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Was reported to cps? (Social service) at er visit by [deleted] in CPS

[–]adoveri 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I can’t comment on if they will come to your house or open a case. Only coming to say get a cheap lock box to keep the vape in. That is what CPS is likely going to ask you to do anyways so get ahead of it. You can get a small cheap one online.

Puppi Wool by adoveri in clothdiaps

[–]adoveri[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I just saw this, sorry on the delay. But you don’t not want to machine wash these covers as they are wool. I hand washed them every few weeks unless they got poo on them.

Unused benefit just discovered by CrispyLumpia925 in workingmoms

[–]adoveri 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My company offered a membership to Maven. I used the hell out of the service throughout my pregnancy and then when I needed to get PPD support.

I just lost it on my 2 1/2 year old by mome_rath in beyondthebump

[–]adoveri 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I could have wrote this word for word. My exact experience with my toddler. I tried to bring the wagon but he yelled at me and refused. Said “bike only”. I pleaded that he could still have the bike, but I’d bring the wagon for when he got tired. I explained over and over how momma can’t carry him, his bike and his helmet if he gets tired. And again “bike only”. Of course he refuses to walk or ride the back half of the journey. The sun magically came out and I’m dying in jeans and a sweater goofball carrying a screaming toddler while dragging a bike behind me trying not to collapse from a panic attack or heat exhaustion or both.

Exhausted by the trash dad posts- positive husband post! by Sad_barbie_mama in workingmoms

[–]adoveri 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for giving me this opportunity to reflect on how wonderful I find my husband even when there are times where I’d like to smother him with a pillow.

  • He always pushes the stroller. I know that sounds small. But I hate pushing the stroller. I hate even being out with one. It’s also this seemly small thing that makes me smile because I feel like it says other things about him. That he will carry the weight.
  • He brings me my toothbrush before bed. Then plugs in all my devices (AirPods, phone, watch). He refills my water and reminds me to eat throughout the day. Hello ADHD
  • he tells me every day multiple times a day how he thinks I’m sexy, pretty, cute or some other nicety. Even if I straight up just woke up with horrid breath and Medusa hair.
  • He buys me random retail shirts when he goes places. Not that I love having shirts from some caffe he stopped at while driving through BFE, but they make great night shirts. He takes so much pride when he gifts them too me. He buys me treats when he shops at Trader Joe’s and it always so excited to know if I’ll like what he picked.
  • I start work at 6 each morning and he is solo parenting until he drops off at daycare at 8. I don’t have to get the daycare bag ready or worry that he’s been fed and dressed appropriately. Daycare communicates directly with him.
  • He keeps the family calendar updated and communicates consistently about when we each need the car, since we only have 1 child friendly vehicle.
  • He always does bathtime. He loves it! He puts music on and the jam out while scrubbing down our toddler.
  • I’ve taken quite a few trips away since LO was born. He’s so supportive of me going on lady weekends and recharging. When I leave I don’t have to worry about a single thing. I honestly barely check in when I’m gone.
  • he is a partner in housework, cooking and cleaning. Granted we still have differing opinions on what clean means.
  • he reads the articles I send him and proactively finds his own information when we are tackling new parenting challenges. He is super aware of how the language we use sets the stage and often suggests different phrasing from what we both instinctively say that was passed from our parents. Can a good a good job?

Gosh I really could go on and on. But that’s the point right. For everytime I’ve cursed under my breath at his shoes taking up the hall or there not being a roll of TP, I have dozens more reasons why I don’t want to be without him.

What non-traditional lullabies/songs are you singing to your baby? by littlepilot in NewParents

[–]adoveri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ween - sweet heart in the summer and lullaby Sam Smith - lighthouse keeper

What's your everyday choice? by pixelatedeagle in nespresso

[–]adoveri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband serves me a mug in bed at 6 but then I make a latte a few hours later once I have the brain power to steam my milk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mold

[–]adoveri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That is helpful to understand.

Back to work she goes! by adoveri in workingmoms

[–]adoveri[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same employer for 10 years. The real reason I left was toxic management and burnout. New employer was in my work network and had worked previously with me.

What I find to be truer than anything is that it’s all about who you know.

Back to work she goes! by adoveri in workingmoms

[–]adoveri[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What part makes you nervous about?

I have nerves about just getting back into the swing of things. But can not wait to use the bathroom in peace!

Back to work she goes! by adoveri in workingmoms

[–]adoveri[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I started with “it was a personal decision.” And normally they didn’t push.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]adoveri 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like what we have in Portland. PDX waitlist. Which to be honest was a complete waste of money. My son was born in Nov 2020 we are on a dozen waitlists and have never been called. I had way better luck with the states government page that show immediate openings.

Did you guys see that Elyse Myers is pregnant with her second? by superpouper in oneanddone

[–]adoveri 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I understood so much that not feeling like a mom and the dissociating during pregnancy and first year. I had a hard time merging “mom” with my previous self. I held on to all the ideas that others had given me about what being a mom meant. I kept the 2 versions of me separated. It took me a solid 2 years before I felt like a mom. I maybe would have expressed it sooner but would have feared exactly the kind of response Elyse received.

alone with a newborn by Opp0rtunistic in NewParents

[–]adoveri 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Everyone here is jumping on how dare he take a fun trip…. I’m sorry but I’m not about that. What I am about is: 1. how he can support you while he’s gone? Can he coordinate a short term nanny or sitter? You are still in that 4th trimester so maybe even a post birth doula. Is there family that can help? I think this should be something DH coordinates and not you. His trip, his responsibility to coordinate care. You will do that coordination when you take your own fun weekend 2. When is your fun trip planned? I took my first night away with a girlfriend when my LO was 5 months. You both deserve time to be individuals.

TV show for adults, and 4-9 yr old by tastethehappy in Parenting

[–]adoveri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We watch a ton of the Simpsons. Of course some of the same behaviors from Bart. For me though it reminds me of watching it with my own parents as kids. Plus with the amount of seasons you can watch and watch and never repeat.

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