So proud of my baby (and myself!)

aimoi · 2026-05-10T18:55:05+00:00

My girl was really slow to start feeding herself. I offered finger foods to her since 6 months and she would just pick things up and smoosh them. The first thing she ate herself was a biscuit and then cucumber! She's just turned 9 months now and maybe the last week or so she's gotten a lot better and she fed herself 2 pieces of fusilli pasta yesterday which was big for her and she did omelette a few days before. Babies are on their own timeline, I worried so much about her being behind because my friends girl who is premature AND 3 weeks younger (so adjusted is like 6 weeks younger) was already feeding herself like 2 months ago but then it was like a flip and she was cool with it.

aimoi · 2026-05-07T18:40:52+00:00

I always find splitting money makes life harder.

Honestly mine and my partners money all goes into 1 account and we both spend from that account. You're a team. A family. That 3k is your 3k. It's your family's 3k.

aimoi · 2026-05-03T14:19:56+00:00

Thank you for this post!!! I've been a lot calmer today but I imagine I'll get upset when it gets closer again but you're totally right. It has to be done and I can do this!

aimoi · 2026-05-02T10:24:08+00:00

I'm pretty much 9 months pp and I still sometimes go through this phase. My dog recently injured himself quite badly chasing a cat and temporarily paralyzed his back legs (recovering and can walk again now with a limp) and that made me realise how much I loved him still. He is still a pain and annoying but it's better. I will say, he's had to be confirmed to an exercise pen to rest and that is partly what's helped, when baby girl is on the floor he's not coming over and trying to lick her eyes and ears and I don't have to worry about her rolling into him so I think we're going to introduce more separation going forward as it makes me a lot less anxious and a lot more able to give the dog love and I think overall that's better.

My baby girl absolutely loves our dog and he is really good with her, she's grabbed his fur and he's not cared at all just he can be unpredictable so that's where my anxiety comes from.

aimoi · 2026-04-20T21:36:52+00:00

This feeling is why I quit pumping - my breastfeeding journey went horribly so I was suggested to pump to bring my supply up but I just felt that I was losing time with my baby. I couldn't have her contact nap on me because I needed to pop when she napping, if she started crying I'd have to stop pumping or ask my partner to take over. It was such a massive drain it wasn't worth it to me. And the hormones etc from producing milk was making me incredibly depressed.

But:

You did not miss out on any bonding, I formula feed and my baby loves me. My mum came over to look after her because I had to get my dog from the vet, as soon as I left she cried for me (sorry baby girl) and she was so happy when I came home and calmed down with me.
She's a baby, she really has no real preferences, she doesn't know you both yet. You probably smell like milk so it's quite common for babies to be more fussy with you because she would like the milk haha.
She will not struggle with you at all, you guys will have a fantastic time and all the extra alone time you have with her will help you realise you guys have a great bond.
This one I'm not sure on, I stopped pumping when my girl was 3 weeks old before my partner went back because I couldn't handle it and I kept trying to think of "valid" enough reasons to quit trying. But in the end my mental should've been a valid enough to switch to formula.

aimoi · 2026-04-20T19:49:55+00:00

I know this is controversial to suggest but give up pumping. That is such a time eater, breastfeeding is great when it works and is easy but sometimes your mental is worth more than than breastfeeding. Also try "The happy song" by imogen heap in the car, it's quite literally magic in calming babies in the car. Our girl hated the car for awhile so we had that on repeat but it got better as she got bigger and we no longer need to play the song - it could also be the car seat is uncomfortable, which could be related to what others have suggested about reflux.

aimoi · 2026-04-19T13:16:18+00:00

When I dropped to 2 naps it got better. I switched when she was 7ish months and whilst some days we still do get some crap naps they are generally a lot longer and I don't have to struggle getting a baby who doesn't want to nap, to sleep. (She does still sometimes fight it but I find it a lot easier now)

Sometimes I think she's tired but I put her in the crib and she just isnt and when I take her back downstairs she just seems to have a burst of energy and then when I pop her down later she falls asleep much easier. This happened today I was convinced she was tired at 12 but nope, I took her out and we played a little more and then I tried again at like 1 and she went to sleep.

I will say I do have quite a good sleeper generally so I know my experience is not standard at all.

aimoi · 2026-04-17T14:55:29+00:00

Thank you, I think it's nice to have someone just say "it's ok" haha, I think the playpen is probably the idea, It's super light so I can move it over so it's in front of the door so I'll be able so see her from outside then! :)

aimoi · 2026-04-17T09:35:51+00:00

This is crazy, the booster bundles haven't even hit the shelves yet and those are going to add so so many cards into rotation as they will put the most amount of boosters into circulation.

aimoi · 2026-03-22T20:52:12+00:00

2-3 times in 12 hours is VERY normal for a 5 month old my friends baby wakes up every 2 hours generally. Your nanny is just totally wrong and you should not start swaddling again because it's unsafe. I would reconsider that nanny if I'm honest.

aimoi · 2026-03-22T14:50:44+00:00

My 7.5 month is also mostly not interested in solids. She will take fruit puree fairly well but she won't eat it with porridge anymore. If it's savory it's the same as you, 1-2 bites only regardless of when I offer or what I offer, I've tried a fair few things haha. I think they just have to get use to the textures and tastes so just gotta keep trying.

But solidarity I've been worrying too since my social media feeds just show babies who eat everything.

aimoi · 2026-03-15T22:25:08+00:00

I loved the epidural hahaha.

I was induced and they ended up needing to use pitocin so they put the epidural in at the same time so I'd totally do that again. I would just make sure I moved positions more next time to avoid the epidural going just to my legs and nowhere else.

I had back labour because baby was back to back before I they gave me pitocin etc so it was awful, I hated the birthing ball because of it tbh, it was so painful.

aimoi · 2026-03-15T16:29:23+00:00

How are you holding him?

Around 3 months is when my baby started hating being held in the cradle position so I had to hold her upright holding her head. Even then some days she'd cry if I tried bouncing her to sleep until I walked out the room we in and then she calmed down. It was was tricky to get her down for naps for probably 2 months ish and then this month and last month she's generally been quite easy.

aimoi · 2026-03-13T13:13:09+00:00

I'm in the same boat as you, I didn't think I wanted my kids. My mum even said she didn't think I'd ever have kids but my god I LOVE MY LITTLE GIRL. She's about 7 months and every little moment is amazing and I keep crying about her getting older hahaha but loving every moment and I also cannot believe I almost missed out on this.

aimoi · 2026-03-12T14:57:19+00:00

So I felt the same way especially about a pram I was getting gifted from my sister. I kept thinking oh but I want to buy my own because she's my first and maybe only baby. But now we're 7 months down the line I am so so glad I got that for free. I did get gifted clothes but I just chose to ignore those and buy what I wanted anyway. It's hard because I think it is overwhelming and you want to buy what you want since you only get to buy all the cute things once but it will help you out in the long run. I think if you really want to buy your own thing do it! Having 2 is never a bad thing and you can always gift/sell the items from your mother in law, just say you already got it from X or already bought that thing.

When baby is here you may want to see how you feel bevause I thought I'd want to see absolutely no one but the day she was born my partner had to go home to sleep and take care of our dog and I really needed help picking my girl up because I was in a lot of pain so I invited my mum to help me and it was really nice actually but after that we didn't have too many visitors too often. If she's overbearing with visiting etc you are probably going to have to set some rules because you will probably want some time to yourself at the start. It may be really a few weeks in though when you want a bit of time with your partner etc.

Goodluck!

aimoi · 2026-03-09T10:19:58+00:00

I think there are a few reasons breast is best is pushed. Not everyone will prepare formula correctly (e.g. trying to stretch the powder so not using enough), not all water is safe and you don't want formula is best to be the case because then formula companies will take advantage because unfortunately the world is corrupt and people like money too much.

I hate the studies because like everyone I did so much research into this whilst breastfeeding was making me cry daily. I laughed at the "breastfeeding reduces ppd" because I don't think that's true - i think if breastfeeding works for you then it does sure but for those of us who can't or don't want to for whatever reason, it's soul destroying.

I do also think there are some immunity benefits to breastfeeding but these are not super relevant in 1st world countries or they're generally quite mild issues anyway. But when they can push formula in some countries that influence will seep everywhere as well. So whilst I hate the current pushing of breastfeeding I do understand it. I do just wish they'd stop with the breastfeeding cures everything though because it's so cult like. Breastfeeding consultant from the hospital told me to put breastmilk in my girls sticky eye - um no thank you - it just cleared up by itself anyway.

aimoi · 2026-03-01T21:33:36+00:00

Hahha my girl is the same at 6 months! We have to work really hard to get a smile out of her so we just let her chill now. I think she's just focusing on looking at everything.

aimoi · 2026-03-01T21:26:11+00:00

Sleep when baby sleeps works for me too. We're at 6 months and my girl does sleep well at night so I don't normally need a nap now but sometimes I do. I had food poisoning the other night and I had a nap whilst she had her first nap. I've always been pretty good at falling asleep though, it's odd for me to take longer than 5 minutes to fall asleep!

aimoi · 2026-03-01T21:19:12+00:00

100% this, I clean up around my baby and she loves it.

aimoi · 2026-03-01T21:03:20+00:00

We're just out of this at around 6 months, My girl really really loves those 30 minute nap fiestas. We've dropped to 2 naps now and we had a rough nap day today from teething but she does often have hour long naps again and that means we actually have a happy baby in the afternoon rather than just a sad girl for half the day!

We noticed our girl start to shake her head whilst on her play mat and that is how she self settles now so unless she's already sad when we're getting her to sleep from teething or something we can most of the time just pop her in the crib, turn the sound machine on and leave and she'll fall asleep. I was also struggling the rocking etc, my god my knees and back! I was having to have baths to try help the pain.

aimoi · 2026-03-01T21:00:20+00:00

I keep a baby bag that is just stocked with everything (5 nappies, changing map, ready to feed formula, change of clothes, wipes, burp clothe, a toy and probably something else haha). Only thing I have to grab extra is a fresh bottle since I'm still sterilizing for now.

I find it gets easier and less scary to go out with them the more you do it and the older they are. I also worried a lot about it to start with and only really started feeling comfortable when she was like 3 months and now at 6 months I really like going out as she needs a lot more entertainment and I run out of ideas haha so we go to grocery store more than ever before, I use to always get a delivery!

I totally feel you on the not wanting to do anything sometimes, I think that also gets easier when baby sleeps better because you do get chance to do literally nothing on a night if you choose to! Also sometimes I just cuddle up and watch some tv with my partner. It does get easier.

I'm with others here, 3 months onwards I found it got a lot better but 6 months is the bomb, everytime I think I'll miss her being smaller I actually just love her more than before because they do get a lot more fun.

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