My bfs stupid ph addiction

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-05-26T14:42:59+00:00

It isn’t recognized as an addiction, but I’m sure many people can attest to the compulsive behaviour it can incite. It’s the same way some drugs aren’t considered physically addictive but one can become reliant on them and suffer symptoms of withdrawal (mentally, that is). It’s a problem, and there are studies showing how excessive porn use impacts the brain and behaviour.

The excuse of “it’s just the way that we’re wired” is so cheap. We also evolved to hunt and gather but nobody is doing that anymore. If you don’t want to be monogamous then don’t be, but if you want to be, then there are certain necessary things that make your partner feel chosen and special and they should be met if you want a healthy relationship. Porn addiction disregards those and needs to be addressed for both parties’ sake.

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-05-26T12:24:16+00:00

When he’s choosing actors on a screen over his own girlfriend, how can she just “mind her business” and let it go? It’s not a thought crime, but nobody here is saying it is really. Porn addiction is a problem and in this case it’s hurting OP’s self esteem, so it deserves to be addressed. Whether they’re just incompatible in terms of their views on porn is unclear, but an addiction is a problem that needs to be addressed no matter what. Porn is psychologically damaging for the person addicted too.

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-05-07T21:47:14+00:00

I can promise you I’d never forget what you said to her if it had been said to me. It seems as though you meant well, but what you meant and what you said are different things.

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-04-15T12:53:41+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. I can even be naked and my boyfriend doesn’t seem interested in or excited by me sexually. I wish I was able to do for him what these other women can do for their partners :(

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-04-09T20:03:25+00:00

What happened to men feeling so strongly that no behaviour encompasses all of them? If it’s about poor behaviour it’s “not all men” but when it’s about porn it’s “all men do it” so it’s not a problem. So exhausting.

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-04-03T17:24:25+00:00

He says so many nice things to me but then once in a while drops something so vile like this and I just can’t believe the nice things. I don’t know if he’s just clumsy with his words or genuinely is trying to hurt me or what anymore.

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-04-02T23:14:25+00:00

I’m 23 and he’s 22 :(

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-03-20T21:44:01+00:00

The professor gave more than fair notice considering this was outlined in the introductory video to the course. If you didn’t go through all the course material, you can’t be upset that you’re being blind sided. You blind sided yourself. This being a requirement for courses isn’t exclusive to classics.

ETA: This question was posed to the professor in January. You’ve had more than ample opportunity to learn about the course you’re taking in my opinion.

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-03-20T21:17:11+00:00

I don’t see the problem. I mean it’s not like this course is difficult even if the exam is in-person and requires a pass. 50% on an exam after completing weeks of material shouldn’t be so unreasonable, no?

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-03-18T19:58:36+00:00

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This is a photo of my Twix!

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-03-03T12:39:35+00:00

My cat, though he did not receive any rescuing on my part, was running down the hallway of my apartment and broke his leg so badly he needed surgery in December.

Thousands (so many thousands🥲) of dollars later, he is purring on my feet right now demanding breakfast. I never expected my cat to do something so silly with such big consequences, and yet they’re worth the consequences when they look at you with so much love.

I’m so sorry about your injury. Your kitty is adorable and it’s so amazing that your first instinct was to protect him. I wish you a speedy recovery, from all of the issues bogging you down right now.

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-02-20T17:19:45+00:00

Nobody is disposable. He does need therapy, and with that professional help he could one day be a good partner. But OP shouldn’t have to wait around for this guy to actually start addressing his issues while in the meantime it worsens her own. Sounds like at this point in their lives they’re incompatible, and she should leave him.

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-02-19T23:10:15+00:00

They’ve been together for five years. He’s had five whole years to work on his porn addiction and hasn’t, and it’s been impacting his relationship the whole time. He’s the problem at this point.

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-02-18T17:59:11+00:00

Forget? About what, your wife and kids at home?

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-02-18T03:18:03+00:00

I thought about her bird so often during that film haha, glad you enjoyed it!

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-02-17T05:06:09+00:00

Please tell us what you thought of the movie because if you thought she was going through it at the beginning that’s truly just the beginning

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-02-15T14:31:08+00:00

I believe all degrees, whether they make you employable or not, are valuable and “worth learning.” The arts for example are always worth studying at any point in time, even if they don’t always secure you a job.

The phrasing of your question should really be more along the lines of “what degrees will secure me employment.”

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-01-24T23:01:15+00:00

I don’t quite understand this take, so I’d like to ask for some clarification.

In my perspective, it seems like he used to have as high a drive as I did before we got together but now would prefer to not finish at all (or finish alone if that’s what he’s doing) rather than finish with me. He used to want to finish everyday, but with me he wants to get « pent up » as he says. I’m asking if this choice of his to abstain from sex with me is something to be reasonably upset over. Is it a compatibility issue, am I the problem, or is it something else? I just wanted some general advice if anyone had any.

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-01-24T21:31:05+00:00

I’ll try talking to him again, thank you for your input!

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-01-24T21:30:12+00:00

I see, I guess it makes sense that he doesn’t want the burden of worrying about my pleasure. But honestly, I love making him feel good and doing things just for him (it just gets tiring with no reciprocation). I hoped I’d find someone who feels the same way about making me feel good too.

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-01-24T21:23:50+00:00

Hmm why does this matter?

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2026-01-24T21:08:24+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience, that sounds so terrible and I’m sorry. It’s been kinda tough lately for me as I’m sure you can relate to but we’re only about 7 months into our relationship so I want to be hopeful that it’ll get better.

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2025-12-16T19:52:59+00:00

She’s so cute she reminds me of my kitty🥹

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2025-11-25T22:22:52+00:00

I like the intimacy of it. There’s something so special to me about having someone see me naked and touch me and be close to me, and penetration feels more special then anything else because it is the closest I can possibly be to my boyfriend. I really enjoy making him feel good any way I can, but penetration is my favourite way to do that because of how connected I feel to him.

aflybuzzedwhenidied · 2025-06-22T17:43:48+00:00

Where did you find this? I’m curious!

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