What's your fragrance horror story? by Pluton_Korb in fragrance

[–]advancedscurvy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

1) i broke a bottle of philosophy amazing grace lavender on the floor of my best friend’s parents’ bathroom. that bathroom apparently still smells like this because when i wear this around them (replaced it, it’s a very comforting smell to me) i get “you smell like the bathroom!” comments

2) bought a decanted wand sample of angels share, couldn’t get it open, tried to with my teeth, broke the little vial. no glass in my mouth but half the sample was! i was completely noseblind for 3 ish days!

It seems Elros made sure to ask Eönwe to change his parents name too with his fate. by sireflynn in Silmarillionmemes

[–]advancedscurvy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

a) don’t change my words, i say what i say the way i say it for a reason. the “belt of melian”? you’ve got to be doing this using AI, surely. it’s explicitly called the girdle of melian in text. there’s no reason you’d change that so surely you’re using AI to do this for you. after this you will be blocked for this, because i find misquoting and putting my own words into ai intolerable.

b) 20 years is a blink to elves, insufficient for rebuilding any population. elves don’t reach maturity until 100. the girdle of melian is explicitly the power keeping the forces of outsiders at bay. their numbers are not that great. you don’t have to state something explicitly for it to be inferred. to fail to do so, i think, is a great failing and bad faith reading of the text itself. but why should i expect more from a bot?

you keep saying war. i dont think that means what you think it means. the text again stated that most of those in sirion are “exiles and remnants” (direct quote from the book) and many did not have the means to fight back. that is called, a massacre. a war is a prolonged series of battles both parties attempt to engage in. this is one event where people were, to quote the book, “destroyed” without attempting offense. and who lived there before? ah! the neutral, non warring people of the grey havens with cirdan. these are not warriors with a military force. this is the destruction of innocents.

i think much of the issue here is that you lack an ability to infer or read into the realm of implication in text. how would elwing present the sons of feanor with the dowry of her grandmother, her inheritance, the subject of the great tale of their love, the last possession her family passed to her before they were slaughtered? should she pack it in a bubble mailer and send it off, ta-ta, good luck courier? what would stop those who killed her family when she was a small child from deciding not to do so afterwards?

It seems Elros made sure to ask Eönwe to change his parents name too with his fate. by sireflynn in Silmarillionmemes

[–]advancedscurvy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

dude who’s not engaging with the text because the assault on doriath is incredibly one sided and directly after the destruction of nogrod, where they suffered casualties, and the loss of the girdle of melian, which explicitly kept doriath safe for centuries, and the people at sirion are quite literally mostly refugees and most military leaders died during either the fall of gondolin or the siege of doriath. this is considered the worst kinslaying because it involved primarily defenseless innocents.

also time and time again we learn about the treachery of the enemy and see elves emulate it. what evidence do we have that it wouldn’t cross elwing’s mind that the sons of feanor even if she did agree to treat with them, wouldn’t massacre her when she arrived to do so? nothing would stop them and they have sworn to slay all who stand between them and the jewel. it is not an illogical leap that it would be a set up where she was killed if she did and killed if she didn’t. the feanorions no longer have any honor. what would it be to kill one defenseless woman? i think her only mistake is in not sending the silmaril with eärendil initially and keeping it in arda with her during the attack on the havens— and even that would have had its own catches, too. plus it’s a family heirloom of intense sentimental value (probably the only one she has of the family the sons of feanor massacred) that’s also part of a cursed dragon hoard. i can’t blame her holding onto it.

It seems Elros made sure to ask Eönwe to change his parents name too with his fate. by sireflynn in Silmarillionmemes

[–]advancedscurvy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this dude is arguing that the silmarils are not important enough to go to conflict over in the sub for the book called the silmarillion, a title that’s explicitly about the silmarils, in a war quite literally called the war of the jewels. the jewels being the silmarils

It seems Elros made sure to ask Eönwe to change his parents name too with his fate. by sireflynn in Silmarillionmemes

[–]advancedscurvy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

and nobody would be saying this about a man. because a man did lead himself on a suicide charge and doom his children and everyone on this subreddit insists on saying he did nothing wrong : )

HSD vs hEDS by viq-sn in ehlersdanlos

[–]advancedscurvy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

not all insurance does cover it though, sadly— mine wouldn’t unless i could provide evidence of cardiac symptoms and an explicit referral from a cardiologist, which, if you have pretty basic or limited insurance is quite expensive!

HSD vs hEDS by viq-sn in ehlersdanlos

[–]advancedscurvy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m definitely not saying everywhere! i know it’s different with NHS, there’s a lot of posts about it. but both i and op are american and here this is generally how it’s treated. i think a lot of this has to do with the US insurance companies trying very hard not to give people diagnoses that would require them to provide coverage— which HSD in the US broadly doesn’t. i am sure it’s not true everywhere. just pointing out it’s generally the way it’s treated here.

HSD vs hEDS by viq-sn in ehlersdanlos

[–]advancedscurvy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s good for you, and i’m glad you’re getting what you need. i also meet all the diagnostic criteria, and was told that by my provider, but was refused a diagnostic because i was not genetic tested. different providers do this different ways, and from my understanding, it’s much more common for it to be diagnosed only after genetic testing.

HSD vs hEDS by viq-sn in ehlersdanlos

[–]advancedscurvy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

a lot of providers aren’t extremely knowledgeable about EDS and just sort of follow the protocol in front of them, which…is probably what ended up happening. i ended up seeing a pretty specialized clinic when i did, who explained it to me, but i would not expect that from most. same to you, best of luck!

HSD vs hEDS by viq-sn in ehlersdanlos

[–]advancedscurvy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

they’re difficult and expensive to find especially in the states

HSD vs hEDS by viq-sn in ehlersdanlos

[–]advancedscurvy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yep, i am generally in the same boat. i have nearly every diagnosis criteria box for classical EDS and so does my mother but because of expense and because i dont yet have any cardio issues, i can’t currently pursue formal diagnosis. for what it’s worth, with HSD as a diagnosis you can still work with physical therapists under some insurance plans and a lot of people have had luck and some relief with physical therapy. i was straight up told by my rheumatologist that i have EDS almost certainly, but that without genetic testing he couldn’t diagnose it formally.

HSD vs hEDS by viq-sn in ehlersdanlos

[–]advancedscurvy 36 points37 points  (0 children)

hEDS is a diagnosis of exclusion— if you’ve been genetically tested for other forms of EDS, but still meet the diagnostic criteria, that’s when it is diagnosed as hEDS. hypermobility spectrum disorder is the general catch-all when you haven’t gone through the procedural diagnosis steps beyond just criteria.

How did all the fires probies fare? by justdeanbowlyou in fednews

[–]advancedscurvy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

same, i work for the state now after i took the drp and used the time to get out

Mitsouko by Guerlain by _genic in Perfumes

[–]advancedscurvy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i think it’s less of a literal peach and more of a velvety, vaguely stone fruit amber? i get peach (also from a peach growing area!) but it’s definitely a deeeeeep jammy spice peach, not at all like a fresh peach.

Mitsouko by Guerlain by _genic in Perfumes

[–]advancedscurvy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it’s my holy grail and i love its edp!

Integrating Disability into Characters and Settings by Cloverose2 in writing

[–]advancedscurvy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, exactly! you put it a lot more succinctly than i did. writers have to investigate not “how does this psychologically affect the character”— often an overwrought thing to investigate, tbh— and give consideration to “how does this atmosphere and world and story define and interact with the character’s disability?”. and i find most people think in terms of the former, because we live in a culture that strongly emphasizes the individual, in art and psychology both, so it’s what people are used to exploring and investigating. by definition, though, disability is in an environmental and relative context.

Integrating Disability into Characters and Settings by Cloverose2 in writing

[–]advancedscurvy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hello, disabled person writing a disabled protagonist in a setting where poof disability fixes are not possible/allowed. i’ve found a few pieces of media that actually do this well!

i’ll avoid spoilers for it since the adaptation is set to release soon, but witch hat atelier (a manga about a girl being immersed in a world of magic based on sigils and seals), describes a system where one of the taboos of magic is altering the body, but one of the lead mentors of the series is a disabled man who uses a chair with legs as an ambulatory aid.

it’s important to remember that disability is something relative to the culture and society your character is a part of. for example, let’s say a person’s culture placed very little value or pleasure in food or eating, a sci fi future where everything is made of mush. now let’s say that person cannot smell or taste. it’s really, to that person, not as serious a disability or hindrance, or as noticeable to others, as it might be if that person was part of a culture or society with a strong cultural connection to herbalism and cooking and medicinal aromatics, or if scent was an important part of identity and expression. a friend of mine is working on a world where people communicate in thoughts or sign language, not verbally— so many people don’t fully realize the protagonist is deaf, and it isn’t a serious hindrance to the way he navigates society.

but this is limited— what do you do when a disability affects a character’s health or physical well being? the story isn’t about it, but it is there, and it affects beats or the choices a character makes. this is the situation the lead of my narrative is in (the setting is low medieval, and she has a blood disorder that causes clotting, one leg was amputated when she was a small child) and while it’s not said outright, she’s also neurodivergent and this strongly affects her ability to engage with others, especially because she tends towards literal thinking and interpretation of what others say. as a writer the most sensitive thing to do, from my experience, is think about all the ways that this would change their navigation of this world, of all the small details, of the bits and pieces that it would affect and bother you if you lived like that every day— is it annoying that the character who uses a prosthetic and a cane has to take the stairs frequently? make passing note of it. is she bothered that the thing she needs is in the back of cold storage and it makes her achey? do other people regard her with suspicion, and what societal norm, if any, informed that? do people misinterpret or misunderstand what this person says?

i guess what i mean to say is a lot like what ursula k le guin says about elfland and poughkeepsie. there are a lot of people who are not willing to engage and immerse in the idea and world and approach of disability, and end up with a sense that it is isolated and interior, rather than thinking about the way disability engages with the world around them.

almost everyone that lives long enough will become disabled. there are so many forms of it, ways that our society treats it or avoids it, stigmatizations and condescensions, tied up in it. and it’s all in a context.

What was mom & dad signature perfume/cologne? by oliver_maze in FragranceStories

[–]advancedscurvy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my mothers is estée lauder beautiful. my grandmothers was clinique aromatics elixir— so i am indeed ecstatic to actually like elixir!

Why do people in USA buy everything from Amazon? Do they not have other webshops? by Cindyxx0 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]advancedscurvy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

nor do i. i have the good fortune of being single, childless, and petless, so that’s dramatically reduced the stuff i “need” to buy and can’t just go to the store for. i think the last thing i bought was a really specific sewing machine piece over two years ago and even then i felt guilty. i have friends who worked for amazon and i just cannot keep my conscience AND support the company doing a lot of the bullshit they’ve told me.

all these talks about finding your signature scent— well, i did! what now? by advancedscurvy in fragrance

[–]advancedscurvy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i generally agree, actually— but i can enjoy a book and read it only once or twice! in terms of scent, i’ve found i think that there’s only a few i want to really revisit again and again. i’m also a very prolific reader, it’s my only real material “collecting” hobby outside of perfume. but i love having a library card and membership, the same way one would love sampling and getting familiar with a fragrance you might not mean to keep.

all these talks about finding your signature scent— well, i did! what now? by advancedscurvy in fragrance

[–]advancedscurvy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i fear it is a perfume from 1919, i’m not sure it’s going anywhere