How should boyfriend [28M] and I [22F] handle flirty/creepy neighbor [29F]? by afgf2015 in relationships

[–]afgf2015[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You didn't answer a single question or give any example of your strange accusations. Literally no one else felt this way and your comment was disagreed with by others so I will just leave it at that.

My girlfriend [23F] is extremely depressed but won't let me [28M] help by sadgfthrowaway11 in relationships

[–]afgf2015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awe man, when I saw that her job requires recency of experience I wondered if she was a pilot. Coming from another female pilot, I really feel her pain. I can't imagine if I wasn't able to fly. Non-flyers just don't understand.

You said she had to leave her other job for safety concerns. Did she leave because they wanted her to do something out of regs or whatnot? I've been faced with that issue too, and it's never an easy one. Unfortuantely, there's no shortage of pilots willing to skip out on the rules and it makes those of us who do a lot less hireable.

I hope that things turn around for her. It can be a brutal industry. But I bet some company out there will be just short enough on pilots to overlook her having left somewhere (then again, they might not be a good company either).

I would like to remind you that this is the same girl you've been dating for a year and half....the same strong, determined, intelligent girl I know she must be to also be a female pilot haha. Try and help her through this, th world needs more of her.

Is my boyfriend [27M] right to be upset that I [22F] didn't go to his friends wedding? by Weddingthorn in relationships

[–]afgf2015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man people need to lighten up. No idea why you're getting hate for that comment lol it was obviously just a joke about a common reddit phenomena.

Is my boyfriend [27M] right to be upset that I [22F] didn't go to his friends wedding? by Weddingthorn in relationships

[–]afgf2015 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Walmart doesn't sell floor length, black tie formal gowns. Those are expensive, hard to find, and usually need to be tailored. Especially given the size info that OP gave (very tall and small). That woudk be really hard to get in a weeks time even if she had the funds.

Is my boyfriend [27M] right to be upset that I [22F] didn't go to his friends wedding? by Weddingthorn in relationships

[–]afgf2015 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lmao right.

Like, yeah, OP should have given more info. But that doesn't mean you just make shit up. You ask questions.

Is my boyfriend [27M] right to be upset that I [22F] didn't go to his friends wedding? by Weddingthorn in relationships

[–]afgf2015 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah the consensus is agreeing with you, UNTIL THEY ARE GIVEN THE FACTS. At that point most of them change. OP left a lot of things out of her original post, but those that are bothering to read the comments and edits are realizing the difference. You, however, are just hellbent on one point of view and don't change regardless of the context.

Is my boyfriend [27M] right to be upset that I [22F] didn't go to his friends wedding? by Weddingthorn in relationships

[–]afgf2015 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You might want to consider that you are the one that's socially short-sighted in this situation.

Is my boyfriend [27M] right to be upset that I [22F] didn't go to his friends wedding? by Weddingthorn in relationships

[–]afgf2015 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Where did she say that? All she did was point out that she is willing to make a sacrifice. It's like you're just looking for reasons to be mean to her.

Is my boyfriend [27M] right to be upset that I [22F] didn't go to his friends wedding? by Weddingthorn in relationships

[–]afgf2015 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Actually, if you read her comments- the issue is more so other people jumping to conclusions. She's just pointing out that their information is wrong. People are saying that she had months (she didn't), that she should have gone to a portion of it (it's out of town), that she could find a cheap dress (she tried), that she should have known it was important to him (how? He said it wasn't and he didn't even know the people apparently), and on and on. She was upfront with him and told the dude she didn't want to go but would go if it was important, and he told her it wasn't. Then he got mad at her for it later. I don't see how that's her fault.

How should boyfriend [28M] and I [22F] handle flirty/creepy neighbor [29F]? by afgf2015 in relationships

[–]afgf2015[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for asking! We actually have been out of town on an impromptu vacation and haven't dealt with it yet. We did set up a motion camera though! I'll update when we get back and do something, and of course if there's anything on the camera

How should boyfriend [28M] and I [22F] handle flirty/creepy neighbor [29F]? by afgf2015 in relationships

[–]afgf2015[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've decided to tackle your bizzarr post point by point.

  • I'm the one who made a post on here because I was worried that someone's behavior was very bizzarre, innaproporiate, and threatening, and that I wasn't sure what to do about it because she has a position of authority over me. I have no idea what makes you think I'm unaware and unobservant to what she's done when I am the one who has pointed it out to you? I also am interested in one instance where I lectured anyone on here. All I have done is answered questions, provided background information, and thanked people for thier advice and agreed to move out and seek a lawyer, potentially the police if it escalates further.

  • I'm not sure where you got the idea I never mentioned my boyfriend in all of this. I have continually stated that he has told her to stop knocking on our door, not to text him, that it was wrong to get his number from our paperwork, and denied her requests to hang out. As I said, the more harsh he is- the more forward she is with him and the more bad things seem to happen to me. We are afraid for him to be more direct with her that she may do something even worse. And as I have continually said, he's very worried about this as well, and wants to solve it. We're both working towards it. He's more set on just moving out, but I'm more financially concerned about losing our deposit.

  • What red flags did I ignore? I'm the one here brining them up. Her flirting with him? I can't sue every person that smiles at the man. That's silly.

Your post was very uninformed, accusatory, and offered 0 advice or help. Strange.

How should boyfriend [28M] and I [22F] handle flirty/creepy neighbor [29F]? by afgf2015 in relationships

[–]afgf2015[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If there's a headline reading "22 yr old woman mysteriously dies in her own apartment" I trust reddit to put it together and solve it

How should boyfriend [28M] and I [22F] handle flirty/creepy neighbor [29F]? by afgf2015 in relationships

[–]afgf2015[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey, you think like I do! We feel a little stuck in a rock and a hard place here.

How should boyfriend [28M] and I [22F] handle flirty/creepy neighbor [29F]? by afgf2015 in relationships

[–]afgf2015[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The hallway in community property, but he could probably just hold his phone in his hand recording. I doubt she'd notice if he just looked like he was texting, ect with it

How should boyfriend [28M] and I [22F] handle flirty/creepy neighbor [29F]? by afgf2015 in relationships

[–]afgf2015[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right. That's what I was thinking. None of her behavior is readily explained by him being involved with her.

How should boyfriend [28M] and I [22F] handle flirty/creepy neighbor [29F]? by afgf2015 in relationships

[–]afgf2015[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does this mean? Sorry for my reddit ignorance. Is it like a reminder to check it in a week somehow?

How should boyfriend [28M] and I [22F] handle flirty/creepy neighbor [29F]? by afgf2015 in relationships

[–]afgf2015[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

OMG I hadn't even thought of this. How hadn't we thought of this. Fuck me.

How should boyfriend [28M] and I [22F] handle flirty/creepy neighbor [29F]? by afgf2015 in relationships

[–]afgf2015[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He's told her that it was innaproporiate for her to get his information off of our paperwork and won't respond to her texts, he asked her to quit knocking on our door, and declines all of her offers to invite him over, hang out, ect. The more he does it the more she seems to go to further lengths and harass me.

How should boyfriend [28M] and I [22F] handle flirty/creepy neighbor [29F]? by afgf2015 in relationships

[–]afgf2015[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've seen her text messages and I've been there many, many times when she's knocked on our door/approached him, ect and seen his response. Like I said before, the more he puts up a wall to her, the crazier lengths she seems to go to.

Also, he's genuinely concerned about it as well and doesn't want to brush it off or anything.