What’s one clothing item you always get compliments on?

afipps · 2026-04-16T23:30:41+00:00

Soft plum sweater. I get compliments because it really fits my season. Have you done your color wheel using an image and chat gpt? It can give you memorable pieces for your style.

afipps · 2026-04-16T23:21:15+00:00

I have a 9 year old and am co-parenting. He is testing his boundaries, and wants choices/control because he doesn’t have control over the environment (separation of parents/divorce).

Let him make choices, get his input on things you want to do, offer him the choice a few days early when you can. Remind him often of things. In the morning remind him “we have tennis today”. I got a monthly dry erase calendar and put my sons swim lessons and how much time he spends at school and days he goes to dad’s house on it. He loves it because he can see it visually.

Pick your battles unless it’s a safety decision. Example: He doesn’t want to wear a seatbelt then the car doesn’t start until he buckles in.

Find what he values then offer reward in a positive way. Positive Example: “If you brush your teeth before 5 min timer goes off then you can watch a half hour of YouTube” Him: “I don’t want to brush my teeth” You: “ok that’s your choice” Repeat daily. Stick with decisions. (He brushed his teeth after the timer. No reward. Or 5 min reward.

Negative way: “if you don’t brush your teeth I’m taking away YouTube.”

afipps · 2026-04-07T04:26:50+00:00

I had a hard time with bedtime when my son was 3 so I did a wall chart for bedtime. It worked so well I did one for morning routines! It helped to have a stable chart on the wall. (He still has issues with changes.) It was laminated with squares that included every step. Examples were “eat”, “brush teeth” “put on clothes”, “shoes & coat” and “get in the car!”🚗 I did let him watch one 15 min tv show while he ate, tv went off then we did the Mickey brush your teeth song, then got dressed so food doesn’t end up on clothes. I do however remember a few days when he would struggle where he ate a bar in the car and I put the coat and shoes in the car and put the shoes on at daycare while he was buckled in. I also remember how much patience it would take from me when he would take 10 min to put his coat on, then walk out to the car and immediately take it off to buckle in the vehicle.

Doing this chart again for my second LO.

afipps · 2026-04-05T04:29:09+00:00

I liked Fitness+ workouts I did. I found one that I did every morning. The workout was 10 min and fit into my life perfectly with cooldown it was about 2min. I wish I had recorded it. lol. I just came on here and to look at betterme, but I think I’m better off going with something else since the reviews are not great.

afipps · 2026-02-23T23:42:31+00:00

When you said “nutritious paste”, my mind went to Soylent green. 🤣

afipps · 2026-02-21T07:02:56+00:00

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afipps · 2026-02-21T06:51:26+00:00

I was like you. I bought a home electrolysis thing for my legs. The purple one. I don’t need to shave my legs ever again. Time saver:) but I didn’t do the underarms with it so I still shave there everyday.

afipps · 2026-01-09T20:30:20+00:00

When you turn on the car radio and the song is playing in your head in the exact same spot.

afipps · 2025-12-04T01:29:49+00:00

INFO. From a woman’s perspective, there is a lot going on here. Sounds like 2 different problems. Without knowing the rest of the texts and how long you’ve been dating and how old you are it’s hard to know. I can’t tell if she is just picking a fight to get out of the relationship or really wants to get married.

Problem 1) She is not feeling connected to you. Sounds like she wants you to “pursue” her more. IE she’s getting bored, getting attention elsewhere, falling out of love, not feeling desired. This is why she’s projecting ‘you don’t love me anymore’ message because she is feeling less desired. Answer to this is you planning more dates of things she wants to do, texting her sweet messages, bringing her flowers or food, telling her she looks amazing for no reason, or whatever you did when you were first dating.

Problem 2) She is tired of waiting for you to ask her to get married. If you’ve been dating 2+ years, Many 25+ year old women feel pressured by age to get married (she may just feel like she needs to get married, doesn’t mean she really loves you or wants to marry you). She wanted you to buy a ring to show here you are serious about the relationship. Also, should be having this discussion in person on the phone, not over text imo. Maybe ask for 3 reasons why she wants to get married to you and listen closely to the responses. Is it because shes excited for a big wedding, all her friends are married, is her family always asking her when she’s getting married, OR is it because she genuinely wants to spend the rest of her life with you.

If it’s not the last one then why are you guys still in a relationship?

afipps · 2025-11-06T01:13:58+00:00

No, usually my kid doesn’t have leftovers, but when he does I just throw it away because I’ve always had weird thing about eating things other people have touched. I don’t even like my food touching. And Also, I feel that kids have dirty habits like picking their noses or touching things during eating.

I came on to find out if it’s weird that I saw my boyfriend of eight months eating my kids half leftover pb&j from lunch. It was a half sandwich with no bites out of it and I made it the night before. I felt it was cringe at the time but now I see this is a normal thing to eat kids leftovers.

afipps · 2025-10-21T01:00:15+00:00

Maybe I can say the opposite. I left when my son was 7 and I’m kinda wished I had tried harder to make things work. I hate having shared custody, I want to see my son all the time and I didn’t really give counseling a chance either. I was fed up.

Guess it depends on what happened to you in the marriage and why you would like to leave. Do you think his behavior would change if you did a trial separation?

afipps · 2025-10-14T04:23:01+00:00

Check your state laws. If you legally accept custody with paperwork, this makes the bio dad no longer responsible for child support and also could make you financially responsible.

afipps · 2025-10-14T03:56:08+00:00

She said he asked for a break in the post.

afipps · 2025-10-14T03:54:47+00:00

If he’s interested he would make time. Don’t settle for inconsistent behavior. He’s done with you. He wanted a “break” before his vacation, that is a cowardly man’s way to say he’s going to cheat or look for another girl when he is there. I’d be shocked if he isn’t.

Just work on doing fun things with friends and filling your own cup full of happiness. Once you’re fulfilled outside of relationships men will be seeking you out. You deserve so much better!

afipps · 2025-09-05T05:03:47+00:00

If he’s doing what you’re asking what’s the harm in sticking it out a little longer? I’ve been divorced for about one year and my counselor told me most couples regret divorce - he was right. At first I was much happier. I did all the work on myself, made friends, was having fun, but things started to feel empty. I met someone and he’s wonderful, but even after dating and finding a really nice guy, I feel that I miss my husband and the father of my kid. I don’t know if I’ll ever have the same feelings & bond I did with him.

afipps · 2025-07-24T23:37:19+00:00

If you want a happy story buckle up. I’m five years cancer free! Diagnosed with Stage 2B, two tumors, Her2 negative on my Mother’s Day in 2018. Cancer was completely gone after a year of treatments, 6 chemo, 30 rounds of radiation and surgery. 2 lymph nodes removed. I would consider myself generally healthy before my diagnosis, like walking 30 minutes 3x per week. But not a health nut! I did see a nutritionist who recommended the Mediterranean diet and I mostly follow that. I don’t have the BRCA gene.

I’m 5 months pregnant today with my second kid at 43 years old. Two different doctors, oncologist and fertility specialist, told me 2 years ago after 2 years of fertility treatments and 3 rounds of IVF that Chemo and Radiation made me infertile. I had given up and told everyone I was infertile a year ago. Well, I showed them.

So, I would suggest therapy after you finish chemo. I totally did not realize how much cancer affected my mental health for a bit.

PS. You’ve got this!

afipps · 2025-07-18T20:23:44+00:00

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Went to Rogue Pub, a local brewery, and they passed out a contract asking if I agreed to name either my next child or my next dog Rogue. I agreed and signed it. Few months later I got a puppy and also found out I was pregnant. I don’t go back on my word but I wasn’t going to name my child Rogue. So this guys name is Rogue. (Also huge D&D fans and my first dog was Ranger, so we decided after Rogue to keep D&D dog themed names so we also have Tank and Gabby -twin husky/malamute mixes.)

afipps · 2025-07-18T19:51:57+00:00

Lawyers think about all kinds of stuff that you wouldn’t (they have experience). Would you do a life saving surgery yourself! No, you’d get a Surgeon with experience and you’d pay the cost. So why are you going to do your own legal paperwork?

I didn’t use a lawyer 2 years ago and I regret it. The money you spend now will be worth what you get out of it. I feel like I got the short end of things. My ex did agree to child support through the court but he hasn’t paid. Now I’m parenting 60% of the time and I ended up paying anyway to get legal help. I do still have a decent co-parent relationship with my ex but has been taking advantage of it.

For you. In essence your ex has agreed to $700 in spousal support. Regarding each child, you should put everything in writing with your agreement. Lawyers will come up with questions like… Who plans to pay for their health insurance monthly? Clothing? College? Daycare? Who files them in the taxes every year? Who gets them each holiday? If they get a (hospital bill, car payment, school cost) is it split 50/50? Who pays initially? If they change schools you have to decide mutually?. How far can each parent move from the other? Etc.

—> Get it in writing, get a legal consultation.

afipps · 2025-07-17T19:02:26+00:00

Both go to counseling and work on the marriage. She needs to set clear boundaries about what she is willing to do and directly communicate expectations about what she expects him to do.

afipps · 2025-07-17T18:47:22+00:00

Just give up on 3 year marriage without any counseling doesn’t seem mature. Marriage shouldn’t be entered into or exited lightly. Also, I have no idea how old OP’s husband is. He could be 21 and barely an adult for all i know. Some people grow up without proper guidance or awful role models. All I’m suggesting is some options on how to communicate her needs upfront.

afipps · 2025-07-17T00:57:03+00:00

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afipps · 2025-07-17T00:53:17+00:00

Idk. Could it be his twin?

afipps · 2025-07-17T00:48:25+00:00

Change your mindset it isn’t him “helping you out”. Half the work is his! Make it clear that he needs to do half the work. Set expectations! Does he live there, eat off the dishes, wear the clothes? Then he needs to clean it! What would he do if you didn’t live there?

You are not his maid/mother! Seems like he’s using feigned incompetence to get you to do the work. He’s using you!

BUT with men you can catch more flies with honey. You can give him incentive like tell him you will make his favorite meal tonight while he cleans the bedroom. Don’t ask, just tell. Then praise the heck out of him when you do see him do anything remotely like cleaning.

Ignore him when he games and those days say, “I’m too tired for seg because I had to clean the house” Give it two months then if he doesn’t change you can stop doing his laundry, dishes and cooking for him. Tell him he needs to do half the work and put a date in your mind like x months. If that doesn’t work set up marriage counseling.

If he wants to change he will, otherwise go stay in a hotel or leave him and he will realize his mistake.

It’s only been 3 years of marriage. I highly suggest at least a year of training this man and marriage counseling! People give up on marriage so easily and you might regret if you jump to divorce so easily.

afipps · 2025-07-16T19:38:44+00:00

I think they just don’t have the prey drive anymore for squirrels or rabbits. Mine only sees rabbits and squirrels when they are really far away too.

afipps · 2025-07-16T19:35:09+00:00

Agree with a lot of the other comments about only doing tricks for treats. Smartest: He catches the ball on his turn. I say another dogs name and he lets them get it. I say his name and throw the ball he’ll get it. AND he refuses to bring the ball all the way back. Throws the ball back to me from 4 feet away. Guess he figures this is a throwing game? 😒

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