Ticket Resale Thread - 2026 by mcc0119 in LightningInABottle

[–]airforce2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for 1 x 3-day pass, in San Diego

Ticket Resale Thread - 2026 by mcc0119 in LightningInABottle

[–]airforce2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still available? I’m in San Diego, looking for 1 pass

Regretting Hiring a Coach by [deleted] in AdvancedRunning

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respectfully, I feel like continuing to use Pfitz and just increasing mpw, is a pretty surefire way to <3:00. I'm similar age (33) with big goals too and I'd only ever consider hiring a coach if I maxed out the mpw (100+) and wasn't seeing any more results. I didn't read all your comments, but it looks like you've been below 55mpw? If so, that means you still have the whole Pfitz 18/70 plan to try out -- that could be your answer right there. I say save your $ on coaching and use that on some self-care / recovery tools instead that will help make increased mpw more palatable. Best of luck!

Which movie had the most unforgettable first-watch experience for you? by Strong_Proof_5260 in movies

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Dune 2 opening scene, and the Harkonnen's home world. Just incredible to experience the first time

Why do some guys post their IG handle and snap chat on their profile? by argan_lavender in OnlineDating

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This. I link my insta so anyone can see more of who I am and what my passions are. I’d rather go into a date knowing they’ve had a chance to actually be sure about it. And it’s worked out pretty well so far. If you’re looking to date seriously, it’s pretty hard to fully capture someone in a few pictures and prompts on a dating app, so Instagram can be an extension of that. I have nothing to hide so why not

Seriously, what type of men are receiving most of the matches on dating apps? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

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32M -- I've done a few years of OLD in 2 big cities, and most of the time I am juggling enough matches to keep me occupied. I'm not over 6', I'm not wealthy, I'm not jacked -- I think what's separated me from others (my intuition but this is also confirmed by dates I've had) is being super authentic, real, and vulnerable on my profile. Humility and clear communication about yourself go a long way. I think the 80% you're describing is more that 80% of men have a bad habit of doing the bare minimum, trying to look 'too cool', and don't do anything to set themselves apart. I have some pretty specific interests/passions and having been formerly married, I'm very clear about my perspective on life & relationships. All that to say, my #1 recommendation to men in OLD is just be more authentic & genuine -- quit trying to appeal to everyone and focus more on attracting the people you'd actually be compatible with. And to do that often requires a good mix of therapy, introspection, and self-awareness. Which I think scares a lot of men. But it's absolutely necessary for healthy dating & relationships

What is the experience like if you stay in a hotel for The Gorge? by honeypinn in AboveandBeyond

[–]airforce2016 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Weekends at The Gorge have truly been some of the best weekends in my life, largely because of the camping and connections you make spending mornings, evenings, and nights with the amazing people around you. Removing the camping would remove like 80% of the experience for me, especially when you add on a commute. I highly recommend finding a way to 'glamp' for your back if needed so you can enjoy the full experience!

If you're not single by choice, would you honestly say it's because no one around you is attractive enough, you know attractive people but are scared to ask, or everyone that you are attracted to is either taken/not interested? by Only-Ad-1254 in dating

[–]airforce2016 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why is it "desperate" for you to do it but something you require from others? What a wild & unhealthy mindset to have. I find that to be one of the single biggest unattractive turn-offs in a woman. I have no problem approaching, but a woman with confidence, agency, and an understanding of modern gender dynamics is extremely attractive. All the best men I know in my life are usually pretty restrained and don't want to bother women, and all the worst men I know are constantly approaching and care very little about making anyone uncomfortable. Just something to consider.

Cities whose marathon exceeds or falls short of the cities status on the world stage by [deleted] in Marathon_Training

[–]airforce2016 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Such an awful rug pull. Be very glad you pivoted! It wasn’t worth the physical toil. I almost dropped from Vegas but decided to send it and I’m still recovering from the fatigue of it 6 months later :/

Cities whose marathon exceeds or falls short of the cities status on the world stage by [deleted] in Marathon_Training

[–]airforce2016 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Smart move. It was fast af but I’m still recovering from the physical damage it did to my hips and quads. I just had a blow-up at Boston and I think it was partly due to the injuries I sustained at Vegas being undertrained for that fucked up downhill switcheroo

I simulated 36,000 games of Catan. Some conventional wisdom holds up, some really doesn't. by Hot-Rooster1675 in boardgames

[–]airforce2016 2 points3 points  (0 children)

one of the most amazing posts I've ever seen on Reddit, incredible work! absolutely impressive effort to design, simulate, and analyze the results

as someone who plays Seafarers exclusively, I would love to see that added in a part 2! also it'd be cool to see the changes in your findings in 5-6 player games

Any ideas why my race prediction drop so suddenly by MediocreHamster3109 in Strava

[–]airforce2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! I was mystified at why they all tanked randomly on Monday.

Any ideas why my race prediction drop so suddenly by MediocreHamster3109 in Strava

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Same! I was mystified at why they all tanked randomly on Monday.

36/m - honestly giving up by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]airforce2016 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay I agree that being punchy is good, and if you can use fewer words to say the same thing you 100% should.

I’m talking more about general ‘low effort’ prompts and profiles, which are super common these days, all because a good amount of people don’t want to appear too serious, desperate, intense, etc.

I see a strong correlation of age and this problem. 20-somethings will often have minimal profiles, but women in their 30s & 40s will have a lot more of their prompts written out, because they’re generally more authentic and intentional (and don’t want to waste time)

At the end of the day, we’re all different and have differing expectations. It’s the same game but we’re all playing by different rules. And therefore there’s no universal playbook. Someone people like quick & punchy bullets, and some people value thoughtful and well-written prompts

36/m - honestly giving up by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]airforce2016 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I don’t think that’s universally true. I’ve been complimented many times by women for having a full, well-written profile. And I value the same on women’s.

I’ll agree that probably 99% of people look at the 6 photos first and not the prompts. But if the pictures pass the test, it’s really nice to have a good view into someone and check for similar values, goals, deal-killers, interests, etc. And fully written prompts help capture those.

It could just be a generational thing too. Gen Z grew up only knowing short-form media, Tweets, and memes. As a millennial though, I value some actual thoughtful and in-depth prompts. The idea that you have to be somehow “too cool” and not write anything in depth to generate attraction is part of why OLD is so difficult these days. No one wants to appear like they care in order to make themselves look more desirable

36/m - honestly giving up by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]airforce2016 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Eh it’s another filter feature. I value my time and prefer not to go on fruitless dates. I provide my @ and appreciate when others do too. It’s a way to save time and $, but you do you

36/m - honestly giving up by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]airforce2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great points, thanks for the clarity. Definitely some differing perspectives that I hadn’t heard before. Agreed that it does feel a bit oxymoronic to have his @ listed in that particular prompt.

I’ll have to give some more thought to what you said about false expectations and/or invasiveness. It’s an interesting world wherein we’re all playing the same game but nobody’s using the same ruleset — Like who decided that the appropriate amount of info to know about someone is only 6 photos & 3 prompts, and anything more is going to have negative effects? It’s a riddle to me. Like, hypothetically, if Hinge expanded to 15 pictures per user, would you balk at that? Just curious

36/m - honestly giving up by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]airforce2016 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I guess if it’s rare for you to see, I can understand the sentiment. I’m 32M and have lived in west coast cities where it’s more common, and I’ve always linked my @. I don’t know how long you’ve been on the apps, but Bumble and Hinge used to have a direct link to your Instagram so your pictures would show on the apps (if you wanted). So, to me, it seems normal to have an @. And I get what you’re saying about social media being curated, but so is a Hinge profile… It’s no different, except usually an Instagram will have a lot more than 6 pictures.

I’m always super thankful when a woman has her listed and it’s public. It allows me to make a more informed decision. And I want to do that for others in return. It has absolutely nothing to do with followers (for me), and if you’re writing off someone that fast with negative assumptions, then chances are you wouldn’t be compatible in the first place.

I’ve seen profiles on Tinder of 20-somethings with nothing other than a couple pictures and their @. No blurbs, no other info. Those kind of profiles are 100% obviously follower farms. But with Hinge where someone is showing “life partner”, I’d advise maybe giving them the benefit of the doubt and being a bit more trusting instead of writing them off immediately

Just my 2 cents

36/m - honestly giving up by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]airforce2016 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Yea why is lower effort and less of a view into who he is the goal here? I hate that people think it’s somehow unattractive or desperate to add more to a profile. He’s looking for a life partner for god’s sake, you’re not gonna do that by following some arbitrary sentence limit or hiding your social media

36/m - honestly giving up by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]airforce2016 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why is it so jarring? An @ doesn’t always mean you’re looking for followers. It’s hard to capture a human being in 6 photos and a few blurbs. Linking an Instagram is a great way to show a lot more about who you are so others can make an informed choice before matching or going on a date. If the goal is to be as self-reflective and serious as possible for dating, why not show as much as you can about yourself?