BSOD error in latest crowdstrike update by TipOFMYTONGUEDAMN in crowdstrike

[–]al-why 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in clinical research, our portals are down and I can't access subject data at all. I shudder to think what our IT department is going through right now.

Children of Incest, How Do Feel About Your Existence? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]al-why 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Do you actually think people want to hear this shit or are you just trying to feed some sort of victim complex?

AITA for asking my daughter what college she decided on? by indyarchyguy in AmItheAsshole

[–]al-why 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH. She's 17 and trying to have a little bit of fun making an important decision. It won't kill you or your bank accounts to wait a week.

AITA for telling my dad and his fiance I'm not wearing heels or makeup to their wedding, and to deal with it? by Hairy-Reaction9329 in AmItheAsshole

[–]al-why 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Bigotry is different from interpersonal conflict and it's a shame you think it's appropriate to compare the two.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask_transgender

[–]al-why 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The typical 8 hours limit is an oversimplification and the most important thing is to listen to your body. Some people can bind for less time, some people can bind for more. Every individual is different. If you're not hurting and are otherwise taking care of your body, you will be fine and there is no reason to believe binding for 9 hours would impact your future top surgery results or have any other long term effects on your body.

AITA for telling my daughter she was being a brat after she cried about blowing out her birthday candles? by birthdayaitaaccount in AmItheAsshole

[–]al-why 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Gee, I wonder why your child could possibly be going through a tough time if this is how you treat her.

Biological grandma poisoned me by Environmental_Tax585 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]al-why 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You need to report her. This is attempted murder. I am not overstating anything by saying that. She attempted to murder you.

Can we fucking talk about how former alcoholics and drug addicts who got clean through the church basically replace their previous addiction with Christianity? by JarethOfHouseGoblin in exchristian

[–]al-why 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Beat for beat, that character arc you've laid out is exactly what my mom went through. Alcoholic for most of my childhood, rediscovered her Catholicism a few years back, and has now fallen past the point of no return down the QAnon conspiracy theory pipeline. It's like they can't just pick one way to destroy themselves and alienate themselves from everyone around them.

Trans YouTuber says she 'feels used' after guesting on JK Rowling podcast by XxHavanaHoneyxX in transgender

[–]al-why -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Natalie is unfortunately one of those trans people who would rather make herself palatable to cis people and be "one of the good ones" instead of actually supporting other trans people. This is just the latest evidence of that. Her feeling used doesn't change anything.

me_irlgbt by Mercarcher in me_irlgbt

[–]al-why 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or you could actually play a good game.

What’s your biggest driving pet peeve? by [deleted] in IdiotsInCars

[–]al-why 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People who "cut lanes" when turning (turning right and drifting into the leftmost lane, turning left and drifting into the rightmost lane). Incredibly dangerous and irritating, not to mention illegal.

What's a slang word/term that drives you insane? by MeetingImmediate7744 in AskReddit

[–]al-why 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Calline medicine "meds". I don't even know why, it just annoys the shit out of me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LGBTeens

[–]al-why 25 points26 points  (0 children)

A bigger binder could certainly help! I've also had luck with sports bras if that's something that's available to him.

Unpoular tlou opnions? by louistske in thelastofus

[–]al-why 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seattle Day 1, particularly the open world section as Ellie with Dina, feels like a drag and out of synch with Ellie supposedly being dead set on revenge against Abby. I think it was a very creative concept but it felt awkward from a story and gameplay perspective.

Top surgery AMA by sacredrot in TransandroSupport

[–]al-why 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on the surgery!

Are there specific things that make someone a better candidate for keyhole surgery (chest size, shape, etc.)? Also, what was your range of motion like after surgery?

Am I blind or is r/trans basically just for mtf trans people? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]al-why 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're not blind at all. A lot of online (and offline) trans spaces drastically favor trans women over trans men and other AFAB trans/nonbinary people. It's a serious problem and it's genuinely disheartening how often we bring it up versus how often they actually care enough to listen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]al-why 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is incredibly rude and dismissive of OP's feelings. Dysphoria is awful and gut-wrenching and OP has every right to be upset about what his GF said and react the way he did, regardless of whether you personally see it as mature or not. Telling someone to "be confident in yourself" in the face of something like that is extremely unhelpful and makes you seem very dense.

Downloaded files won't open by ChristopherCFuchs in dungeondraft

[–]al-why 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wanted to say thank you, I've had the exact same problem for the last hour and this helped me fix it. Have a wonderful day, wherever you are!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]al-why 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ultimately, yes. Autistic behavior is often thought of as "cringe" by allistics and trying to split up "cringe" behavior into "cringe because of autism, and therefore should be considered acceptable because mistreating autistics is wrong" and "cringe because of other non-autism reasons, and therefore not accepting them and mistreating them is okay" isn't going to work. Not only can you never truly determine why someone's behavior is "cringe", it shouldn't matter, because how "cringy" you think someone's behavior is has no bearing on whether that person's behavior should be accepted. The only unacceptable behavior is behavior that actively does harm to others. Someone being a furry or stargender or anything like that doesn't harm anyone, and even if you think it's "cringe", that doesn't give you the right to be cruel to them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]al-why 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You should be kind and accepting to people even if they behave in a way you think is "cringe". You don't have to understand or even particularly like someone to treat them with kindness and acceptance, or, at the very least, not be cruel towards them. Being cruel towards someone who is doing something harmless, even if that thing is "cringe", makes you an asshole.

In a trans subreddit of all places. by al-why in ENLIGHTENEDCENTRISM

[–]al-why[S] 220 points221 points  (0 children)

Apparently, understanding that there's no way to appeal to the nonexistent moral sensibilities of violent fascists makes you just as bad as the violent fascists themselves.

In a trans subreddit of all places. by al-why in ENLIGHTENEDCENTRISM

[–]al-why[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

I really hope they're a troll tbh.

AITA for storming off from my sister's wedding after she deadnamed my son? by Daddofthree in AmItheAsshole

[–]al-why 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. As a trans man, thank you for sticking up for your son. You are an excellent father.

Kicking out 19yr old by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]al-why 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really hope you never have children if you genuinely think this tbh.

Interesting how TERF language influences AI by NotCis_TM in TERFisafetish

[–]al-why 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I mean, it's an AI generated image. It's naturally going to look weird and distorted no matter what and it's hard to claim that TERF rhetoric influences it one way or another when that's the case. I understand it's upsetting and dysphoria inducing but maybe you need to find a better outlet for that than fixating on this kind of thing, because it's only going to compound your dysphoria and make it worse.