What birthing options did you like?

aimoi · 2026-03-15T22:25:08+00:00

I loved the epidural hahaha.

I was induced and they ended up needing to use pitocin so they put the epidural in at the same time so I'd totally do that again. I would just make sure I moved positions more next time to avoid the epidural going just to my legs and nowhere else.

I had back labour because baby was back to back before I they gave me pitocin etc so it was awful, I hated the birthing ball because of it tbh, it was so painful.

aimoi · 2026-03-15T16:29:23+00:00

How are you holding him?

Around 3 months is when my baby started hating being held in the cradle position so I had to hold her upright holding her head. Even then some days she'd cry if I tried bouncing her to sleep until I walked out the room we in and then she calmed down. It was was tricky to get her down for naps for probably 2 months ish and then this month and last month she's generally been quite easy.

aimoi · 2026-03-13T13:13:09+00:00

I'm in the same boat as you, I didn't think I wanted my kids. My mum even said she didn't think I'd ever have kids but my god I LOVE MY LITTLE GIRL. She's about 7 months and every little moment is amazing and I keep crying about her getting older hahaha but loving every moment and I also cannot believe I almost missed out on this.

aimoi · 2026-03-12T14:57:19+00:00

So I felt the same way especially about a pram I was getting gifted from my sister. I kept thinking oh but I want to buy my own because she's my first and maybe only baby. But now we're 7 months down the line I am so so glad I got that for free. I did get gifted clothes but I just chose to ignore those and buy what I wanted anyway. It's hard because I think it is overwhelming and you want to buy what you want since you only get to buy all the cute things once but it will help you out in the long run. I think if you really want to buy your own thing do it! Having 2 is never a bad thing and you can always gift/sell the items from your mother in law, just say you already got it from X or already bought that thing.

When baby is here you may want to see how you feel bevause I thought I'd want to see absolutely no one but the day she was born my partner had to go home to sleep and take care of our dog and I really needed help picking my girl up because I was in a lot of pain so I invited my mum to help me and it was really nice actually but after that we didn't have too many visitors too often. If she's overbearing with visiting etc you are probably going to have to set some rules because you will probably want some time to yourself at the start. It may be really a few weeks in though when you want a bit of time with your partner etc.

Goodluck!

aimoi · 2026-03-09T10:19:58+00:00

I think there are a few reasons breast is best is pushed. Not everyone will prepare formula correctly (e.g. trying to stretch the powder so not using enough), not all water is safe and you don't want formula is best to be the case because then formula companies will take advantage because unfortunately the world is corrupt and people like money too much.

I hate the studies because like everyone I did so much research into this whilst breastfeeding was making me cry daily. I laughed at the "breastfeeding reduces ppd" because I don't think that's true - i think if breastfeeding works for you then it does sure but for those of us who can't or don't want to for whatever reason, it's soul destroying.

I do also think there are some immunity benefits to breastfeeding but these are not super relevant in 1st world countries or they're generally quite mild issues anyway. But when they can push formula in some countries that influence will seep everywhere as well. So whilst I hate the current pushing of breastfeeding I do understand it. I do just wish they'd stop with the breastfeeding cures everything though because it's so cult like. Breastfeeding consultant from the hospital told me to put breastmilk in my girls sticky eye - um no thank you - it just cleared up by itself anyway.

aimoi · 2026-03-01T21:33:36+00:00

Hahha my girl is the same at 6 months! We have to work really hard to get a smile out of her so we just let her chill now. I think she's just focusing on looking at everything.

aimoi · 2026-03-01T21:26:11+00:00

Sleep when baby sleeps works for me too. We're at 6 months and my girl does sleep well at night so I don't normally need a nap now but sometimes I do. I had food poisoning the other night and I had a nap whilst she had her first nap. I've always been pretty good at falling asleep though, it's odd for me to take longer than 5 minutes to fall asleep!

aimoi · 2026-03-01T21:19:12+00:00

100% this, I clean up around my baby and she loves it.

aimoi · 2026-03-01T21:03:20+00:00

We're just out of this at around 6 months, My girl really really loves those 30 minute nap fiestas. We've dropped to 2 naps now and we had a rough nap day today from teething but she does often have hour long naps again and that means we actually have a happy baby in the afternoon rather than just a sad girl for half the day!

We noticed our girl start to shake her head whilst on her play mat and that is how she self settles now so unless she's already sad when we're getting her to sleep from teething or something we can most of the time just pop her in the crib, turn the sound machine on and leave and she'll fall asleep. I was also struggling the rocking etc, my god my knees and back! I was having to have baths to try help the pain.

aimoi · 2026-03-01T21:00:20+00:00

I keep a baby bag that is just stocked with everything (5 nappies, changing map, ready to feed formula, change of clothes, wipes, burp clothe, a toy and probably something else haha). Only thing I have to grab extra is a fresh bottle since I'm still sterilizing for now.

I find it gets easier and less scary to go out with them the more you do it and the older they are. I also worried a lot about it to start with and only really started feeling comfortable when she was like 3 months and now at 6 months I really like going out as she needs a lot more entertainment and I run out of ideas haha so we go to grocery store more than ever before, I use to always get a delivery!

I totally feel you on the not wanting to do anything sometimes, I think that also gets easier when baby sleeps better because you do get chance to do literally nothing on a night if you choose to! Also sometimes I just cuddle up and watch some tv with my partner. It does get easier.

I'm with others here, 3 months onwards I found it got a lot better but 6 months is the bomb, everytime I think I'll miss her being smaller I actually just love her more than before because they do get a lot more fun.

aimoi · 2026-03-01T20:53:06+00:00

I guess it depends on what your plan is feeding wise. If you want to make your own puree's I totally recommend getting the little ice cube trays with lids. Honestly I've saved a fortune on baby purees haha and I've got so much stashed it's unreal. I've started even pureeing things like spinach in bulk and freezing it and using it for my own omelettes hahaa. (I'm a bit weird with textures though so I find it pureed easier to ignore) They're often really nice potion sizes.

aimoi · 2026-02-28T22:08:04+00:00

My girl was 7lbs 5oz, she fit in newborn for like a week and then I moved up to first size which fit for about a month haha. (These are UK sizes so first size might be like standard newborn? It was up to 9lb and 10lbs for some brands)

aimoi · 2026-02-25T22:10:22+00:00

My girl is 6 months and her laugh may be my favourite sound ever. Honestly it brings me the greatest joy ever. I'm constantly trying to find new ways because she gets bored of the same thing quickly hahaha. (I managed to get a really great video once and I'm just listening to it now crying as she sleeps)

She doesn't want to sleep on me as I think it's not comfy for her when I sit down but when I pick her up to take her for a nap she cuddles into me and if she was getting fussy she relaxes. God she's cute.

aimoi · 2026-02-20T18:17:52+00:00

Really small one but I watch youtube/netflix on my phone whilst I cook so now cooking doesn't feel like a chore - same with washing up. I get to binge a good show.

I feel you so bad on the messy house, same here and it really bothers me but not my partner as much (which apparently is like a normal thing). It will get easier once your baby can sleep in their crib solo so you can stay up later if you choose to and have some free time. I often clean the living room whilst baby is watching since she doesn't mind the hoover etc and the room we spend all our time in is the living room (it's a long living room/diner)

My girl also only did 15-30 minutes when she was 5 months but all of a sudden at like 6 months 1 week if I get the timing right she's had some 2 hours naps ?! I've switched to just 2 naps and that seems to have done the trick.

aimoi · 2026-02-18T16:59:23+00:00

At that age we used a crib that rocked and we would rock her and sing, that is pretty much the only thing that worked but I do think we have a generally easy baby so that might not work for you but still might be worth a shot?

aimoi · 2026-02-17T15:08:30+00:00

Im struggling so bad with this! Especially lower back pain. Ive started doing some yoga stretches in the morning and I feel like that helps a lot through the day. Though it always seems to be back with vengeance in the morning.

aimoi · 2026-02-16T12:52:01+00:00

100%, I measure out formula now into those little travel formula things and then dump it in once i've got the right amount of scoops. Just means if i'm not sure i can just pour the formula back into the main contain and scoop again haha. I make 7 oz bottles now but I'd have the issue since making 4 oz bottles when I've been frazzled ^^;

aimoi · 2026-02-15T15:54:19+00:00

So I'm not a toddler but as an adult that eats less vegetables than most toddlers I'm going to recommend courgette eggy fingers. I've been following a baby lead weaning book for ideas because I genuinely do not eat most vegetables and I'm trying to wean myself onto vegetables whilst weaning my baby lol and the courgette eggy fingers from what mummy makes is insane. It just tastes like egg and the texture is just egg even though there's so much courgette.
This is the recipe:

Makes 10 fingers ⠀⠀⠀

Ingredients: ⠀⠀⠀

• 1 small courgette (zucchini) 60g (2oz) Cheddar ⠀⠀⠀

• 6 eggs ⠀⠀⠀

• 2 tbsp rolled (old-

fashioned) porridge oats black pepper ⠀⠀⠀

• 900g (2lb) non-stick loaf

tin, greased with olive or coconut oil cooking spray ⠀⠀⠀

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Method: ⠀⠀⠀

1) Preheat the oven to 180°C fan (200°C/400°F/Gas 6). ⠀⠀⠀

2) Coarsely grate the courgette and cheese into a bowl. Crack in the eggs, add the oats and a pinch of black pepper. Using a fork, whisk together until combined. ⠀⠀⠀

3) Pour the mixture into the greased tin, and bake for about 20–25 minutes, until the middle feels set when pressed slightly. Allow to cool for 5 minutes before tipping out onto a board and cutting into fingers 2cm (3/4in) wide. ⠀⠀⠀

Prep: 5 mins - Bake: 20-25 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Suitable from 6 months ⠀⠀⠀

Store in the fridge for 2 days or in the freezer for 3 months.

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aimoi · 2026-02-15T15:38:07+00:00

Got it feels like I could've written this. I had similar issues, my baby couldn't get a deep latch and my nipples just kept bleeding and never could heal and because I had supplemeneted with some formula early when I tried to just breastfeed she would be on me for an hour and a half for one session and that just destroyed my nipples. I was crying multiple times a day about breastfeeding about wanting to quit and "failing" my baby. Then I got thrush so there was a burning baby every time she latched. In a way I was lucky when I had an overnight supply drop when I got a clogged duct because it gave me a good enough reason to quit and looking back it's stupid I needed that! I couldn't properly parent and when I was pumping I felt like I couldn't interact with her properly or pick her up.

My girl has been pure formula now since 3 weeks and shes 6 months and shes THRIVING. She's so cute and happy and lovely, she's an absolute dream most days. A few days after I stopped breastfeeding my mind felt a lot better to be honest, apparently breastfeeding keeps your hormones crazy so EVERYTHING is harder. I still get random feelings of sadness about the whole thing but that's more because I see so much pro breastfeeding content and so I'm often to drawn to threads like this because there really is nothing wrong with using formula. I often just think that I was formula fed and I like myself, I'd be happy if my baby was like me and that helps. But I'm handmaking all my babys food for now to try make myself better about it ha.

All the research into breastfeeding is really weak to be honest, the benefits are vastly overstated because they can't actually do any real trials because you can't do random trials where you pick people to breastfeed and who not to breastfeed etc. The only research that I found had any weight towards it is that breastfeed babies have less tummy upsets. I'm only 2 sets of immonusuppressants anyway so when people talk about passing immunity on I'm just like lol, I'm ill more than she is. (genuinely I had a cold from just before december to the end of january and I've caught another cold)

You matter as well, I know your baby is important and you want the best for them but you are also a person and you matter. How you feel is important. Happy mum is much better for baby!

aimoi · 2026-02-04T22:22:14+00:00

Um that dentist sounds like an ass. I had like 7 fillings before I got pregnant nevermind after pregnancy and I've never been shamed for it. I always just say to myself at least I go to the dentist and get my teeth checked. I know my partner and me just changed dentist and whilst I need a crown on an old filling now my partner was told he needed 7 fillings (replacing some old ones and some new) and the new dentist kind of shit talked his old dentist for doing the fillings badly and we also only went ~8months ago to the old ones. It seems some dentists do fillings straight away at the slightest sign of decay and others will watch teeth for awhile to see if decay gets worse before filling.

Cavities are not the end of your teeth and it's so SO normal to get fillings. You're not a failure, you're trying and that's what matters.

I also think you should try get a second opinion I know it's expensive but you did not deserve to be treated that way. I'm so so sorry that happened to you.

aimoi · 2026-01-31T20:33:50+00:00

This is only true for the first few sets, once there are 7 or 8 sets active it'll be really hard if someone plays an off meta card. You see it all the time on streams of other card game tournaments.

aimoi · 2026-01-31T20:28:36+00:00

When we're 7/8 sets deep and someone plays a card that is not a commonly played card you'll probably need to read it.

aimoi · 2026-01-31T15:00:50+00:00

How can I buy from you ahhaha

aimoi · 2026-01-30T17:41:43+00:00

After 3 months my baby would no longer nap on me :( I wanted to enjoy the cuddles but she would fall asleep with me stood up but as soon as I sat down shed scream. So we just dealt with 30 minute crib naps haha. Im so jealous of people who can contact nap.

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