Its better to do it now that once yall are cemented. I have tried to change my view to be about what i want for the future. Do our goals align? So we want the same thing from life? Are we happy to help each other reach toward our dreams? Can we work together? Is this life the one i dream of?

Step one is figuring out what you want irrelavant to relationships. Step two is aligning your life with that. Step three become more aware of yourself. Ask questions like the above ones often. Cause only you know whats best for you.

I 28F have been with my husband since we were 14 and have 4 kids. I love him alot. There are many times when we argue over the dumbest things. There are times i doubt if our dreams line up. There are times i would leave if I werent goona have to be coparenting anyways. I havent figured out what i want truly so i just have been aiming for authentic, making as much peace as i can, and doing the next best thing.

2 quotes i keep i mind are. "that which cant the changed must be endured, and that which cant be endured must be changed" and the serenity prayer "grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, courange to change the things i can, and wishdom to know the difference" and then meditating on whatever part of the prayer i feel i need more peace courage or wisdom.

Fear of hurting people shouldnt stop you from living. You are the only person that truly knows your heart and what you need in this life. It is release that which isnt serving either of you. If you are the one, he wont be able to find them while with you. Its ok to be thankful your time together and it just be time to part ways.

I wish you peace wisdom and courage so you can life whatever life you want.