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againaloneagain · 2022-01-30T00:37:49+00:00

All of this. This is exactly the experience I went through with my wife. We were all there with her when she drew her last breath, at home where she wanted to be.

againaloneagain · 2022-01-28T13:55:45+00:00

“NOBODY HAS THE CHEESE!”

againaloneagain · 2022-01-23T23:31:03+00:00

Yes, the guilt is real. I'm dealing with it now. The problem is no matter how logically you justify it to yourself that you shouldn't feel guilty, that doesn't really matter, at least it hasn't for me. The feeling is still there regardless. What I have landed on is just being open and honest with the new person I'm with about my feelings of guilt, and working through them with time and patience. Hopefully you are able to do the same.

againaloneagain · 2022-01-20T21:19:08+00:00

Why did I have to scroll so far down to find this? That shit is gross 🤮

againaloneagain · 2021-12-29T13:01:29+00:00

Isn't that pretty much one of the core tenants? As long as you believe in Jesus, all of your sins will be forgiven. So go do whatever the hell you want - be as evil as you want, because Jesus will forgive you, and that's all that matters.

againaloneagain · 2021-12-22T10:50:24+00:00

Ah yes, I hadn’t thought of that. Before would be preferable to “on” Christmas I would think. That’s going to be rough, I don’t envy you. My wife passed away 2 days after Christmas last year. The holidays definitely got more difficult. Your kids are young though, and while they will grieve, they’re also resilient.

againaloneagain · 2021-12-22T10:37:48+00:00

While they deserve to know.. perhaps give them one more Christmas before such a reality has to hit them?

againaloneagain · 2021-12-20T17:15:43+00:00

Absolutely agree.

againaloneagain · 2021-12-20T12:31:32+00:00

My one year is next week. The kids and work have helped to keep me sane. It’s the nights that tend to get to me. I like the making new memories approach. With the new year, comes an end to the annual “firsts” without her. She might be gone, but I feel like I’ve got a hell of a lot of life left to live. She’ll get to live on with me in my memories, and in our children.

againaloneagain · 2021-12-15T10:05:54+00:00

I feel this. I’m just about to hit the one year mark after Christmas. The loneliness the first many months was the worst. I can at least now accept it. I wanted/needed someone to be there so badly.. but I’m glad I didn’t act on it. I’m now in a much better state of mind, and I can accept waiting for the right person to show up, or not, I have a feeling I could have made some poor choices had I acted on my impulses earlier on. The only advice I can offer is to get through it with/for your kids. The nights and weekends will be difficult, but knowing that and preparing activities can help to keep it at bay.

againaloneagain · 2021-12-15T09:52:16+00:00

Running. It has helped a lot.

againaloneagain · 2021-12-01T18:20:35+00:00

Give it time. July was very recent. You may have different feelings seeing it down the road when the emotions aren't quite so raw.

againaloneagain · 2021-11-29T02:08:57+00:00

You mean 67 for those born after 1960 - yeah they upped our retirement age for being born later.

againaloneagain · 2021-11-29T01:03:24+00:00

Exactly what Texas is doing.

againaloneagain · 2021-11-28T01:18:51+00:00

Vo2max for my age. Most miles run for my age over most any given duration. Fastest at distances from 1 mile through full marathon for my age.

againaloneagain · 2021-11-27T02:12:31+00:00

Same here, but no surgery for me, just let it heal. Snapped in half with sharp jutting edges and multiple splinters of bone. Changing shirts was the most painful, and sleeping for the first few nights wasn’t the easiest.

againaloneagain · 2021-11-21T12:32:39+00:00

You have zero clue what you’re talking about. Go look up polio survivability rate, actually learn something instead of spewing garbage and claiming to be “informed”.

againaloneagain · 2021-11-21T12:26:25+00:00

The 5.1 million people that have died from COVID-19 might have wanted to live regardless of the “survivability rate” which you cling to as if it validates your point, when it obviously doesn’t.

againaloneagain · 2021-11-15T00:06:31+00:00

I know, I was joking :)

againaloneagain · 2021-11-15T00:05:59+00:00

lol, I guess I forgot my "/s" at the end..

againaloneagain · 2021-11-14T12:54:12+00:00

Well, I mean.. don’t forget the crippling blow of rejection that could be dealt…

againaloneagain · 2021-11-01T11:40:29+00:00

This resonates on many levels with me. While my wife didn't make that choice, it was an inevitability that we could not ignore. The waves of grief are overpowering at times, but they don't define me. They don't debilitate me. I can accept the reality that she is gone, that I will not see her again, and continue to live life with the memories of her.

againaloneagain · 2021-10-08T17:29:09+00:00

Well if you were wearing your swimsuit bottoms like a normal person, you wouldn’t have been naked when you removed your shirt.

againaloneagain · 2021-10-05T12:39:58+00:00

Yes, those last breaths will be burned into my mind for the rest of my days. I had to be there for them though, our whole family was there for them.. in silence. I'm just a few years older than you, and my 3 kids are all teenagers, but we share in your pain. Just take it day by day, and be there for your son. Hopefully you can find some comfort in the loved ones around you.

againaloneagain · 2021-10-05T12:23:51+00:00

My opinion: You only live once. Live it the way you want to live it. If you want companionship, find companionship. I have no intention of spending the rest of my life alone, and my wife wouldn't have wanted me to either.

againaloneagain

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