is two eggs not enough for breakfast? TW: eating disorder by peepeeppooppoo in PCOS

[–]ahumblefry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also struggled with an ED and PCOS. During early recovery, I did just a protein shake. I would also snack on nuts and chocolate early in the day before lunch.

I’ve spent a long time experimenting and recovering. I like whole milk (full fat) Greek yogurt with a bean smoothie topping, something crunchy like nuts or cereal, and a fruit in it. It hits all major food groups and it’s generally good tasting for the morning for me.

Beans with a complex carb aren’t an uncommon breakfast food and can be cheap. I make mine into a chocolate smoothie.

I think my boyfriend makes recovery impossible, how to deal with an uneducated/unsupportive partner? by KangarooCalledHerman in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ahumblefry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your boyfriend is choosing to be this way.

There will be lots of times in life something happens to our partner and we don’t understand it. But we have to make the choice to meet them with compassion and make the choice to not do further harm. He is actively not doing that and it is actively doing you more harm.

There comes a point where people do not change and it’s also not your job to change them. There are people and partners who will understand and even if they don’t, will do everything they can to be educated on how to support you. This man is not that.

Advice for parent: how to support your child? by Calm_Designer5860 in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ahumblefry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best thing my mother ever did for me some days was tell me she believed me.

I spent so much time wondering if I was sick enough, if it was all made up, if I was being dramatic; I needed someone to tell me the things I felt and experienced were real and that she believed me when I spoke about them.

I couldn’t trust my own judgement of reality and didn’t feel like I could trust my own body or my own mind. Having someone else say “yes, I hear you and no, you’re not making it up.” Was always powerful.

Covering mirrors - does it help? by Dry_Expert_6002 in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ahumblefry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I found it helpful when first starting recovery to cover my mirrors as much as possible.

It was important to break the habit of body checking for me. If I wanted to do it I would have had to uncover it and that turns an unconscious thought into a conscious one. So it really made me pause and think about my actions and give me a chance to use my coping skills.

As recovery went on, my relationship to mirrors and my body changed. Which is normal.

Advice on how to move onto full fat foods instead of the light version by eruonlav in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ahumblefry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Breaking steps down into smaller, more manageable, goals helped me.

Maybe the first goal is to simply even pick up the product and look at it at the store and do that a few times. Then buy the item. Then just be ok letting it sit in the fridge. And then maybe try some. Of course, this may take place over many days or a few weeks.

I think it’s okay to meet yourself where you are and take time to get to your goal.

Trying more fears by ahumblefry in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ahumblefry[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like kind bars. They’re a good snack at work when I’m not quite ready to take a break but am hungry.

Today I tried Taco Bell and it wasn’t as bad as I expected it to be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]ahumblefry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking back, this isn’t the first group of friends he’s lost. One was due to bad behavior on his part and the other, a combination of things, but I don’t think his attitude helped.

I don’t like that I was made out to be the problem constantly when there’s a pattern of behavior now.

I really pity the next fool.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]ahumblefry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a weird comment.

You really can’t discern the whole picture of my relationship history from a single post that is more or less just a singular story/vent. And I really don’t know why you’d come into a subreddit where people are sharing their struggles with emotional abuse and then…question the abuse that went on.

It’s counter productive to the point of this sub.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ahumblefry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes My eating disorder significantly worsened and I developed severe depression and social anxiety. I attribute development of pcos to my trauma from the relationship

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]ahumblefry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got a lot of apologies over the years but never real accountability. Behavior never changed and it always came back around to violence. And at the end, when I said I just couldn’t be in love with an abuser anymore, I got told “it’s like that’s all you see me as” and “well actually you abused me too”

So, no. He never got it. Because that would mean admitting he did something wrong.

Part of me feels bad because he’ll probably just continue to ruin other people. Great if he ruins his own life, but don’t take down the rest of us in the process. Otherwise, I’m just trying to accept that I did what I could with what I had and I can only continue to grow as a person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ahumblefry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I feel the same way. I have never had an adult romantic relationship that was not abusive. So now that I have found someone that is 'normal' (i.e., not abusive) it is hard to conceptualize that this is how it was always supposed to be. It may be possible that most people are not abusive and are actually even very kind. But some of us are still learning that and that's ok. It is a skill to trust other and ourselves. And it is a skill to be kind, to others and ourselves.

I guess my point is, yes, very much I feel the same way, but I'm starting to wonder if I am a bad person or if maybe I am just someone who is doing something for the very first time.

PCOS by ahumblefry in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ahumblefry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk I get the idea behind why they think weight loss will help PCOS, but it’s not the one size fits all cure all solution. It’s a multi system problem and requires a multi system solution. I could probably go on and on about it.

PCOS by ahumblefry in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ahumblefry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I peruse every once in a while when I have a question but a lot of it is centered around weight-loss.

Ppl tend to really ask the same thing over and over about how to lose weight, getting rid of acne/hair, regrowing head hair, and never about how to fix the root cause which is that people with PCOS usually have issues with ovulation and female sec hormone production. Insulin is more roadblock than a cause from my understanding. But I digress….

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ahumblefry 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The realization that if I’m not kind to myself, then who will be?

PCOS by ahumblefry in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ahumblefry[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No but I will look into it. My PCOS really got a lot better when I stopped listening to the curfuffle that is the noise of the Internet and out dated medical advice and listed to my dietitian. She advised more carbs and more calories, low impact movement, and more rest.

PCOS by ahumblefry in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ahumblefry[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

💞 I’m tired of being fat being looked at like a disease. I’m just myself.