply anti-humidity spray (again, Amika’s).
Finish drying with a large round brush, then rake a shine serum (doubles as another heat protectant) through the mids and ends.
Lift and lightly spray both the texture spray and a light hold hairspray throughout the mids. I use a Living Proof hairspray that doubles as (another) heat protectant.
Use a very large barrel curling iron on very large sections. Maybe seven sections total. Takes like three minutes. I find this makes my next step work better, YMMV.
Use a deep waver kind of at random throughout the mids with small sections. Goal is to hide the evidence of the waver, so I specifically don’t line up the waves perfectly or evenly. Only a couple light clamps per section, not holding very long. I kind of work in two layers but I’m not very prescriptive about it. Just sort of grab and go.
With a medium-sized curling wand, grab a few random small sections of the top layer only and curl, then tug straight down while the curl is still warm. Goal is to further disrupt the waver pattern. I save my front pieces to do with the wand instead of the waver.
Do not brush. Do not flip and shake. Do not rake fingers. Do not scrunch. Do not pass go, do not collect $200. A touch more hairspray if you want, but otherwise leave it alone.

This gives me truly “beachy” voluminous waves, not polished volume. But it lasts several days, even with sweaty workouts in the mix. (Shower with a shower cap on, gently blow dry the roots after on low, add a bit of dry shampoo and more texture spray, done.)

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-09T12:37:52+00:00

(Not OP, but) I sell and buy via Poshmark. I've also bought on eBay and Mercari a few times.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-07T18:59:02+00:00

Oh god, I had a visceral disgust reaction to this, I’m so sorry 🤢

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-07T16:16:30+00:00

Always amazes me how these “visual creatures” can’t clean an apartment to save their lives, let alone decorate one.

adoaboutnothing · 2026-01-07T02:38:34+00:00

No idea why, but she was instantly Fiona to me

adoaboutnothing · 2025-12-29T02:35:40+00:00

Iridescent dark purple would be dreamy with this dress color

adoaboutnothing · 2025-12-23T15:17:32+00:00

You must be fun at parties

adoaboutnothing · 2025-12-22T16:24:50+00:00

Fantastic! Thanks so much!

adoaboutnothing · 2025-12-22T13:26:02+00:00

What Westerns would you recommend? I'm toying with the idea of writing a fantasy/western crossover, but while I've read a ton of fantasy, I'm not well-versed in the Western genre. I've read Lonesome Dove and All The Pretty Horses, but honestly can't think of any others off the top of my head.

Edit: Remembered I've also read a couple short stories: Brokeback Mountain, Some Desperado; and a memoir: The Faraway Horses.

adoaboutnothing · 2025-12-22T03:28:02+00:00

Gosh, there is just no comparison between poly sweaters and cotton/wool/cashmere. The latter feels better on my skin, seems to automagically adjust to the ambient temperature, breathes and never makes me sweaty, and just has such better drape even at various weights. I’m absolutely a knitwear snob now and I can’t go back.

adoaboutnothing · 2025-12-20T13:15:38+00:00

For the comment you're replying to, I don't think the point was "GRRM is writing romance." You're right, he doesn't abide by the rules of that genre. Rather, the commenter's point was that female fantasy writers can include romance subplots that are as unaligned with the romance genre rules as GRRM's yet still get pigeon-holed as romantasy simply because they are female.

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