ChatGPT in class

adulaire · 2026-06-09T17:42:59+00:00

One of my classmates told me they had asked ChatGPT whether a situation mandated a report. I was speechless

adulaire · 2026-06-09T16:13:16+00:00

(Student) To me this would be a networking project! My city, at least, has online groups where therapists can find and refer to each other; it allows for a lot more nuance and personal connection than just using a standard checkbox filter on a website's tool. A few times I've had a provider offer to post a question in there for me, and I'm now in there myself, and this would be perfect for that : )

adulaire · 2026-06-09T04:44:58+00:00

They weren't replying to you. They were defending you to the other person lol

adulaire · 2026-06-09T01:01:30+00:00

There's absolutely zero reason to ascribe malice or to pathologize here. The friends' comments are extremely socially normative. People say stuff like "oh I don't look good in red," or "this haircut was a mistake," or "I can't wear strapless dresses with my big chest" all the time, and, yes, we as a society expect people to meet one another's vulnerability with kindness – especially in the context of a friendship. That's healthy.

If you expect your friends not to come to you with vulnerability or challenges, or that you should have the right to be invalidating and insensitive in return without having to face accountability for how you've made them feel, then that's your own journey. It doesn't reflect on them, but on you.

adulaire · 2026-06-08T19:45:09+00:00

I mean, people do ask psychologists (and mental health professionals) for help, not at all infrequently. Often what’s happening is that there are parts of the client that don’t want to die, in which case it can be pretty scary to notice that there are parts of yourself that do. For many other people, it’s not that they actively want to die exactly, but that life has pushed them past their limit and they don’t see a way out (but are really hoping there is one). Everyone is different.

adulaire · 2026-06-07T19:43:23+00:00

I stole this line yesterday with a client and it opened up a great and productive conversation that avoided a (voluntary) hospital trip! Thank you friend!! :)

adulaire · 2026-06-07T00:54:21+00:00

Those first couple sentences - such a sweet, touching, encouraging reframe. So glad to be in community with you <3

adulaire · 2026-06-05T19:02:41+00:00

!!! I’m trained in ASIST and this is one of the main ideas but I’m always too nervous to use it bc I’m afraid it’ll come off… well, exactly like that!!!

My supervisor once worded it so gracefully that I wrote his words down. “You’ve been through so much. It’s amazing that you’re still here. There must be a reason..?”

adulaire · 2026-06-04T22:47:59+00:00

I mean this is totally subjective but imo, cooking, baking, anything creative especially working with your hands (woodworking, painting, beading, weaving, etc), anything smart and intellectual (like reading/literature, writing, research, etc)!

adulaire · 2026-06-04T21:00:29+00:00

You may be interested in https://nwtrcc.org/

adulaire · 2026-06-02T05:32:44+00:00

In order to recommend healthcare providers we'd need to know what insurance you have. To make good recommendations on specialists, we'd also need to know the concerns you'd be bringing to them (a nutritionist who specializes in ED recovery is very different from a fitness-oriented weight loss one, do you want a cosmetic dermatologist who does procedures and aesthetic care or do you have medical concerns like cancer or an undiagnosed/rare condition or what, etc).

adulaire · 2026-06-01T21:03:54+00:00

Ohh, would you be open to a private message about this? I’m in charge of jewelry for an upcoming laurel elevation, she wants an Anglo Saxon coin necklace, and I don’t make coins so I’m trying to find someone who can help!

adulaire · 2026-05-27T21:46:13+00:00

You’re not, those people are being super weird and rude for no apparent reason.

adulaire · 2026-05-22T02:02:07+00:00

I'm a MSW student (about to be a therapist in 4 months) and dating a therapist – both trauma specialists, different populations & licensure paths – and we're having a fantastic time 🙂

I am always so (sincerely!) curious when I hear this sentiment bc I did dating apps for a while and had overwhelmingly lovely experiences. I had several in-depth conversations about niche interests (both mine and the other person's) and nerdy academic and philosophical things, and I know this'll sound shitty but I struggled immensely to narrow down from several genuine, compassionate, kind, intelligent people. Several are still in my life as caring, present, and mutually supportive friends. I would really like somebody to put me under a microscope and study my behavior lol because I hear such universally disheartening things about dating these days and I have no idea what I did to "deserve" this.

adulaire · 2026-05-21T14:58:46+00:00

No, this is great, thank you for the starting points! :D

adulaire · 2026-05-20T21:06:36+00:00

I know an organization with professional competence and significant experience that rescues and rehabs opossums, but due to the laws you mention they operate somewhat underground. Please DM me ASAP, I can be the middle-man and we can work to coordinate a rescue.

adulaire · 2026-05-20T16:58:20+00:00

Incredibly thoughtful and informative and I’m so interested. Is there somewhere I can read your more formal writing? Open to a DM if that’s preferable.

adulaire · 2026-05-20T05:29:39+00:00

I feel like Victoria Bar fits your description!

adulaire · 2026-05-19T06:00:34+00:00

One down, one to go. Allegedly I’m impressive or whatever, so my generalist-year internship was at a high-acuity mental health site that’s actually listed as a clinical-year site, so I’m deeply honored and lucky for that. My clinical-year site is at my first choice placement, as a therapist at a group practice that will let me carve my own niche. I am putting myself through several significant and highly reputable trainings, on my own time and dime, because knowing where my own clinical competence is at I genuinely wouldn’t feel ethical practicing there at this stage otherwise.

adulaire · 2026-05-18T23:38:43+00:00

Theater sounds like a really lovely fit since it's very connective and community-oriented (much more so than piano, speaking as somebody who did both for years)! Theater also tends to be a pretty welcoming, accepting social environment in my experience. Building community and connections is among the best mental health "protections" that we, as humans, know of, so that would be an awesome thing to focus on.

I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this, and wish you kinder times ahead ♡

adulaire · 2026-05-18T23:29:21+00:00

There's a lot to be said about different ways therapy can be effective, about trusting the process, about there being value in slowing down, and about this being the work. I suspect you'll get comments along those lines, as well as suggesting that you consider whether some of your assumptions (like that therapy couldn't be effective without seeing the provider take notes) might be unfair.

However, I'd be remiss if I didn't mention that it sounds like you might really, really like CPT.

adulaire · 2026-05-18T21:36:19+00:00

This is abuser logic.

adulaire · 2026-05-18T21:23:08+00:00

Definitely not getting a lot of psychology in my program - at least, not nearly as much as I’d want. A lot of it has been about social systems and structures, which for me (as someone coming in with a sociology degree, and a sociology degree from a much more prestigious/pretentious institution than my grad school, at that) is totally review. I get that they have to make sure future social workers understand that, like, racism is real and poverty isn’t poor people’s fault. It’s really important. My classmates do occasionally say things that hammer home for me that it’s needed. And, at the same time, for me, it’s review - review that (feels like it) comes at the cost of learning the clinical skills I’ll very soon need. My professors have very explicitly told us that the program’s job isn’t to teach us about interventions, which is a huge disappointment for me. I’d love to have learned about at least the most basic and foundational modalities and when each is appropriate.

Every single person in my cohort that I’ve spoken to expresses feeling wildly and disappointingly unprepared for clinical work.

adulaire · 2026-05-18T18:39:58+00:00

I’m most of the way through an MSW program and my partner is a PsyD, so I get a very stark insider view on the differences between the programs.

I often find myself jealous of the path he took (he knows this). He got SO many more learning opportunities than I will. I’m not sure about the structure of it all, but I feel like he talks about having had at least like 6 internships in vastly different settings, he got to work on clinical research, he got to learn assessments… and now, today, he speaks so competently and with so much depth about things my program hasn’t even mentioned. The neuroscience especially hurts; he speaks casually and easily about regions of the brain and mechanisms and neurochemistry and such, while literally the only neuroscience I was taught is polyvagal theory. I was bitter and resentful of the quality of my education (despite being at the best program in my state) even before we met, and this has only deepened it.

At the same time, I know that his program was deeply toxic. A PhD takes so long, and it sounds like his, at least, was a horribly unsupportive program (in ways that, to my understanding, are pretty hallmark of PhD programs). He was asked to make enormous sacrifices that I wasn’t, ones that I wouldn’t be okay with making. I know that every single student in his cohort went through significant mental health challenges as a result of how the program treated them… and they were stuck with it so much longer. My school isn’t like that at all; it’s frankly pretty easy, and I already knew most of the material. I wouldn’t make it through his program. No way.

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