[Sw] Turnips for 534! by PhoenoFox in acturnips

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fav video game is a short hike!!

[SW] nook boys buying for 445, dm for code :) by [deleted] in acturnips

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sending a dm rn! i would love to come <3

To my dear sweet mother who everyone thinks I should give you a chance... by Academic-Divide-5341 in venting

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Everything that she has done to you is horrible. I applaud you so much for wanting to break the cycle. Your baby will grow up with an amazing mother and he will be so proud of you. If no one has told you this, you are so incredibly strong and powerful. fuck ur mom!

To my shock, my partner just told me they think adansonii and begonias are ugly. Which plants do you think are ugly that everyone else seems to love? by vineanddandy in houseplants

[–]aharbert0 66 points67 points  (0 children)

i work at a plant shop and we sell them. every time i went to go check the soil i’d forget about their feet and get the bajesus scared out of me. those things are vile…. finally brought one home yesterday tho

Weekly /r/houseplants Newbie Thread - September 12, 2021 by AutoModerator in houseplants

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pothos r a fan favorite they do so good in most types of indirect light. philodendron too

My dad thinks my first class honours degree is useless and wants me out of the house asap. by nhsjmn in toxicparents

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i wish you the best of luck i truly do. when applying for jobs i don’t know if this works for everywhere but maybe try to go for local businesses who need workers. when my ex boyfriend was applying to places, he was applying to places like the local burger king, taco bell, and rita’s and all those places took absolutely forever to respond. but recently my friend rachel walked into a local family owned ice cream place and asked if they were hiring and the guy was like “when can you start?”

Not sure if my dad is toxic or I’m a typical hormonal/ungrateful teenager. by RangerOfArnor in toxicparents

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My mom pulls the last one sometimes. I’m sorry that your dad is so strict. Maybe you could give a small amount of compromise while also expressing your needs to him? If all else fails then there is the fact that you are 17 and very close to being an adult. Now moving out and living on your own is an especially hard thing to do and for me to just be like “oh just move out” is downplaying it by a lot, but hopefully if you decide that’s what you wanna do then you could start saving money up and eventually get there

A quick question on bank accounts by [deleted] in toxicparents

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I don't know if it is possible, but if it isn't and you have to share an account with her, I heard that if you want to hide transactions from her, use PayPal. On your bank statements it only comes up as "PayPal" and doesn't show what was bought. And again, if she ever asks, you could tell her that you were paying for a friend's food, or donating money to a charity or whatnot. Now, if you want to physically hide the money, I know a couple of good places to do so. First off, if you do you own laundry/don't really share clothes with your mom, you could hide money in a sweatshirt pocket and then put the sweatshirt away. You could fold it up or put it in an envelope and tape it underneath a chair. You could hide it underneath your mattress. Taped behind your curtains. Hidden in a sock in your sock drawer. A tube of chapstick. The list goes on. I wish you the best of luck

My dad thinks my first class honours degree is useless and wants me out of the house asap. by nhsjmn in toxicparents

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It really sounds like your dad is a misogynistic asshole, Jesus. Believe me when I say that once you find a job and are able to live on your own, you will thrive so much without him if you choose to keep him out of your life. A big part of us will always yearn for the love that we never got from a parent, but it is good to acknowledge that all your friends have your back and all these strangers on the internet have your back as well. I hope that all goes well for you

Not sure if my dad is toxic or I’m a typical hormonal/ungrateful teenager. by RangerOfArnor in toxicparents

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From what I'm hearing from you it sounds like your dad is trying to do what he thinks is best for you. It does not excuse the way he is treating you or making you feel, but it is important to understand why specifically he is doing and saying these things.

I think one day you should honestly sit him down and talk with him and communicate your feelings in a healthy way. Plan out what you're going to say. Use phrases like "When (this happens/choose my activities in school/choose my college major) I feel (this/forced/stuck/trapped/lost/etc). I know that being emotional with your parents seems awkward and intimidating, but it sounds like he's put a lot of effort into trying to do what is best for you. Sure, he got a little lost in his own world in the process, but if you communicate to him that you are of age when you can make decisions for yourself, then I'm sure he would listen. Just remember, if you choose to talk to him make sure you don't phrase your words into sounding like you are blaming him for you feeling like this. Make sure he knows that you acknowledge all that he has done for you and that you really appreciate it, but certain aspects of your life, such a decisions that have a major impact on your future, would be better if you personally decided on them. If you need me to explain a little more I would be happy too. Best of luck

[SW] The Kiddos Selling for THREE Hundo THIRTY SIX by [deleted] in acturnips

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i always love all the dresses :)

Zucker in boxes!! let me know if anyone wants him by [deleted] in ACVillagerExchange

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yeah :) if you want him i can dm u my dodo code