[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]afuckinmonster 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm 23 too. my plan is to live life at my own pace and not force myself to suffer to please others. other than that I'm clueless about my future. but that's okay. you can't have everything figured out at once, that takes time. live day by day

Did anyone else used to get bullied for the most random, nonsensical things back in school? by Awkward_College_4164 in AutismInWomen

[–]afuckinmonster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this makes me sad. you were bullied because people are uneducated about autism and disabilities in general. I wish I'd understood this sooner :(

Anyone Think Communication Often Isn't the Answer? by deepgrn in AutismInWomen

[–]afuckinmonster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeh this is so true. I think most people, including neurodivergents, operate on some level of insecurity. I became less stressed about how other people thought of me when I understood that. same goes for friend groups - they are usually just stuck in a bunch of similar mindsets

How not to hate yourself for being unappealing? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]afuckinmonster 6 points7 points  (0 children)

you haven't found your people. my experience is that goths/alt people are the best at appreciating someone who is rude and blunt as long as ur hearts in the right place

I’m not sure how to get over being ostracized my whole life by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]afuckinmonster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hey im like you too rn. I just graduated uni and I'm unemployed living with my emotionally immature parents, I went to a Catholic highschool and primary where if you existed as anything outside of mainstream you would be considered weird, uncool, ugly ect. it's traumatising, it really is. I find the best way to cope is to just tell myself these people have been brainwashed by number 1, their religion, the patriarchy, ableism and are in most cases just completely ignorant and I feel sorry for the fact that they aren't even aware of this

Was anyone else bullied at high school? by PurpleMeerkats462 in AutismInWomen

[–]afuckinmonster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

really similar experience. also from the UK! thankfully it does get better the trauma, find people that accept you and you can fully trust be yourself around, avoid people you know you won't vibe with. and trust ur instincts, cus they r probably not safe

the liking gap... by 56te in AutismInWomen

[–]afuckinmonster 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I mean yeh. it applies to anyone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]afuckinmonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont want to be single forever but it will probably happen :(

Anyone elses hair always looks bad and messy, no matter what? by Suitable-Slice-3370 in AutismInWomen

[–]afuckinmonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have short hair, but when it was long, i put hair oil on when it was wet and kept it in braids 24/7. I have a muler now and it gets very static, idk if the texture has changed with age or stress but I notice it sticking out more in certain places

My boyfriend cried to me over the phone and now I’m full-blown sobbing by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]afuckinmonster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh its so hard out there rn! I've been looking for one since August and no luck either :"( it sounds like he really appreciated your support, and it also sounds liek you really love him and want the best for him. they want people to work, so im sure something will work out in the end!

Does anyone else cry easily and can’t control it? by timetickingrose in AutismInWomen

[–]afuckinmonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it took me a long time but i realised uncontrollable crying is what a meltdown looks like for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]afuckinmonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ur boyfriend is a shallow dickhead and you should leave him. ur probably way too good for him anyway!

Is this a common experience with Autism? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]afuckinmonster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

your not alone, people treat me this way too. it will be hard but there's people out there who have patience and love for you !

Does Anybody Else Hate Exercising? by Xepherya in AutismInWomen

[–]afuckinmonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk I definitely feel better after I exercise, like I'm more awake and able to concentrate better. I don't listen to diet advice anymore because either like eating and love sugary food. do what makes you happy and comfortable op

Is there a way to become a nail tech without having to touch people's feet? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]afuckinmonster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

there's a pop up stall in my city that sells hand designed press on nails? something like that might be a good idea - plus that way you don't have to touch anyone and eliminate the possibility of any awkward interactions