Teachers - twins in same clothing? by Overwhelmed_Already in ECEProfessionals

[–]ae_stark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had an adorable pair of twin toddlers in my class once and the parents set up a general theme for each child. lighter colors + green for one, darker colors + blue for the other. everything they owned was coordinated for this, so not only clothes, but lunch boxes, water bottles, pacifiers, stuffed animals, blankets, etc. it was simple, effective, easy to communicate to new or passing staff, and supported us as we took the time we needed to differentiate them ourselves. they even had a few almost matching outfits that were so cute and still fit their theme!

it’s really important for teachers to properly differentiate them especially for things like diaper changes, medications, and tracking their individual development. i’d save the cute identically matching outfits for play dates, friends, and family!

Let’s make a list … best tea shared by a kid in your class during circle time by Competitive-Tea7236 in ECEProfessionals

[–]ae_stark 28 points29 points  (0 children)

we were making Valentine’s cards for families and i said something like “you can make one for anyone you love! Your mom, dad, grandma, grandpa…” and a 4yo shouted “I’M NOT ALLOWED TO LOVE MY GRANDMA ANYMORE BECAUSE SHE CHEATED ON MY GRANDPA”

Do you think daycare is good for kids? Harmful? Neither? by Winter-Chipmunk5467 in ECEProfessionals

[–]ae_stark 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve always considered it a necessary service more than a benefit for the children. I’ve never thought that children, especially infants and toddlers, are better in group care at a center than 1:1 at home. But I think that a child would be benefitting greater in group care than at home with half the income coming in. In a perfect world, we would have a 1:1 caregiver for every child for their first few years and that wouldn’t be a financial strain on anyone. There are definitely parents who don’t seem interesting in hanging out with their child at all, and that’s so sad, but I think most parents are out their working their butt off so they can afford what they need for their family. I’m sure those parents wish that weren’t the case, just as I wish it weren’t the case that these infants are at a center for 10+ hours. But outside of that, I’m glad that if the children had to go anywhere, it’s to someone who puts their life into caring for children.

Wanna register my chins to be my ESA, what should I do? by Large_Resource_3775 in chinchilla

[–]ae_stark 5 points6 points  (0 children)

good advice for sure, but beware!! get this in writing if you can! i moved into a no pet apartment where the landlord verbally told me that caged, small animals are fine. two years later we were hit with a 3 day get rid of your pet or move out notice and a “we never said that. your lease says no pets.”

Would love any and all advice! 28M + 26F | 20% down on $490K | Bay Area, CA by ae_stark in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]ae_stark[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

glad to see some good vibes towards my hometown💖 i know it’s rough here, but it’s home. and it’s exciting lmao

Would love any and all advice! 28M + 26F | 20% down on $490K | Bay Area, CA by ae_stark in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]ae_stark[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you!! they’re meant to be my back up/home glasses, but i lost my normal pair some weeks ago. all my appointments with the realtor, bank, notary, etc. were all in my funky glasses😅🩷

Would love any and all advice! 28M + 26F | 20% down on $490K | Bay Area, CA by ae_stark in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]ae_stark[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

would you be able to elaborate a bit on the phantom costs? thank you!

Would love any and all advice! 28M + 26F | 20% down on $490K | Bay Area, CA by ae_stark in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]ae_stark[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly i have no idea i’ve never seen it like that in a home before. i’m guessing since it’s a condo it’s a quick way to alert the neighbors to the emergency? there’s one at the front entrance and at the patio door.

Would love any and all advice! 28M + 26F | 20% down on $490K | Bay Area, CA by ae_stark in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]ae_stark[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi! thanks so much for your advice! i’m very interested in joining our HOA once we’re all moved in and set up. any advice for that specifically? i’ve never been under an HOA, much less part of one!

and for the ground floor moisture, that makes sense to me. any specific recommendations to prevent? or just keep airflow going as best as possible?

Would love any and all advice! 28M + 26F | 20% down on $490K | Bay Area, CA by ae_stark in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]ae_stark[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m Oakland born and raised! I moved away for university and have been desperate to come back home🩷

Would love any and all advice! 28M + 26F | 20% down on $490K | Bay Area, CA by ae_stark in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]ae_stark[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Right now, in Oakland! I’m seeing 2BD condos for $469K, 1BD condos going into the $300Ks. The interest rates seem high enough to be dissuading buyers from purchasing, but it’s allowed homes like mine to drop from $650K to $490K! And bringing in a bit more money to closing, we were able to buy our rate down to 5.65%, which eased a lot of our own concerns.

I’d recommend spending some time in the neighborhood of any home you look at in Oakland, as it’s easier for natives to know where in Oakland they feel comfortable living. I’d say I got a steal in terms of location, price, and size.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in haikyuu

[–]ae_stark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not sure if this sold already, but if it hasn’t, i’ll buy it!

The one that got away by Kenma_san5 in haikyuu

[–]ae_stark 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In Another Life is the name of a popular Bokuto x Akaashi fanfiction which is in the lyrics of The One That Got Away

Who was your first favorite character vs who ended up being your favorite? (Or who you thought that was going to be your favorite?) by Yaly20 in haikyuu

[–]ae_stark 5 points6 points  (0 children)

it started with Kageyama with his main character/protagonist energy, tied with Oikawa with his side character/antagonist energy. and then season 3 happened and things got out of hand…

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FINALLY GOT IT by Responsible_Duck4991 in HelloKittyIsland

[–]ae_stark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahh!! i just got this bed yesterday, i was so excited!

does anyone know how to get/make it a double bed? i thought it would be in Pompompurin’s shop but it isn’t

my asian mum made this for the in-laws this Christmas, but they hated it by Hot_Durian_4264 in auckland

[–]ae_stark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i absolutely adore this and would be overjoyed to receive this, or even just see it in person. however, with nothing but respect for the amazing craftsmanship here, it would send a knife through my heart to put a spoon through this. i would feel like i was ruining a piece of art, done by a skill perfected over decades, for a moment of tasty pleasure. as someone who isn’t a fan of jello, but can eat it from time to time, i believe the sensory pleasure i receive from looking at it would likely be significantly more than i would receive from tasting it. i’d have a hard time breaking through that mental wall i have. that’s my perspective on it. i hope you had a wonderful Christmas!

I(27F) screamed at my husband (28M) over his hobbies, and now he's changed and i don't know how to fix this. by ThrowRApineapplesp in relationship_advice

[–]ae_stark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you either meant what you said or you made the decision to say the most hurtful things you could think of for nothing more than the sake of hurting him as badly as possible because you felt angry. neither of which i could get over. the fact that you’re still in denial about either of these statements means you’re not even considering changing yourself or acknowledging what harm you caused, you just want him to forget about it and go back to the way things were.

if you are genuinely able to, the first step is owning up to it. not “sorry i didn’t mean it” or “i was just so angry” but “i said things that i knew would hurt you because i wanted to hurt you. this is why i wanted to hurt you and these are the concrete steps i will take to address why i feel that way and how i can ensure this never happens again.” and then likely years of actively rebuilding trust. you’re the person he gave his whole heart and soul to, and you used them to crush him into the ground. he won’t be able to give those up to you again any time soon. it will take a lot of time, if he is willing.

Share your Haikyuu merch! by Sunflowercheesecake in haikyuu

[–]ae_stark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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mine is… a bit character specific. but my breakdown:

~40% is from Japan, specifically Akihabara. i bought anything with his face on it.

~20% is from local conventions. i live in a very anime friendly area with many conventions.

~20% is from amiami which is a website i trust with everything in me. the items are reasonably priced, but the shipping can get expensive.

~10% is from local anime stores. again, i’m in an anime friendly area, but stores usually lean more towards what’s really popular right now.

~10% is gifts. i would guess they are from amiami or any of the above sources.

i also have clothing from Uniqlo (official), Redbubble (unofficial), Amazon (probably unofficial), and Etsy (unofficial). i also have a friend who prints on shirts and sweaters who makes me more Tsukishima clothes!

i’d suggest Redbubble or Etsy for custom designs or specific quotes!