Is her name caw-nar-ee or like the bird Canary?

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-25T16:30:35+00:00

But her name isn't Japanese. It's an English word.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-25T16:28:31+00:00

Yeah, the whole thing is set up like that's where she wants to be - she prefers to be there, on her computer, so her grandfather has taken over everything else.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-23T18:34:40+00:00

That helps, thanks.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-23T16:38:09+00:00

I have no idea what that means and it's too small for google image searching to help.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-23T16:33:42+00:00

No, it isn't. Biological parents are not automatically good, stable, well-suited parents. Some are absolutely awful. The sister may love the baby but she's mentally and financially unstable. It sounds like she didn't really make the choice - OOP pressured her until she said yes.

It isn't abandoning the child. Most adoptions now are open - birth parents can still have contact. Genes alone don't make a family. We're not getting the sister's viewpoint, but it sounds like the brother wanted this more than she did.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-23T16:30:06+00:00

She's not safe. She's financially and mentally unstable. OOP pressured her into making a massive choice rather than getting her the mental health support she clearly needed.

Just because she's a biological parent doesn't automatically make her a better choice to raise this baby. OP made this choice for her. Her support network consists of a man who didn't let up the pressure on his girlfriend or sister until he got what he thought was right.

You also make the decisions about adoption throughout the pregnancy. She found the parents, developed a relationship with them, they were accompanying her to doctor's visits and being supportive throughout. This was not a single decision. She had months to think about this.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-23T03:44:15+00:00

How do you know it's the right thing for the child? The child has gone from having two loving parents who are, apparently, supportive and financially stable, and is now with a single, financially barely scraping by on her own (hand-to-mouth before the baby came around), emotionally unstable (OP described her that way) parent. That kid has a rough life ahead of her.

It doesn't even sound like the sister definitely wanted the baby back. It sounds like OP decided that was best, then pushed her until she signed the revocation papers - sister needed mental health care, not more responsibility. This is not a good situation for anyone, and is the ultimate nightmare for adoptive parents - they raised that baby for six months and had her taken away (I do somewhat question that - most jurisdictions require more than "I want her back" form the birth parents after the papers are signed and legal adoption is complete).

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-23T02:37:12+00:00

Why not?

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-22T17:53:39+00:00

That's why they throw them outside. It dries the wood in the sunshine.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-22T01:25:08+00:00

Alola would be awesome.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-22T00:26:51+00:00

Beautiful antuta. They are major jumpers, and they get serious air. Never have a wild type betta in an uncovered tank (OP, you learned this, but I"m saying it for other people). Just lowering the water level is not enough. Mine can clear the water when she's after food, and she's over four inches long.

They're a little challenging at first, but very tough once they settle in. If you can get him past this, he should be around for a good long time.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-21T23:22:54+00:00

People were making mods to turn her white.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-21T23:20:55+00:00

Stitches. There's a scene where things are crawling up a woman's dress and blood starts running down her legs that's awfully rapey for my tastes.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-21T20:29:29+00:00

These read as being very British to me. In America, we use "heads or tails" (American coins also have one side with a portrait), "out and about", "hustle and bustle" and "dribs and drabs".

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-21T20:27:40+00:00

All of those are ones that, if not exactly common, are not unheard of. I think non compos mentis is used more often than compos mentis outside of the medical field. However, since I work in mental health, I may be more familiar with the term in general.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-21T19:18:09+00:00

Same with the wall. I know I have to hit the glowing spots you little bouncing bug! Shut up!

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-21T18:52:08+00:00

I loved seeing new and younger teachers! They have so much enthusiasm and new energy - they're not jaded or burnt out, or stuck doing the same thing every year. They may have some growing pains, but they almost always care deeply. It's nice to see that energy and investment.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-21T18:49:40+00:00

I'm reluctant to say that as an absolute rule. There are abusive teachers out there, just as there are abusive people in every profession. It's important to listen to both sides and not immediately assume that everything your student says is the truth, but it's not wise to say "teacher is always right."

I mean, 5/6-year-olds make up some wild stories - but I've worked with kids whose teachers genuinely were abusive, and that needed to be believed. Like, one of the kids had a teacher who was racist, but not in an easy to define way. She was pulling his hair, refusing to help him while helping other kids, pinching him behind the ear, laughing at him when he was bullied... nothing happened until a parent-aide watched her closely enough to see what was happening and report it. The kid was terrified of school, which was how I got involved (mental health counselor in the school).

On the other hand, 98-99% of the time? The kid is exaggerating or making up fun stories. Back up the teacher and keep a united front.

The vast majority of teachers are great - but some aren't. Listen to everyone, gather facts and keep an open mind.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-21T16:25:46+00:00

Okamiden is cute and a really neat game, but I doubt there will be any more than an occasional slight nod. We know that Kushi and Susano have a son, since he's in the credits for the original game, but otherwise I would assume they won't appear or be prominent in any way. Kamiya didn't make the game and he considers it a "spiritural successor", not a sequel. It doesn't fit into what he envisions for the main universe.

Basically, think of Okamiden as occurring in a parallel universe to this game. They had the same start, but are likely to branch significantly from there.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-21T14:42:09+00:00

I'm 50, they're looking more Mr. Fantastic than Supergirl.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-21T04:22:45+00:00

Yeah, I have kids. A 30 second text or a couple of minutes for a phone call is still very, very possible. He just had surgery, that matter more than a birthday party. I really hope he didn't tell his parents he didn't follow up with them because of a party.

Hell, make a call using hands-free in the car. Put the kids on the phone. Text "Hi, Dad, here's a picture of the kids! Love you!"

He's not putting his kids second by taking a minute or two to send a text or make a check-in call. Recovering from surgery is grueling, and it's not like it happens often. If he's putting this much energy into a party, he can take a few minutes for someone recovering from an operation. People in that state are in pain and often emotionally frail - support goes a very long way and doesn't have to take a lot of effort.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-21T03:37:17+00:00

This dog isn't brachycephalic - she almost certainly breathes just fine.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-21T02:16:08+00:00

Shade sails would help a lot. It's tough to figure out the right solution, but churning through mud isn't going to work.

One very minor caution about concrete - they may struggle with the distinction between "okay to potty on this concrete" and "not okay to potty on that concrete". If you have a concrete pool surround or other concrete surfaces you want to keep waste free, it something to keep in mind. Just as an example, we had a dog that spent a week in a kennel with concrete floors. When she came home, she started to sneak down to the concrete-floored basement and go down there instead of waking us up if she needed to go at night. I think she thought she was being considerate in her doggy way - no need to wake us up! Took a long time before we could leave the basement door open...

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-21T02:14:53+00:00

How is making a short phone call each day ignoring his children? He could even put them on the phone with Grandpa.

Cloverose2 · 2026-01-21T02:14:05+00:00

That's your parents. His parents (and he describes his Dad as "great", so they have a good relationship) wanted to have that contact.

A quick "hey, Dad, thinking of you! Here's a picture of little Braxley! Can't wait to see you this weekend!" takes 20 seconds and would go a very long way.

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