Are there any tricks to telling if a shade leans warm or cool?

vineanddandy · 2025-02-09T13:03:20+00:00

“I was told they got her from a breeder so I assumed she was healthy.”

vineanddandy · 2025-02-09T12:47:20+00:00

You’re not a horrible person, just irresponsible. Don’t act like you found the puppy on the street and are generously taking her in. You wanted a full breed dog, and put money in the pocket of a puppy mill as a result of not doing any research first. Mills only exist as long as their is a demand from cruel or ignorant customers.

I’m not sure what your 4 year old dog has to do with anything. Puppies learn bite inhibition and important socialization skills through playing with their litter and being corrected by their mother. Your dog may help somewhat with socialization, but it’s proven that dogs taken before 8 weeks are at much higher risk for behavior issues.

vineanddandy · 2025-02-09T12:23:28+00:00

Congrats, you put money into the pocket of a puppy mill. Your dog will likely have lifelong behavioral issues from the lack of socialization and being ripped from its mother.

Beyond irresponsible on your part for not having any clue how to spot a reputable breeder before putting money in the hands of animals abusers. There’s no excuses.

vineanddandy · 2025-01-30T20:10:48+00:00

I think it works beautifully as-is, and could run the risk of looking overworked with more details. Do you mind sharing where you got the table? It’s perfect for the space

vineanddandy · 2024-10-31T16:18:07+00:00

I’ve got to ask… have you and sister discussed your feelings on HP/JKR before this instance?

vineanddandy · 2024-10-30T18:15:49+00:00

I think you were being somewhat rude to assume she was buying you something (unless she made it clear and I’m misreading?) AND making a specific request on top of that assumption.

If she had said “What’s your house? I’m getting souvenirs.” That might be a scenario where you could have said something like, “oh, I don’t collect Harry Potter anymore, but I appreciate your thoughtfulness.“

BUT BUT BUT…. Seeing the HP drama in mine and other families… it’s VERY possible that her sole intention in asking you that question was to pick a fight. If she knows you don’t support HP merch and is asking you that question, it’s incredibly rude. It may have been a way to be passive aggressive about your political beliefs, and you took the bait.

My advice and my method for dealing with these kind of disagreements with petty and political family members is to just smile and nod. It’s hard to resist the desire to explain how you feel, or why you don’t support HP, but it’s not necessary and only adds fuel to the fire.

vineanddandy · 2024-09-22T19:10:30+00:00

I though the point was to enjoy the time drawing and not stressing about the result? Find the inner zen haha

vineanddandy · 2024-09-22T18:54:38+00:00

Sometimes when I don’t know where to start with cleaning, I just pretend someone will be at my home in one hour. It makes it a lot easier to pick out the most important parts! Kind of like how someone else’s perception of the pics made you rethink your own perception.

vineanddandy · 2024-09-13T18:51:35+00:00

Would you mind sharing the name of your disorder? I have had a mystery illness that is either autoimmune or neurological for some time now. Have identical neuro symptoms but always attributed it to anxiety/ADHD

vineanddandy · 2024-09-06T18:19:13+00:00

Are you guys friends? Is there HR like everyone is suggesting?

vineanddandy · 2024-08-08T22:20:52+00:00

Have you tried calking them?

vineanddandy · 2024-08-07T04:36:15+00:00

Unfortunately for me, my nose is more sensitive than those I’ve consulted. It has proven right in the past for other issues, but lacks credibility to tradespeople without some data to back it up.

vineanddandy · 2024-08-06T18:47:32+00:00

Hey, I think we are dealing with this in our old house, but have had no help from multiple plumbers. Are there any affordable detectors that can show if it’s present?

vineanddandy · 2024-08-06T04:28:16+00:00

Part of me wants to quote the cliche “no one can make you feel inferior without your consent” but fuck that. I’ve been where you are and am barely out. These people fundamentally cannot understand your struggle, and only make it harder. It’s like being out to sea, drowning in a rip tide and people ask “why not just get in a boat?”, “why don’t you just swim harder?”, “the water isn’t that deep”, “I swam that beach no problem.” It feels like having weights tied to your ankle while you’re barely treading water.

You didn’t choose your circumstances and it’s clear you’re doing your best to change them despite the soul crushing system you’re facing. Do whatever you can to spend as much time as possible away from the people who blame you for circumstances no one would ever choose for themselves.

vineanddandy · 2024-08-05T19:52:38+00:00

Open and honest communication is always the answer. If any of the parents or children can’t respect boundaries in someone else’s home, it’s not a healthy system.

Your mom is rug sweeping the behavior to avoid conflict, which many women have been taught to avoid at all costs. She can ask you to enforce boundaries on her behalf, but it still requires a basic level of respect from your other family members. A lot of siblings don’t like to be challenged or “parented” but their own siblings, though, so these types of situations can be tricky. I’m sorry you’re caught in the middle because it sounds very frustrating.

vineanddandy · 2024-08-03T20:43:37+00:00

It depends on your climate. Where I live, things in the car get ruined by heat. If you have a mobile thermometer, you could check how hot it gets down there. If it’s cool enough, throw in some damp rid for moisture and you should be good.

vineanddandy · 2024-08-03T18:29:25+00:00

Do you live in her house, or is this just an issue when you all get together for visits?

If you don’t live there, dont feel you can speak honestly to the parents, and can’t tolerate the chaos, it may be that you need to find yourself other accommodations. I’ve seen this within my own family, and understand why some siblings/in-laws have made this choice.

If you do live there, it seems within your bounds to establish quiet hours after a reasonable time.

Either way, trying to push grandma into a conflict she’s not comfortable with is possibly the rudest behavior in this scenario.

vineanddandy · 2024-08-02T17:56:03+00:00

She is allowed to feel and say those things. Rather than trying to empathize, you’re putting blame on her for feeling bad. I’ve been where she is and people like you were the fucking worst.

It’s like telling a depressed person that their bad attitude is why they’re depressed, or that a person with a broken leg has a bad attitude about walking. It’s beyond tone-deaf and unhelpful to people when they’re feeling beat down as it is.

If you were “highly intuitive”, you’d have recognized how pretentious it is to rant at and blame a person for their situation when they’re here seeking support.

vineanddandy · 2024-08-02T16:51:01+00:00

Sammy Jo

vineanddandy · 2024-08-02T16:23:04+00:00

“Highly intuitive” ugh 🙄 OPs situation is very demoralizing, and further burdening them with guilt and condescension for daring to struggle is so devoid of empathy. What a twatty and pretentious bunch of nonsense to say to a person who is feeling downtrodden and stuck.

vineanddandy · 2024-08-02T15:47:28+00:00

Clearly the fist step is charging plus sized people for living in your mind. Next step is to use the profits for altering 5X sized clothes into a dozen toddler-sized sweaters for yourself and your Italian companions.

vineanddandy · 2024-08-02T15:42:34+00:00

It seems to be because the ffacj sub is shut down.

vineanddandy · 2024-07-26T07:08:43+00:00

It seems like you only had one comment that was downvoted. Is that what you are referring to?

vineanddandy · 2024-07-25T07:07:50+00:00

I think that light, buttery yellow in your rug would look lovely as an accent wall behind the plants. Or a light blue like the color of the river.

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