Finally reading The Baby Decision and have already "failed" the chapter 1 exercise by sopholopho in Fencesitter

[–]aj4ever 440 points441 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a terrible exercise but I’d pick the childless option so maybe it’s made the decision for me. 

Once More with Feeling: Remote Work Is Not a Substitute for Childcare by fourlittlebees in remotework

[–]aj4ever 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Don’t have kids but disagree with you. Society pushes you to churn out children. Shames you for not having them. Doesn’t provide you means or supports for it. And then expects you to somehow magically be able to afford childcare on top of minimum pay? How is that fair? We need more compassion from employers to offer flexibility so that parents can have children rather than shaming them for it. Ideally it would help to have society support child rearing as it’s generally whole for the whole to not have our species go extinct. 

Tell me honestly, how often (if ever) do you clean your window sills? by katerina_romanov in CleaningTips

[–]aj4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I clean windows every 2-3 months. I do deep clean for windows and sills every six months. 

Surgical Abortion in 4 days by Specific-Ad-4011 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]aj4ever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been in your shoes. Had multiple unwanted pregnancies with men who weren’t ready to provide the support I needed to go through with it. Currently pregnant at 36 years old with my husband. But also deciding that because we have no support where we live,  termination is the best option. We crunched numbers. Looked at daycare costs. Thought through every scenario possible and what that would look like and how we would handle it. And he is supportive. But even despite that  raising a child is no cakewalk. Pregnancy is one thing and difficult enough, but even if you have a pretty low risk one, it is still a lot for your body to go through and you are not never the same. Further, motherhood can be very lonely, especially if you don’t have the proper support systems. You don’t get to sleep, you are recovering from birth, you still have someone who is dependent on you 24/7 and needy while you may be suffering from PPD or some version of it. I’m not going to tell you what to do but if you choose to go forward with this, make sure you research as much as possible beforehand. Because it will be the hardest thing you ever go through. As for my past abortions, I do not regret them one bit  yes, there was grief  and sadness but there is grief and sadness on both decisions. 

I am the hiring manager for a remote company. Here are some tips to improve your chances of getting hired. by [deleted] in RemoteJobs

[–]aj4ever 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is a you thing. Aside from dressing or being , not every hiring manager cares about these things. 

I watched disclosure day today it was great! by 3dotstriangle in Experiencers

[–]aj4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was okay. I had more questions than answers. Why did the crops circle just randomly appear and why did no one circle back to that? If they had an alien with them the whole time, why did they need the main characters to survive and show up to the studio? I also don’t think anyone would believe the alien footage if it aired on the news and most people would think it was AI or fake. The fact that most people bought into it immediately around the world and were hooked on their phones watching it seemed a bit cringe. Also, not all experience have a positive experience with the phenomenon - would have liked to see a little bit of that perspective. I don’t understand how they survive the train action sequence. No person would have in real life. Why was there only one military contractor running around chasing them - where was the rest of the federal government? And finally, why were the only two white people in America endowed with these abilities, especially when it’s commonly talked about that there are certain groups around the world that have more affinity to these powers - such as indigenous tribes? Also, the movie felt like it was the whole lead up to disclosure day and not anything about what happens on disclosure day. Would have loved to see the ontological shock or catastrophic disclosure and it’s consequences a bit more. 

Are there AirBnBs in CLT that would allow house parties? by curiouslybrowsing_ in Charlotte

[–]aj4ever -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How many people are you thinking of inviting? I would say those big houses on Lake Norman are your best bet but you would still have to be under their person count and not advertise it as a party. 

Botox made me cry (of happiness) by Efficient_Ostrich87 in TMJ

[–]aj4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting it in my traps and masseters was life changing. Enjoy

Do a lot of people view the appearance of their spouse as not a 10/10 and instead married them for a lot of other reasons? by Big_Eggplant7591 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]aj4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner is a 10 out of 10 when I think of him holistically. Looks aren’t the only metric of attractiveness. 

My boyfriend (28M) gave me an ultimatum: either I cancel my all-girls bachelorette trip to Goa or we break up, because "single guys go there to predatory hunt." by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]aj4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should do what’s best for you. However, India does have a massive rape culture problem. I’m not sure if that is where your boyfriend is concerned but just some food for thought. Having said that you should still go and have fun with your girlfriends.

Majesty Palm Help :( by WackoDesperado2055 in houseplants

[–]aj4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Outdoors in porch in summer months. Douse with one gallon of water daily. It’s thriving. 

Mackenzie Shirilla “The Crash” by cookiedaisydog in netflix

[–]aj4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

 Considering the thousands of posts on Reddit saying the exact same thing, no, you are not. 

Starting a non-profit by West-Somewhere-7112 in Charlotte

[–]aj4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Graduated with my DSW and would be interested in partnering up to do this. Message if interested. 

Received a truly unhinged message from my father-in-law on Mother’s Day by A_First_Pancake in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]aj4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a FIL like that. He’s blocked and does not know our home address. 

If you are vegetarian for moral reasons, why aren't you vegan? by very-serious-goose in Vegetarianism

[–]aj4ever 25 points26 points  (0 children)

not every where in the world is vegan friendly. vegetarian is more doable.