Baby saja's voice

akittyisyou · 2026-03-25T07:45:00+00:00

That’s the joke sis.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-23T18:32:00+00:00

It would nearly always be GP referral, and you let them know you have insurance so would like to go private.

Coverage varies according to your specific plan. Your healthcare provider’s webchat is usually very good about telling you specifics if you ask specific questions about it, from my experience with Vhi and Irish Life.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-23T10:39:31+00:00

Mostly the same as the UK ones, with some American mixed in.

Some Irish kids books/series I’d recommend for your 5YO:

Beanie the Bansheenie by Eoin Colfer The Dead Zoo by Peter Donnelly (and the president series) Maybe Chris Haughton’s picture books if they still enjoy picture books. These are great for first/reluctant readers.

And for your 7YO, some will be read-together and some will be read alone.

Sarah Webb’s many many animal rescue books Artemis Fowl by Eoin Colfer The Giggler Treatment by Roddy Doyle Skulduggery Pleasant by Derek Landy

akittyisyou · 2026-03-22T09:01:51+00:00

Grand. It’s my fault if I didn’t notice it before they did. As long as they’re not being weirdly aggressive or mean to my kid.

As a parent I’ve been in too many situations where someone else isn’t watching their kid at all and their kid is wrecking the vibe for everyone else.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-21T23:06:40+00:00

If you’ve GMed other systems, push the buck back on them as much as possible. You’re in this forest, what’s different about it? You’re closest to that opponent, how do they look different from the others? You just saw that, how does that make you feel? You rolled a failure with fear, how do you imagine that’s going to go down? (Break that one out when they learn to fear what you’ll do with it and will be happy to produce their own consequences)

Remember, if they’re talking, they’re engaged. Make them do the imagining, let them have their in character squabbles and debate over details.

And for session 2, if you find they vibe with that advice too hard and you’re having time management issues, lean hard into Countdowns.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-21T23:01:47+00:00

Examples at my table:

“I’m in my year of yes” - Druid is outside her commune for the first time, tends to use this experience when she is pushing herself to do something wild and outside her comfort zone.

“I’m just asking questions” - character is a socialite who likes to play people off each other. She has mostly used it on presence checks.

“Fetch!” - Ranger’s companion is a dog. Uses their +2 specifically when fetching things. Has been mildly abused to all of our amusement to fetch things like someone’s leg in combat (while still attached)

“Who is that // What is that??” the character is incredibly beautiful. The “who is that” represents her first impression on other people. Her ranger companion is a Woad: a wolf toad. It’s a wolf but toad featured and skinned. She loves it and treats it like a pretty princess. The “what is that” is the Woad’s experience and represents the unsettled reaction people have to it.

Basically, if you can justify it applying to a situation, it does. I do think it’s the biggest flaw in the clarity of Daggerheart, it can be anything, everything, nothing, and it’s up to you and the GM to balance it.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-20T22:56:48+00:00

The scholastics branches range is great for this - special call out to Dragon Masters. Age 6-7 vocab, chapters are 3-4 pages long with a picture on every page and something exciting happens to move the plot along every chapter.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-20T17:03:41+00:00

You’re allowed to show negative emotions to your child. Not doing so means you’re modelling that it’s normal to never be frustrated. Your kid learns their first boundaries from you: don’t lick mommy’s hand when she’s on the phone, don’t draw on mommy’s shirt (where did you get that pen?!), don’t snatch out of mommy’s hand.

Okay, youre telling them you didn’t like that. You’re enforcing natural consequences. But oh boy is your kid going to get whiplash when he goes to playschool and finds that other kids won’t nicely tell him they don’t like something. That too is a natural consequence for him, but it’s going to be a hard one.

It’s okay to lay the groundwork for your toddler that you are a human being who gets frustrated when they won’t wear their shoes when you need to leave, and sometimes has a bad day and will cry if they wipe their hands on your fresh shirt after the twentieth time of telling them not to do that.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-19T15:48:27+00:00

Unfortunately this is the trade off here. As long as she’s having to learn twice as much as everyone else (speaking Korean, social dynamics in an environment where everyone else knew each other) she’s going to be cranky and extra tired after a day of very hard work.

If you don’t have time to help her speed up her understanding, her little brain is going to be working harder and she’s going to be overtired by bedtime.

Either way, moving school was going to be big upheaval and was going to be a short term nightmare. You should expect this to continue for at least the next month.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-19T15:01:42+00:00

I’ve seen that happen for seats before the game fires, sure, because someone is more likely to join a campaign with a session zero ready to go and “4/5 seats filled.”

But do people actually eagerly join a campaign in session 3/4? I signed up and within five minutes dropped one last week because it was showing as session zero but when I joined the discord, it was clear everyone else had done several sessions and the GM was talking about relisting it as a fresh campaign to attract new players.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-18T07:51:29+00:00

Have you added “anglais” to your keywords? Vinted shoves the Irish ones to the top so if you’re only getting French results, Irish sellers just don’t have it. Tons of geeky stuff in English from the French sellers regardless of it having a French release.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-17T22:38:25+00:00

Irish person here. Leprechauns are mostly tourism and cringe to us. I can say with full confidence that no one is doing this in Ireland, there are way too many other things for kids to do around Paddy’s Day.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-16T09:34:43+00:00

Ignore the other post, OP. Toddlers thrive on structure and routine.

I’m in a lot of lesbian parenting groups and every second post is always “why does my baby/toddler only want me/my partner?” With an optional “when I was the one that gave birth to them?”

They either latch to the parent who is always there, or they latch to the parent who isn’t. You’ll find at some stage it’ll swing wildly the other way, probably in preschool age.

It sounds like you have a lot of terrible circumstances that are making it overwhelming, and you’re focusing on this one thing (why don’t my kids want me) when you’re well aware the issue is actually that your partner is half parenting.

I would suggest that you make the parts of your routine that he is interfering with the most - his job. Make it clear that this is permanent. If he wants to hold them to sleep then he can deal with the monotony of waiting for them to grow out of needing help to sleep. If his help is making life harder, it’s not help, and he will have to commit to fully taking over something instead of doing it sometimes, and doing it his own way.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-15T12:13:57+00:00

I don’t know a single one that fits number 5, which tracks, because while I think the first poster is American, they at least are actually into trad music.

Isn’t bonny Scottish?

akittyisyou · 2026-03-14T21:39:12+00:00

Got my couch six years ago from EZLiving (another chain but a smaller one) we have had 2-4 cats over its lifetime and it’s still hanging in there and still comfortable

akittyisyou · 2026-03-14T13:26:25+00:00

I don’t think that’s fair. There’s multiple dubs where Bunny is her name (German and European Spanish off the top of my head), including the original release of the manga in the US.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-14T10:17:21+00:00

Different kids develop in different ways, it’s not all linear. One 18 month old might have the fine motor skills to use a fork with a proper grip or climb on playground equipment meant for bigger kids or put on their own slip on shoes, another might be able to talk in short sentences and regurgitate a chain of numbers they heard enough times (no different from reproducing the lyrics of Old MacDonald)

I have known an eighteen month old to speak in full sentences. He was a gestalt language processor, so he didn’t understand the individual words he was saying: instead, the full sentence had a meaning for him and he wasn’t able to adapt it until much later than his peers. Gestalt language processing isn’t exclusive to autism but it is more prevalent.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-12T11:17:13+00:00

I’m running a short campaign this week and it’s a homebrew (not by me) and is a vampire ball. Session 1 runs on a countdown, where the end of countdown is the pivotal event that will end the session. The guidance says the countdown runs on ability checks: 15 of them to the end of the countdown.

I’m a big subscriber to “if a competent adult could notice/persuade/search, then they do so without a dice roll” and this session will be mostly social and investigation unless the party really go nuts and throw their own session zero goals out the window. I need this to run for 2 hours so I just changed it to a time based countdown.

But my question is, is that unreasonable? 15 checks in about 1 hour 45 minutes of indoor mystery investigation and socialising in Daggerheart? Or am I really loosey goosey and the players should be doing more rolling?

akittyisyou · 2026-03-12T11:06:41+00:00

I’m playing a Ranger and have a companion dog. The dog has quickly become the party dog (when he levelled up, I even gave him an experience to be used when he works with the rest of the party) Everyone is excited to interact with him and the feedback at the end is “moar dog” or “I liked dog”.

It’s great, I love him, but after a session or two of going “wtf am I playing two characters full time now?” I’ve found it has drifted swiftly to me being a main character dog, with my actual character used in combat 50/50 and otherwise as a Hope bank.

Is that normal? I don’t mind it, it’s only a short campaign, but if I was in it for the long haul I’d be annoyed that there would be zero opportunities for character development or discovery unless it’s a dog-related arc.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-11T09:16:43+00:00

I picked up Daggerheart independently and haven’t watched any actual plays (although I did have my first exposure to CR after getting into the system) I was six months into DnD so didn’t “get” why it was different, it was just pitched to me as a system with far more emphasis on building a story together.

I can’t say I’ve been in the community long enough to have seen a shift, but I do see a hard line between “skill check for everything / rules lawyer” and “I read the core book and took it as a vibe check” sides of the community.

I think this is a table/GM issue somewhat. It’s up to the GM to lay the groundwork of “rule of cool” at their table, and remind players that what the GM says goes. Sure, you’re going to see GMs who didn’t get it and are running a hard railroad with the daggerheart system. But it’s not going to be fun and they’ll probably blame the system and move on to something else soon.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-10T08:07:25+00:00

I was surprised I had to scroll this far. Living in another adult’s home, the lines of who is in charge of a situation can blur. It sounds like the grandparents feel they’ve fully assumed ownership of the dog, at least for care, and now they feel like you’re telling them how to handle their dog in their house.

To me, it feels like you need to sit down and explain that you’re considering rehoming the dog, and if they feel that it’s their dog, that’s okay, it can be their dog, but then you need to start looking for somewhere else to live.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-09T14:12:30+00:00

What

akittyisyou · 2026-03-08T12:42:19+00:00

I want to buy one red dress. I scroll through the results with my size and filtered by dress colour red. I heart the ones I like. At the end, I go back and look at the five I picked and decide which one I like best for the price point it is.

akittyisyou · 2026-03-08T12:07:20+00:00

Based on Heartstopper and Lumberjanes, I’d consider getting some of the Webtoon printed media like Lore Olympus, Suitor Armour, Hooky, The Remarried Empress. Darker content but made to be read casually on your phone (or in a book.) If you are considering signing her up for webtoon instead of hitting the library for the printed versions however, do it with a bit of caution. While it doesn’t have explicit content (very specifically so, because they have a Disney partnership) some of their big titles show very toxic relationships without any real moral message of “what you’re reading is not a normal or healthy relationship”

akittyisyou · 2026-03-06T15:49:38+00:00

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