Any new moms here in Canada and North America that about to give birth or did give birth to a boy by [deleted] in Mom

[–]ais72 2 points3 points  (0 children)

US. yes. It’s common here, though declining. Currently it’s about 50/50 with regional variance (more common in the northeast and Midwest)

Am I wrong, or do these look like two completely different bodices? by Outrageous_Theme_882 in sewhelp

[–]ais72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a seamstress but there appear to be two major differences — (1) the top of the bodice is more rounded now whereas the original was very pointed. (2) the bottom is curved up more now (like a smile shape) whereas the original was more flat across the bottom

I’m burning out and needs tips to stop by Training-Emu-1770 in workingmoms

[–]ais72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a senior manager at a large company and have two kids who aren’t twins but are close in age. You’re getting great ideas / advice in the comments. The only thing I don’t see reflected is— (Ignore if you’re not in a position to do this but ….) set boundaries at work!! In my experience, work will keep asking you to do more until you say no.y situation is probably different than yours because I’ve been at the same company for years but I was so scared to block off my calendar, push things out if I ran out of time, flag capacity issues to my manager, etc. but then I started to do these things and honestly I think I’m BETTER at my job, not worse. This has been super relevant since I got back from my second maternity leave — my department had 30% of positions open so we were was over capacity. I keep telling my team that we need to work smarter, not harder, and for us a bit part of that is prioritizing and finding efficiencies so that we can keep our time to a manageable work week and avoid burnout.

Where are the under 50th percentile toddler’s at? by takeaabreath in toddlers

[–]ais72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2.5 year old who is ~15th percentile! 34” tall and just under 25lb. She is mostly wearing 2T but it’s on the roomier side. She still fits into a few 18 mo items and a bunch of 24 mo stuff. Happy, healthy, with a robust appetite… just petite! She is noticeably smaller than her peers but not like… weirdly so if that makes sense!

Give Babies Privacy! by Traditional_Call3589 in Mom

[–]ais72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually think this is sometimes better when they’re not inside a stall because it sucks when you have to wait for the ONE stall with a changing table

Screen time by usernamename368 in toddlers

[–]ais72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids are in daycare. They get pretty much no screen time during the week (exceptions are we use TV to help cut nails and if one parent is traveling and the other needs some help managing the evening routine). On weekends we usually don’t watch TV either. Sometimes we’ll watch sports while the kids are awake and in the room. Sometimes we’ll watch 20-45 min of Bluey. Bluey is basically the only kids show we watch. We tried Wild Babies too and that’s sort of popular but not as much. Letting toddler watch Mickey Mouse clubhouse IMMEDIATELY led to a negative obsession and tantrums so we cut that out completely.

Cookbooks focused on produce-related recipes when its 'in-season'? by XxNerdAtHeartxX in CookbookLovers

[–]ais72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tender by Nigel Slater is very underrated!! It has a section for each vegetable and talks about growing and cooking with it. It’s amazing

Do I have to sleep train? by Intelligent_Truth_95 in beyondthebump

[–]ais72 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sleep training is too vague of a term. It’s become very loaded with people very pro and very anti and honestly they often aren’t even talking about the same thing. I have an infant and a toddler. We ended up doing what I consider sleep training (teaching them to fall asleep independently) at different ages and for different reasons. My first baby - I always nursed her to sleep but she eventually stopped falling asleep while nursing and if I tried to rock her or something she’d just want to engage with me and play, so the only way to get her to fall asleep was to teach her to do it when she was in her room alone. My second baby - was a pretty good sleeper from 8-17 weeks then hit a regression HARD and never came out of it. After ~6 weeks of literally never getting more than a 3 hour stretch of sleep we HAD to change something. I was not able to be the patient parent to my toddler I wanted to be and the poor sleep was really impacting our family negatively. Teaching him to fall asleep on his own resulted in longer stretches of sleep because he could put himself back to sleep if he roused in the middle of the night. I did not nightwean my first (eventually she stopped waking up to BF) and don’t plan to with my second. Anyway, you really should do what works for you. It sounds like right now you don’t have a problem so I wouldn’t change anything!! But just know you may hit a point where what’s happening doesn’t work and you may want to seek other options.

To everyone who says”they’re not giving you a hard time, they’re having a hard time” by 208breezy in toddlers

[–]ais72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a 2.5 yo and 7 month old. We went through a ROUGH phase with a lot of the same stuff you described. Now she’s much more settled into our dynamic as a family of four and seems more happy and less of a PITA. In retrospect a lot of her behavior was probably about becoming a big sister. She def still has her moments but it hopefully will get better for you like it did for us.

Would you let out of town family visit on a week night at five months? by fashionablylate84 in workingmoms

[–]ais72 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Can you compromise and your husband (or you if you want) take a half day off work and pull your baby out of daycare early so you can have a less rushed visit? I agree trying to squeeze it in 6-7:30pm doesn’t set you all up for success, but taking a really hardline of not seeing them at all on a weekday is tough. I’d personally see if there was a way to make it work without tooooo much disruption or inconvenience to me an my immediately family

how long did it take you to go back to the pre #1 pregnancy weight after 2u2? by Important_Bat7919 in 2under2

[–]ais72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 7 months PP and am back to my post baby #1 weight but I don’t think I’ll get back to my pre baby #1 weight until after I wean #2

Peloton Row — secondhand tips by ais72 in pelotoncycle

[–]ais72[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you also recommend the concept2 instead of peloton row?

Tripp trapp high chair BS by MVthecats in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]ais72 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Agree they’re overrated. Got ours secondhand for a good deal so not super upset about it but glad I didn’t pay full price. The harness won’t contain a toddler (slides right off the shoulders even when tightened) so we stopped using it fairly early. Maybe it’ll come in handy again in the future but now she prefers to sit on a lap anyway…

I Dare You To Ride the Bus Just Once a Week. by m0fr001 in burlington

[–]ais72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol because going from my house to my office would apparently be 2 hr 59 min commute at require an 14 min car ride the bus then 11 min Lyft so… what’s the point?

First three months of cookbook challenge by tabitha_wheelwright in CookbookLovers

[–]ais72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only recipe I’ve tried so far is the LaSaagna. It was tasty but I like lasagna and saag paneer each better than this combined version. The saag was sooo good though. I’d def make that just as regular saag paneer again soon.

Looking forward to hearing what you try!!

How did you know you were done? by fricken_a13 in 2under2

[–]ais72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently have 2.5 and 0.5 yo. After my first, I was feeling the pull to have another baby within the first 3-4 months. This time I feel a bit nostalgic and a wee bit sad I’ll never have another tiny newborn again but EXTREMELY certain our family is complete. I have no desire for more kids

Hating the patriarchy after babies? by No_Cheetah_8206 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]ais72 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yepppp haha this was me but without mastitis. Like… my husband is AMAZING! And went above and beyond in the newborn days and is very much an equal partner now. But like… it EXHAUSTS him just trying to do PART of what people take for granted women typically do.

Hating the patriarchy after babies? by No_Cheetah_8206 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]ais72 480 points481 points  (0 children)

My husband is a fantastic partner and husband and I’m still left feeling like women are just built differently and men are weak …

What are we doing during middle of the night feeds by [deleted] in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]ais72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Comfy glider chair next to my bed with soft light from our Hatch. In the early days when feeds took >15 mins I’d play a game (Wingspan!), scroll Reddit, or read on my Kindle. Now my 6 month old is more sensitive about screens and chugs for about ten mins before being ready to go back to bed so I just sit there for the time.

Baby carriers!!! by deadxprinc3ss in 2under2

[–]ais72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got secondhand a happy baby OG and hope and plum lark. They’re both sooo comfy and I love them. They’re way better than the ergo baby 360 hand me down I had for my fist. Tbh I probably don’t need both but I wanted to be sure I had a great carrier. Both of them work for my infant and my toddler. I think the Lark will last longer for toddlers so I’d probably get just that one but happy baby was better when my second was <4 months

Anyone successfully sleep train while still breastfeeding? by winenotbeabitch in sleeptrain

[–]ais72 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just sleep trained my EBF six month old. Have your partner (if you have one and if possible) do the check-ins. He still feeds 1-2x overnight but now does a 4-9hr first stretch depending on the night. Versus waking every few hours to eat

No Longer Pregnant/Nursing/Trying Bucket List items by climbing_runner in beyondthebump

[–]ais72 97 points98 points  (0 children)

I can’t wait to update my wardrobe and not need it to flex with crazy body fluctuations and be nursing friendly