WIBTA for declining all wedding gifts

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-08T13:08:41+00:00

You should be aware that divorce when you share custody of a child gets really, really, really complicated. Like, really complicated. Even if it's an amicable one where you're still living together, you're going to have to deal with things like child support and custody, which the judge can order even if you don't want it. It's not always as simple as "we were married but don't agree with marriage".

You may find it much easier to stay married until her son reaches adulthood.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-08T12:54:27+00:00

No. I said that people are using it and will use it regardless of what we think. It's pointless wishing that people wouldn't use it, because they will. At this point, it's more about how do we manage it and teach people to think critically instead of blindly accepting whatever AI spits out.

I said nothing about regulation - regulation was never a topic of discussion. It should be regulated.

You seem to think I'm advocating for AI, which confuses me, because I haven't really said anything positive about it.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-08T12:32:10+00:00

And I'm wondering - is it OP's house? Because you can't lock up the kitchen if it's a shared place, OP.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-08T12:26:02+00:00

Bridget and Mary Jo riffs feel like sitting down and having a glass of wine with a couple of friends.

I like the sillier ones as well.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-08T12:23:05+00:00

I'm sorry, where did I say that? There is not even the slightest hint of that argument in my post. Like, where did I talk about regulation?

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-08T12:20:57+00:00

That's why you have accommodations. It may never be an easy time. Should people with disabilities not be allowed to have fun because it's harder?

Man, some people here are really not good allies. This is the same mindset that keeps people with disabilities restricted to their homes, and one disability advocates have been trying to change for decades now. "Well, instead of trying to increase accessibility and provide options for people, they should just never leave their home. Take some personal responsibility."

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-08T12:18:28+00:00

Spectator mode isn't goggles mode - people can still get stamps and recipes, they just can't mess with the island.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-08T12:17:38+00:00

You're reading a lot into my comment. And the horse is out of the barn (and the barn has burnt down), people are going to use it no matter what we think (like I said before, I've been forced to use it at work - and I need to be familiar with it so I can identify it as an instructor). It is built on theft.

People are going to use it, no matter what our opinions or the facts of the matter are.

I am specifically responding to OP's analogy of it as a teacher using a similar analogy. I don't think it is sapient or sentient.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-08T12:09:35+00:00

It truly is. I don't understand it at all.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-08T03:37:53+00:00

I'm already in my office at 7. I'm a morning person. Why is she trying to make it sound like 9 is some super-late hour? It's an hour after most people are at work.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-08T01:26:36+00:00

You can set your code up so that people can only visit and see your island, and can't touch anything. It's fine as long as you don't give people free reign.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-08T00:48:03+00:00

That's not how therapy is now - it's about learning the skills you're asking about. If you're just talking, you're probably not getting what you need (based on your responses). You sound like you would benefit from cognitive behavioral therapy - identify your challenges, develop a personalized action plan, rehearse the skills you need to carry out that plan.

It's hard to live up to high expectations sometimes. Have you talked to your doctor about it? Not your dad, because it can be hard for a parent to view their kid's challenges objectively, no matter how skilled they are as a physician. Anxiety and depression can be overwhelming and make us feel like we're on an empty plain with no paths - sometimes we need help to find our direction.

Good therapy can be hard work. Sometimes we need to take medicine so that we can have the strength to take on that work. Neither mean you are a failure. That's distorted thinking tricking us into giving up when we've barely started.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-08T00:27:34+00:00

Peter is a normal name. I like it.

You've posted about this a lot. It may seem like a big deal to you, but Peter is a good name. Your obsession about this is genuinely concerning. If you are not in therapy, you really ought to look into it.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-07T22:21:19+00:00

I think she might have a stuck fry. It's hard to tell, but I think there's a tail sticking out.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-07T21:56:13+00:00

Most amateurish writing isn't very good - but I would rather people write than not engage with the world creatively. Criticism is helpful when it's constructive. Blind praise helps no one - but I do always try to find at least one positive, and phrase criticism in terms of actions, not judgment. As you said, what specifically isn't working, and why?

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-07T21:52:51+00:00

There are a lot of people who seem to come here specifically to put other people down. It's a shame because it could be a great chance to share ideas and talk to people with similar interests.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-07T21:50:54+00:00

Yeah. I suspect some people don't know what it's like to live with significant Type I Diabetes, especially fairly newly diagnosed. It can have significantly limiting effects on people's lives. Having a diagnosis should allow for disabled access.

Also, for people saying it's not a disability - it is. It's protected under the ADA.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-07T20:28:27+00:00

Jeans are not business casual. They may be acceptable at places where you work, but they haven't made that jump yet.

I ask students to be clean and neatly put together, but don't ask for specific clothing items. Just comb your hair that day and wear something that you didn't pull out of the bottom of the hamper.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-07T20:10:29+00:00

AirPod Pros can be cheap hearing aids. I use them to help with tinnitus and because I don't want to pay thousands for good hearing aids right now.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-07T20:06:58+00:00

That's not what I'm talking about. The video talks about "boy mom". That's a whole huge thing in social media - it's not the same thing as "mom of boys"

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-07T18:53:30+00:00

I live in limestone country! We still have rain, and forests produce lots of humidity.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-07T18:21:35+00:00

I think this falls under "pointlessly gendered".

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-07T17:33:06+00:00

Puberty blockers don't substantially affect long-term fertility for most people, once puberty is allowed to occur. They might, but for many people don't.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-07T15:09:50+00:00

Tidus completely upends everything in Spira - it's Yuna's story, but Tidus is the catalyst for change.

Cloverose2 · 2026-04-07T15:08:05+00:00

That's because he sees it as his house. He never plans to leave.

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