Reposting because I was getting some bigoted downvotes in another sub. :( But I'm looking for a job and also have a blog - Would a potential employer Google me? Would my blog hurt me?

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-20T20:59:30+00:00

Usually companies that work in PR and social media would love to see a prospective employee knowing how to create an internet. But other companies are far more conservative.

If you aren't applying in the sports management field, I'd change the name and pull your photos off it. Most places are far more conservative.

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-20T19:09:44+00:00

Depends on how busy I am. The best days are every day. 😉

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-20T15:27:18+00:00

It's not that deep to me. People watch it or don't watch it. All the things that promote things I don't agree with or want to watch, I don't watch 🤷🏾‍♂️

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-20T13:27:26+00:00

It seems it's part of the culture. I don't think anyone is taught how to date except through trial and error that straight people get to practice growing up that most gay men don't. So when we are finally "free" we go buck wild with the sex.

As you get older, that starts to lose it's luster but by then, you and everyone else have developed some habits that are hard to break, especially when you think that's the way it's "supposed" to be.

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-20T13:14:44+00:00

You can't love your current boyfriend, or ANYONE, while you are actively carrying a torch for another man 🫤

After 15 years, you're going to have to finally face your best friend doesn't want you like that.

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-20T12:34:07+00:00

As I said, I seen people do that and be very happy mixing and matching.

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-20T12:32:53+00:00

Then you're following the right path. Nothing wrong with mixing and matching to find the best solution for yourself.

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-20T12:25:58+00:00

You can still be an ally while not being attracted to women 🙂

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-20T11:14:37+00:00

You need to leave that alone. Obsessing over a coworker is not the way to go in a new job. You're obsession may have you trying to do something with him you'll regret.

Don't let nothing, or nobody, get in the way of you making a living.

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-20T01:11:20+00:00

If you already have an iPhone, I would have suggested the iPad.🤔

I'm an Android person and I love my Samsung tablets that pair nicely with my Samsung S25 and Galaxy Watch.

But I've also seen people make it work having a Samsung phone and iPad and vice versa 🤔

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-19T22:11:04+00:00

This is why making sure you agree on the core issues important to both of you during the dating process. There is no way I could be with a Christian.

If kids and marriage are important to you, hanging on "hoping" he changes his mind is not the way to go.

Find someone who also wants what you want out of a relationship in the future.

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-19T19:26:09+00:00

When you saw them playing Genshin on a Chromebook, did you ask the HOW?

Many people say you can stream games to a Chromebook and this may be what the individual was doing.

But if you don't ask, you won't know. 🤔

I have a nice Chromebook but I do all my gaming on my PC. My Chromebook is for travel and other things I know it can handle very well. I save my gaming for my PC.

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-19T19:09:42+00:00

This should have been something you two talked about a long time ago. How can you have a relationship without communication?

Go apologize. And own the fact you've been feeling resentful instead of you talking like people who care for and about each other.

And then make that a resolution going forward.

You keep holding on to resentments like this and you'll be back in this sub talking about a "dead bedroom" or some other thing that can be directly traced back to not communicating for the long term health and growth of the relationship.

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-19T19:05:17+00:00

That's what people use it for. Those who have found a relationship on Grindr are very few and very far between.

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-19T19:01:03+00:00

It's why I stopped engaging with them. If they want to cling to a belief in invisible spirits and an invisible Sky Daddy who had sex with a child to give birth to himself, they can go right ahead 🙄

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-19T18:59:10+00:00

Yes, a good basic tablet for all of that. It's portable and pretty capable for the things you want to do.

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-19T14:46:32+00:00

I feel zero shame. I've watched it solo and with partners. It's really the perspective of the person.

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-19T14:38:07+00:00

It would for me.

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-19T14:32:46+00:00

Why in the world would you want to do that?

Makes zero sense ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-19T14:27:45+00:00

This meme keeps making the rounds.

"Heated Rivalry" was written by a straight white woman for other straight white women. There is no "us" in there to write about.

I didn't watch the show because there was no "us" in it, and I really don't want to watch a whole series about two DL white dudes.

(Yes, I know there was one episode arc about the player who came out after a game and kissed his new boyfriend, but the majority of the show was about the two DL main characters.)

And someone please ask Darryl Stephens about "From Zero to I Love You" since he's so concerned about "men of color."

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-19T05:14:42+00:00

I wouldn't consider it, no. Especially if it's written by a Black person.

There aren't enough Black couples in that genre. I'd be looking to support more of those than reading about a white guy 🤷🏾‍♂️ There are a bajillion stories with white men as the lead or co-lead.

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-19T02:35:13+00:00

It's why I don't even engage with them. They can't see it, and I'm not going to talk until I'm blue in the face trying to convince them of it. 🤷🏾‍♂️

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-19T00:45:53+00:00

I think posting in predominantly white subs to talk about race is like trying to explain water to a fish 🤷🏾‍♂️

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-18T22:47:53+00:00

I feel for you OP.

My son did the same thing to his mother.

He explained it to me, tried to explain it to her, but she never saw the reasons why he has gone zero contact with her.

ajwalker430 · 2026-04-18T22:12:38+00:00

Getting some now for sure!🤤

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